European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - October 31, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 am ilanders dear Ann Landers i have been following with in Terest the columns about retail merchant who Slit slightly defective shoes handbags shirts etc., and toss them into dump sleds rather than give them to Charity because they fear that some recipients might return them to the store and demand a refund 1 am boiling mad As millions of other readers must be. The fact that you look the time and trouble to phone these retailers and ask for an explanation was impressive. I was not surprised however that they Al hastened to assure you thai they knew nothing about this practice and promised to put an end to it if it was discovered anywhere in their organization. Please continue to ride Herd on these merchants. They realize that bad publicity in your column could be ruinous. They know Loo that you speak for the voiceless the Little Man who has no clout. And this brings me to the reason i am writing. An elegant luxury hotel in Florida which i will name but Hope you won t because 1 have several relatives working there has been doing something similar thai makes me want to scream. Listen to this trays of pastries cold cuts fresh fruit and vegetables and cheeses often straight from storage arc thrown into trash cans untouched if the Buffet table does not need replenishing. This food has been paid for by the convention Host or the party giver so the hotel could t care less. It has already made a profit. The foods i mentioned arc luncheon fare. Left overs from Buffet suppers Are More elaborate. They throw Oul Capone Lamb chops Choice cuts of beet quartered roast chickens mountains of wild Rice addressing beautifully prepared vegetables and Pota toes and huge baskets of fresh bread and Rolls. The employees have been told that they will be dismissed on the spot if they arc caught taking any thing off the premises. One banquet manager said if we allowed employees to take food Home How could we Tell if they Are taking leftovers from a party or fresh food prepared for an upcoming special event that trash As they Call in consists of perfectly Good food clean and delicious that could bring smiles of gratitude to so Many hotel people who Are struggling with High prices and Low wages trying tomake ends meet with the lips they receive. When it was suggested that the hotel give the leftover food to inc homeless the salvation army or other organizations that feed the poor the answer was something about the health department lawsuits and too much  if you will print my letter Ann maybe in will raise enough questions and create enough havoc to turn things around. Unidentifiable Reader dear unidentifiable we called a dozen Large luxury hotels around the country and spoke to banquet managers and Public relations people. Many dented vehemently thai they were throwing out food despite the fact that readers had sen us photographs of loads of leftovers in the jump slurs behind Liliose very establishments. Granted hotels and restaurants have a legitimate reason to fear lawsuits should they give away food that is tainted but they could do a much better Job of distributing fresh food to the needy if they wanted to. 1 Hope the hotel managers who read this will rely link this policy. It s downright immoral to throw away food when there Are hungry people who would be thrilled to have in. Clot Arnott Tunis synd Cikel act Tau uru a Wak Omos your  Chi Tild to he m pm a Tow Liri ind , Apo 099i, . Forten teen age girl writes of her deception last summer f met a very Nice Guy who is 21 years old. I recently Learned that he was going Back to the United slates. As a Farewell we went on a Date inc weekend before he was due to leave. Things got Oul of control and i allowed things to happen that i otherwise would have been scandalized by. A lot of heavy pelting went on. Let me try to clarify a few things i am a sexually inexperienced 16-year-old High school senior. I went out with this Man because i was attracted to him and i fell that the feeling was Mutual. He made me feel really special and told me things that i later found out were not True. Everything he said and did led me to believe that he was falling in love with me. I especially recall him saying that if i could Fin time for him that he would stay for another six months. We made a Date to see each other again before he left. When i arrived at our meeting Point i was accosted by his wife. Needless to say i did not know he was married. He did everything he could to make me believe otherwise. I cannot recall what his wife said to me very Well i was too shocked and Ama cd. His wife could not have been More than is years old. I be spent some time thinking about what happened and i still can1 Settle on one feeling. I run through feelings that Range from being angry at him to pity for his wife to feeling Hurt for being used. I want All you soldiers out there to realize that what May simply be a game to you is not a game to us teen agers. We Are human beings with feelings and emotions just like you not toys to tinker with if you must use and abuse people please do it with people your own age they have a better Chance of recovering both psychologically and emotionally than we the Len agers do. Your inferno Light from within shines through my eyes you bring such Joy to my life never have i encountered someone who cares As much for me As you do my guide through inc mazes of love you offer awesome feelings and you deliver the most wonderful and fulfilling moments of my life Are spent with you in a few Short hours All of Floc fear and loneliness i Felt once have vanished with the simple adoration i received from you and the unending compliments you gave me just now All of my fevered emotions Alt of Floc Trust i had in you Alt of the Joy and satisfaction you gave All of the promises and stories you told me they All just crumbled and Are lying Al my feel they Are All that is left of what had been inc most wonderful experience of my life just now i Mcl your wife just now i have Learned once again to fear and to mistrust All that 1 thought you had done for me i realize you had done for countless others and 1 Hale you How Little did you think of me How much do you enjoy hurting and toying with innocent emotions for All the hatred i feel i can do nothing to make you feel the loss and inc pain Hal i feel somehow i Hope against All Hope that there will be Justice although i have no right to Call upon you lord let there be Justice let there be inferno. Name and location withheld respect for . Flag concerns Reader Tuple of Days ago i was walking through our install and i noticed hat our Flag was being  coup action an when i slopped to pay respect 1 became extremely annoyed by inc number i people who were either walk ing driving or bicycling right past me one women was walking towards me and when i mentioned that our Flag was being lowered she Only turned to look then kept on going. 1 could t help but think of my father who was a world War ii Veteran. He would have been horrified to see such Little respect being Given to the Symbol of our country As i m sure would Many other War veterans. In contrast i must add that while exiting the univer sity of Maryland Campus in Munich one can witness College students coming to halt while colors is being played on the installation. Unfortunately we have no music available to play in our Community while our Flag is being raised or lowered. I believe that if we could play colors or reveille this would help bring people s Anent on to the Flag however the absence of music should not prevent people from taking the Lime to pay respect to your nag. Furthermore it should make no difference whether one is military family member or civilian in regard to respect for our Flag. We Are All Over Here for the same reason. I ask everyone please take the Lime to pause in the presence of Folk glory As it makes its Way up or Down the flagpole each Day because As the afm commercial says Freedom in i  Tracey l. Wins cad bad a blink. West Germany writer asks army to re evaluate spouses t would like 10 add a response to a letter 1 read in your paper Abou Smolc spouses of Active duty military personnel. While stationed Here in Germany my wife and i were politely told to attend a dinner party mandatory fun party. As you hopefully can Tell i m a male spouse and As Mailer of record i m very proud of my wife. 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