European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - May 17, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 Arm Landers letters dear Ann Landers when i saw this in rabbi Hillel Cohn s column in the Congre gation Emanuel bulletin 1 decided to rearrange my priorities. If you think your readers might learn from it. Be my guest. San Bernardino browser dear san Bernardino thank you for sending the essay my Way. I Hope it will move my readers to examine their lives and make lists of their own while there is still time. If i had my life to live Over Somons asked me the other Day if i had my life to live Over would i change anything no i answered. Then i began to think. If i had my life to live Over i would have talked less and listened More. I would have invited friends Over to dinner even though the carpet was stained and the sofa was faded. I would have eaten Popcorn in the Good living room and worried less about the dirt when someone wanted to Light a fire in the fireplace. I would have burned the Pink Candle sculpted like a Rose before it melted in storage. I would have sat on the Lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains. I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and done More of it while watching life. I would have shared More of the responsibilities earned by my wife. I would have gone to bed when i was sick instead of worrying that the world would go into a holding pattern if i missed work for one Day. I would never buy anything just because it was practical would t show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime. There would have been More i love you More i a sorry. But mostly Given another shot at life 1 would seize every moment look at it and really see it and live it and never give it Back. Anonymous dear Ann Landers we Are Middle income parents faced with a problem that is plaguing Many other parents. For want of a belter term i la Call it the problem of the returnees returnees arc Young adult children we thought were happily married permanently settled in their Homes or apartments and Able to manage financially without any help from us. Now at Long last we parents can financially Halle Lujah live our own lives. Right wrong. The adult child arrives suitcases in hand carrying a pet or a child and announces that he she is getting a divorce and returning Home. These Days a great Many adult children run Back to mama and papa and assume that the folks will sup port them As they did before they married. Many of us Are just barely making ends meet and it s a real Strug Gle. How can parents protect themselves from children who return to the nest and expect to be treated As children when they arc in their 30s and 40s.? . Uniondale . . How can parents protect themselves against adult children who return Home after a failed marriage therein no Way except to just say no. This seems awfully hard hearted however and it seems to me that temporary shelter is not too much to ask especially if there was brutality or abuse. Parents do their children no favor however if they permit ongoing freeloading. Since every situation is Dif Ferent there is no Pat solution. Each Case must be evaluated on the basis of its own Merit. Los Angeles times syndicated columnist Landers welcomes vow  can Mil. To hoc m care of the Sun and stripes. Apo 09211. Us. Forces Reader says . Needs stronger Laws i am deeply saddened by the Way America has turned out and i Pray it does not get worse when my children Are grown. 1 have been in Europe for a Little Over a year. This is the first time i am not afraid to let my daughter play at the Park next to my House because of a fear that she will be abducted or there will be stray bullets flying in her schoolyard while she and her classmates Are play  of us americans scream and yell for the govern ment to do something about All the violence drugs and everything else but when they try to pass a Law to protect us and give us what we want we All Start screaming what about our rights or what about the Constitution As far As i m concerned we have abused our free Dom. We have left the government in a no win Situa Tion. If our government has to enforce a Law for our safety and Well being to Stop guns from getting in the wrong hands to keep drugs away from our children and to educate our children for a better tomorrow then we have to stand with our government to enforce some very Strong Laws. They will have to be hard Laws because face it folks if this continues America is really going to go Down the tubes. I personally do not want that. So sit Back and ask yourselves what you want the government to clean things up or to keep screaming about your rights and letting people continue to have guns and sell drugs to our children name withheld Geilenkirche West Germany aggie says he was misquoted in Story did you hear the one about the aggie who got mis quoted in the stars and stripes if you have not. I m sure you will especially if the number of phone Calls i have received from my West Point graduate friends is any indicator. In a recent article. Texas aggie stick together in life death i was quoted As saying More army offi cers have come from am than from the . Military Academy at West Point ." in reality i was Quot ing some of the aggie facts which incoming freshmen Are required to memorize and i repeated a fact concerning How Many aggie served in world War ii 18,000 aggie served in world War ii 13,000 As offi cers. This was More than any school including the United states military Academy at West Point . Leaving out the portion served in world War ii and implying that am has produced More army offi cers Overall really got some of the Hudson High clan excited. Maybe publishing this letter will Calm them Down. Scott r. Bearded Frankfurt West Germany editor s note and then there s the one about the red faced reporter from Western Illinois University who apologizes to the aggie for the misinterpretation of Texas am University s proud history and the ensuing headaches it caused. Suggests uniforms for Dodds students. Iju i a since Reading some time ago about Public schools possibly adopting uniforms this thought has been run Ning around in my own mind can you imagine How much easier it would be for All concerned if Dodds adopted a Universal uniform cafes would end a lot of complaining about its Lack of Choice in children s clothing. 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