European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - September 3, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Pago 11  Landers letters dear Ann Landers awhile Back you printed a let Ter that knocked me off my feet. It fit me to a t. It was from Areader who wondered Why a wife would stay with a Man who had another woman on the Side and pretend that she did t know. What was going on. Your Corre i j Sponden closed by asking Why a a wife or a sweetie was willing to2. Settle for half a phoney Balo  i have asked myself the same question. Here is my answer. I have 21 years invested a my marriage. My Hus band is a prominent professional Man Well respected and admired by everyone. Our children Are in College. We have a Beautiful Home and Are considered a Loving couple. The woman Bob has been seeing for nine years works for him. She has had two failed marriages and her whole life is her Job. I do not hate her. She is taking nothing away from me. She and Bob Are never seen together in Public. Tuesday night is theirs in her apartments i play cards with the girls. I have Bob s name his children the respect of the Community and More than enough sex. One of these years Bob will decide he has had enough outside activity and that will be the end of it. All i have to do is wait. Patient in Pittsburgh dear patient von have More Sisters out there than you know. Read on from pcs Monics i m sticking with my phoney baloney for the follow ing reasons. Financial Security. Respectability. He s great with the children. I love my in Laws. The Man i am seeing is a fabulous Lover. From Boston 1 stay with my husband although we Are no longer in love. He left the Priesthood to marry me. The Humilia Tion of a failed marriage would be extremely painful for him. Also Ann i have a great Deal of guilt and i Don t think i could handle More. From grand rapids Mich i stay in this marriage because my husband and i have been together for 25 years and it s easier to keep it going than to break it up. My husband and i arc Good friends. Period. I was never crazy about sex and in recent years it has become a nuisance. I am glad that he has one decent partner and does t run around. The woman he sees is a widow who lives next door. Very convenient she is grateful. He is satisfied. I am con tent. Milford Conn Romeo divorced his first wife she was crazy and married me. He came with a lot of baggage four Young children awarded to him by the court when he proved that their Mother was bananas. I raised these kids and love them dearly. After i invested 21 years in the marriage Romeo decided he needed a younger woman. He moved out of our Home and into her apartment. Three months later she took a Job that kept her on the Road half the time. My guess is she got tired of wet towels on the bathroom floor Stinky cigars and the toilet scat up he asked if he could move Back Intlehouse and i said of. Why do i want him because even though 1 May have Only half of the old Goat it s better than nothing. Comportment at Nijm Egen questioned every summer for the last three years i have heard an and the stars and stripes Ballyhoo . Troop participation in the annual Nijm Egen marches. This year i decided to go and participate in the Nijm Egen experience myself. From what i saw there is Little reason for the annual an and the stars and stripes  while the Nijm Egen marches Are worthwhile and exceedingly de manding and those who Complete the marches can be proud of the individual accomplishment on the whole . Military units did not serve themselves Well or create a Good impression by the Way they acted. Here is what i saw most american units did not March. They walked ran walked out of step pushed through crowds and generally acted As a Bunch of undisciplined civilians in uniform. Only on the last Day did i see american units marching and then Only near the finish. Many american units weren t physically ready. This was especially True of the air Force of which 1 am a pan. I suppose they thought they could hop across the order and March 4x40 Kilometres with Little preparation. I saw numerous examples of . Army and air Force people lagging far behind their units with no assistance or encouragement from their unit buddies. This was in Sharp contrast to German and British units who carried their comrades across the finish line. In my four Days i did not hear one Jody Call from an american unit perhaps understandable since they weren t marching anyway. I did hear Many Jody Calls most in English but they were All from units of other countries and most of those were Jody Calls invented by the . Forces in the past. The spirit of the greatest nation on Earth was not at Nijm Egen. What happened to old glory military units from most other countries proudly carried their flags. Even Many civilian groups were doing so the British Ford group was proudly flying the Union Jack but i did not Sec one american unit with the . Flag. So where docs that leave us the nil Mcgon March is viewed by millions worldwide and it is a time for the american forces to put their Best foot Forward. It did not happen in 1989 i Hope this year was an exception. If it was not if this is the Norm then the Light of Freedom is slowly growing dim. One final note i May not have seen All the american units. I started the March at about 4 20 . Each Day and finished Between 3 30-4 . If you do not fall in any of the categories above and did represent America Well then 1 apologize and i thank you. Capt. Ronald wagers Frankfurt West Germany writer comments on Vietnam photograph the article which appeared under the picture of the vietnamese children fleeing in terror from their napalm cd Village is somewhat misleading and shows that even after Many tears the american press still continues to falsely blame the american forces for Al the Nasty deeds which occurred during the War in Vietnam. I spent four years in Vietnam and As i did then i still resent our own press misrepresentation of the facts for the Sake of sensationalism on june 8, 1972, the North vietnamese army Nova held the City of Trang bang about 25 Miles West of Saigon now to Chi Minn City. They had Cut Highway i an important communications and resupply route with a blockade. The South vietnamese army Arvn tried unsuccessfully to open the Road and to free the City of Trang bang finally the South vietnamese air Force Naf not the Usan was called upon for air support. As the Naf air support arrived on the scene civilians and Arvn soldiers gathered on the Road to watch the air strike what happened and Why it happened is not officially recorded but the Naf air Craft dived on the area from 2.000 feet and dropped their bombs among which were napalm bombs on the civilians and the Arvn soldiers. The Vietnam Ese people on the ground were napalm cd by their own people not by the americans. The picture could have shown the aircraft with their Naf markings but that would not have been As sensational As leading the world to think that the Usan was at fault. At the time Huynh Cong Nick it was a South vietnamese combat photographer 22 years old who was obviously More interested in Selling pictures than in recording history As were the majority of the press people who fed on the horrors of that War. Your comment about Gen. Westmoreland commander in chief of . Forces in Vietnam was. One uncalled for and. Two. Misleading since Gen. Westmoreland left his command in Vietnam for duty As army chief of staff Many years before. I can Only surmise that when Phan Thi Kim Phuc. The unfortunate and innocent victim goes to the United Stales on her fund raising visit that the press will continue to hype her As a victim of american cruelly in War. Once again the press the stars and stripes included has opened a wound caused by my own country s allegations that i. And my comrades in arms were less than honorable in our conduct of a War Over which we had no control. Fred Macleod  West Germany Long fight finally produces go benefits this is a message to All the people who think fight ing the army for something they believe in is a losing Battle this is not always True. I got out of the army on a hardship discharge before 1 completed my initial tour of enlistment. 1 have the new go Bill and army College fund. When i applied to receive my benefits i was turned Down. 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