European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - December 1, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Columns genealogy it starts with your family name by Dave Barry Knight tit rider newspapers today we re a info to la a about How anti can got involved in he fascinating in rewarding Hobby of genealogy which is i Haj study no people named Cjene. A i Hill no really it thigh somebody should do a study of jeep la a Imu Gene because there seems a he something Vang with hum. 1base ibis in close observation of my editor who is named Gene and Whu once this ii the in soluble truth used n Figarelle Light or in jri1 Lei n in Opal fish.1 Bui Lei s try nut la think a Bull thai now la s instead think Aboul Lic fascinating Hobby of genealogy Tahk a a mum from to greek words be Ikhi which i wins Nin on endlessly and by which Means talking about your ancestors As if you re inc Only or Finon f Vilh War Risany. Sound like fun Lei s get Tarledo the Fifiel Sleptis Usk Lermine your family name which you can  film by looking Many  credit i incl just below he expiration Dale. Your family name revisits  information about your ancestry because in the , which is where in e Hulk if your ancestors probably resided people wore Given their names based on whal they raid for n living. For example if your family name Smith your Early ancestors Al i blacksmiths. Field. Your Early ancestors wore shortstops.  . Your Early ancestors did Nolad rally exist. Dingle.,. Your Early ancestors did some lowly wirl of Vork  obviously Ridin l pay them Well enough to nol their name legally changed. Gel the idea Loi s a on whatever your family name is you probably have ,1 family coat of arms which you can obtain from la gift shop of any reliable tourist ally action. I obtained my family Coal of arms at Golor Landrt which is an attraction in Kimi mown fla., thai features a show in which a Trainer tangles headless plucked thicken corpses from wires and then rings a Betl thus causing trained alligators to come lunging straight up o us of the water and Swallow he chickens whole while members of the Public cheer and applaud Wilh far Mare enthusiasm than they Ever displayed for either 198ti presidential contender. The Barry family Coal of arms turns out to be a porcelain object about the size of .1 Beer coaster on which is printed the official family Mollo Boulez in Avail literally shake your Booty. Above the Molto is a Lillic shield with a helmet Anil a horse. These objects of course Date Back to when knights Rode on horseback in the Days of Yore which got their name from the incl that the horses left these Large Mounds of Yord everywhere Hencil he expo Simon Yore my of it. Your goal is to Trace your ancestry Back to his Era and ideally prove thai you have Royal blood which is considered a big  in genealogy circles although when you look at the a Irish Royal family Tui  to Pundur Why. Al sri you want to prove owl Youran Roelofs came1 Over on the Mayflower and fought in the  War. Preferably it the same Lime. This will entitle you to join exclusive organisations and in in meetings Ami social functions where you t in stand around in formal clothing and Chat with other people who belong to these organizations. Or for  fun you can stay Home and Staple your lips ingot i a bul first you need i Rennke up a detailed genealogical Char. Step one is to write Down the names of All he relatives you know of along Ullh their significant . For example i Don l wish to sound boastful but i happen to have in Uncle named Jay who used to play the tuba in the orchestra Al radio City music Hall. 1 Iii have a Cousin a ichor a Hui whip ii inv Dii the Ted Mack original Amateur 1 Lour playing the flute an event i remember vividly because to flex in from Wisconsin and stayed a i our How  before the Competition and the  in walked through inc Iron door my Mother s double Hillur exp Luscri with near nuclear Force Ihus turning the Elife Kitchen walk ceiling everything into the enchanted Forest of  chipped beef. So on my genealogical Chart i d write Down untie Lay and Cousin John ant then i d draw a dolled line Between them to indicate thai they both played wind instruments. See Haw fascinating and rewarding this Hobby is using similar techniques you should soon be Able to Trace your family tree Back to a specific Parom Clum. The important thing is to stick Ullh it. Remember the Motluk on the British Royal coat of arms Dicu Al Mori Dirril you ate my dog. Nothing i could possibly say would Tuaki-1 the it Iii More eloquently although i would like in Noty. In closing that the fish was already dead parents could give rudely weds a party later by miss manners United of Liture dear miss manners our 26-year-old daughter plans to marry soon inviting about 100 Kun cols to my Mulher in Law s Home near where we in cd when she was growing up. She her bridegroom and at the  Wili lir nude. The guests will be clothed. Can you believe it they say they got the idea from a to show we think it is one of inc stupidest