European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - April 10, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse The stars and stripes Page 11 Anri tenders dear Ann Landers i have some comments for the Mother of the Young drug addict who wrote to you recently urging parents not to give up on children who Are hooked on drugs. Her daughter she said had been drug free for is months and a she was thrilled with the Mira psf t that girl must have wanted help and this is very important 1 Hope you will publish my let Ter Ann because millions or Par _ cats need to have their Case put before the Public. Our son has been hooked on cocaine for More than two years. Our entire family stood behind him financially emotionally morally every Way you can think of while he went in and out of detox centers rehabs self help programs you name it. We stood by him while he stole our Money our jewelry household appliances and everything he could Lay his hands on. We kept trying to help him even after he betrayed us lied to us and Orock our hearts. Finally we came to realize that we were Ena Teri and that he would never change unless he wanted to. He is still a cocaine addict still using people still lying cheating and stealing but he is not doing these things to us any More because we won t let him we can t control i hat he docs to his life but we can control what he docs to ours. truly Happy for the woman whose daughter turned her life around but i want to Matte a Case for parents who have tried their damnedest and it made no difference i wont to say to them if you did your level Best and failed please remember that your child made the Choice to use drugs and he or she must make the Choice to Slop. A Philadelphia Mother dear Mother you have written a powerful letter and it deserves to of seen. 1 cannot argue with a single word you hive written. Think you for a meaningful contribution to this dear Ann Landers i am an adult student older than most at a Community College. The Campus is a sprawling one. Going from class to class can be tiring or worse when the weather is bad. Recently 1 was walking across Campus when i spotted a Young Man in front of me he was severely handicapped and every step seemed to require All his strength. He was carrying what appeared to be a heavy bag of books plus a big Box. 1 did t want logo Rushing by so slowed Down but finally 1 had to pass him. I wanted desperately to offer to carry his Book bag. He looked so exhausted and was perspiring profusely but t decided not to because 1 did t want to Embar Rass or offend him. My conscience has been bothering me Ever since. Ann should i have offered to help i would appreciate some guidance so i can do the right thing if this situation should arise again. Perplexed in east.willi5ton, dear perplexed us Atnel. I believe Only i handicapped person can id us Haw hear she would feel under the conditions you described please id us hear from you folks. We want to do what s right but we need you to Tell us. A Ara Eui Tomei Aind Otid Wijn Vul Ltd nil Thomaa oui Urazon pm ctn in 10 her m an ont stun and Sampei Apo on. A form Don t spread gossip letter writer urges what disrupts the lives of those around you More than a government scandal disrupts Washington what inflicts pains like Jason Voorhees and his Butcher knife ii is the proverbial knife in the Back from gossip. Those people within the Reading areas of this newspaper know All too Well that what we Nave Here is the perfect Breeding ground for gossip. We know How Small our facilities arc by the Lack of cafes selections which arc always complained about in this column and How Small these communities arc when a person docs something on base. The word travels around faster than i could Down Load my computer from a local bulletin Board. I think we May have stumbled onto the fastest form of message travel. No not a 9600 baud Modem word of Mouth gossip i the Only difference is that the information 1 gel from my computer is usually useful whereas 1 have hardly Ever heard any gossip that helped bolster any one s reputation. We hear it everywhere a lot of us even listen intently for it. Sometimes help add More links to the gossip it seems to be of when it concerns someone funny though it can really Hurt bad when it hits Home. The worst part is when gossip starts by Way of non involved people with whom we come in Contact daily the postal clerk that tells everyone you received a package from so and or that you mailed a letter to such and such a place. The class six cashier who tells which liquor some one bought and How much. The social worker who mentions the fact that Alco Holics can be helped after All she helped so and the Bank Teller who mentions that she did t think Mem John Doc were so irresponsible with their credit cards that they had to get a Bank loan to pay them off and close their credit card accounts. The list goes on and on and is usually a lot uglier than any example mentioned Here. What someone docs what mail they receive How they spend their Money Csc. Is their own business As Long As they do not break the Law. So Why can t people just do their jobs and keep their Mouths shut concerning other people s business and Don t try spreading gossip in disguise. An example a woman is having some problems and a co worker has to drag out the whole ugly scenario before getting to the Point they say something like this be Nice to Suzy her husband beat her and left her look All the Money and the Cor the oldest kid was caught dealing drugs. She has two younger children to Send to Day care. She does t have any transportation. No wonder she has been Cranky this scenario could be changed to a lot of circumstances but the Point is that this problem was Suzy s. What docs her life Story have to do with the fact she s been Cranky lately ii is amazing How much people know or want to know about the dirty laundry of others. Just any thing As Long As his bad. But who remembers the Good things that go on around us can anyone Tell us who the present Soldier of the Quarter is How about the present airman of the Quarter who is the employee of the month at the Exchange or at the commissary who recently received promotions who was the person most responsible for helping american Host country relations who coaches Little league and gives the boys some thing to do of gee i guess this Bluff in t interesting is it who wants to know the Good stuff about our fellow workers anyhow it s so Boring i won t get my Bowling team s attention telling them Good things that happened. So the next time you Start or pass along that Juicy Little dirty Titbit Stop and think a minute is your statement giving the other Guy a pal on the Back or a knife in the Back one thing about bad things is the pattern they Fol Low. They seem to follow the path of what comes around goes you could end up shooting yourself in the foot. True gos sipers show no favouritism. Everyone gets their turn in the barrel. Name withheld Bud sibling station West Germany troops forget the basics Reader says 1 would like to bring the following the attention of every commander and first sergeant who is in charge of troops that will be attending primary leadership development classes Ploc. Too Many limes in our Tours of duty we tend to focus on the essential things that make our peacetime Mission go. To accomplish this task we use lower rank ing soldiers. Don t get me wrong. That is part of their purpose. However the basics arc neglected such trivial hings As map Reading Drill and ceremony Doand Jcj. Even How to give proper physical training it. These Are very Basic things indeed. In fact when i attended Ploc i was shocked at the difficulty thai i and Many other soldiers had at simply marching troops and finding a proper Grid Coor Dinnini on a map. Not to mention that i was very surprised to find that there is Only one thai it should be Given. But As 1 was saying we tend to stray from the basics. I was informed during my attendance at the Academy that this is not a new problem and soldiers arc being sent with no Basic military skill at All. Now having seen this firsthand 1 can believe it. So i urge All commanders and top cos to take the first step and train the basics. Next time you have a it formation let an e-4 or e-3 give in by the numbers do some Drill and ceremony periodically and show them How to use and Orient a map. 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