ideas she Ever had and she s had some lulus. Lisa has always been Strong willed. Arguments Wilh her leave me drained for a week and leave her More determined. In ills Case i have used every argument i in think of without effect. Her finance does t seem As determined about this As she is but he s willing logo along with her. I parents Are As upset As we Are and Bianc everything on Lisa but they can do nothing about it. My husband s Mother the senile old Biddy does t seem to understand what s going on and just keeps saying if that s what Lisa wants.". Lisa and Tom both have s1""1 Obs. They own a House. They have made in Clear that they do not need our help and will proceed Wilh this nude wedding Wilh or without our Blessing but Lisa prefers us to be on Good terms and wants me to be involved. I would almost prefer thai they simply live together. She asked me to handle the invitations and i agreed. Is there a special etiquette Here Lisa wants everything lobe done  How docs one Ward invitations to 4 wedding where the wedding party will be nude i would Hope thai i could use regular invitation and thai be would Clung her mind. But what if she does to i can t Send out invitations As if everything will be Normal. I have to let people know what to expect Don t it How run i explain that we approve of a marriage but not the costuming or Lack thereof miss manners you get lots of letters. Have you Ever  this situation before How did it work out what did they do about photographs what did their friends and family think Are they still together do they regret in now would they recommend Ili gentle Reader my my. Miss manners hesitates to give out any prizes for worst original idea jul no she has not been Confron cd in Rob Liis one before. Furthermore it is her profound wish that she never will be again. She does not care to imagine the couple s version of the moment of Public. Affection after hey Are pronounced  while etiquette has been spared the task of Selling rules for whatever Lisa or some television show Mihl dream up there is indeed a general Rule that one does not Spring surprises on guests. The style of a wedding is declared from the senile men s clothing White tie Black lie suit a whatever of what Yuu. Have heft1 is a nudist wedding. To put in mildly this must be classified As the least formal of weddings and therefore such a formality As third person invitations is incongruous. For an informal wedding one invites guess by letter. Your Leller might  our daughter Lisa and Thomas Awil or. Are being married of saturday dec. 11, at notch Al pleasant Palms the Home of her grandmother mrs. Bon fird Lolon. 11 is to be a Nurmi in ceremony but guests Are expected to dress. Although this ii nol our Choice Al approve of the Young man.1. And speaking of approval. Miss manner does not quite care for the Way you Cha Atleri a your Mother in Law. Unless thai lady is really unable to rider ital the situation and must be protected from what she herself would normally find humiliating she must be allowed to make her own decision. Vou might consider insisting  you will skip the wedding itself perhaps he bridegroom s parents would like to join you. Then the ceremony can be held for whoever among the couple s friends finds the idea limiting. Vou could give an Ordinary reception in Honor of the couple a week Ori Wii idler to which you could infill your friends. Dear miss manners for years kept up a regular correspondence with a classmate who had moved to a Distant part of the country. Then suddenly correspondence from her ceased. Since the had been very ill i presume she died but i received no notification from her family to verify this. When my Mother died i went through her address Book and wrote to everyone listed to let them know what had happened whether i knew them or not. I believe my Friend s family owed me the same Courtesy even though i was not personally acquainted with them. ,. Gentle Reader yes it is thoughtful and kind. To in life friends of to death. Bul is in Eilbur thoughtful or kind to Lake offence from a guess surely you should want to inquire about an ill Friend and,1 if necessary console her Amity it is possible that they omitted ,1 task in their bereavement but in is also possible that your Friend is incapacitated and her family is overwhelmed Wilh her care. Dear miss manners i suppose i will Dale myself by asking about guest towels bul what is one to do when the Only Towel available is a family affair to enjoy visiting a particular family but they Are All prone id have Many problems Wilh infections. I doubt it just soap and water kills germs gentle Reader Why should you Dale yourself inking about guest towels would  want to Date someone who did t Wash up seriously the official solution to inc problem is to Call cheerily from the bathroom excuse me bul May 1 trouble you for a Lowel since no one wants Lodo this the usual solution is the unofficial one using toilet paper to dry the hands and then hushing in away Dettmer 1, 1968 fir pet Magazine