European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 27, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i m a 43-year-old woman with a i Job that requires some travelling. When i returned from a two night i business trip i found leftover barbecued Chicken in the fridge. My husband age 45 explained that he had invited his Young attractive student assistant to our Home for dinner so they could catch up on some paper work. She had never been in our Home before i exploded when Jim told me. He could t understand Why i was so furious. He made me sound like a hysterical nut. The following Day i received a letter from Jim s assist ant saying the evening was perfectly innocent that there was no Hanky Panky and she is upset because i accused her of misconduct. That letter did not make me feel better nor did it con Vince me that the evening was an innocent one. In fact her denial made me even More suspicious. Now Jim is angry because i reacted in such a volatile manner. He called me priggish and  1 am furious with him for telling the woman 1 was upset. I consider that disloyal. This is a second marriage for both of us and i want it to work. Am i wrong to feel that Jim should not have invited the Young woman 19 our Home when i was out of town am i being old fashioned and unfair i m too close to this situation to be 100 percent  in Texas dear hurting in my opinion Jim was out of line. You had a right to feel that be used poor judgment Jim s assistant has no business in your Home when you ire out of town. I also believe he should not have reported your explosive reaction and that the woman s letter of denial made her look even More guilty. He who excuses himself accuses  dear Ann Landers. I always told myself that when i had kids i would never treat them the Way my Mother treated me. Mom was Quick tempered and High Strung. She never actually beat us but we were slapped around a lot screamed at con stantly and were always being punished for sonic Little thing. I m 22 years old now and have a Beautiful Active 3 year old son. I love my child with All my heart but 1 see alot of my Mother in me and i hate it. I m always Yelling at Tommy and spanking him too hard and too often. Want to raise him differently than i was raised but it is difficult because it s the Only Way i know. I feel guilty and ashamed Ann. This Lovely child de serves a better Mother. When 1 am angry or frustrated about things that have nothing to do with Tommy i find myself picking on him. When Fie reacts i let him have it. I know if i Don l Stop doing this the boy will have Zero self esteem and no Confidence. He is a Beautiful boy inside and out. I Don t want to ruin his life but i m afraid i m doing just that. Please Ann Rescue me. I can t do this alone. What should 1 do where can i go i Don t have Money for therapy. Help me and my son. Move him too much to Hurt him the Way 1 was Hurt.  in .  there is help for you and bless you for asking. Mil Lions of others rued it too. Here s where to write parents Anonymous 6733 s. Sepulveda blvd., suite 270, los an Geles Calif. 90045. C los Angeles times Syndicate and creators syndic possible solution to unwanted . Foxes As i was enjoying a quiet sunday with my Coffee and stripes i ran across distressing news from South Ern California. It seems that our Brethren in Lala land Are afflicted by a plague of foxes. The article went further to report that the Little red canines rerunning Over the Countryside devouring least terns and Clapper rails and outwitting the local officials. Now i was at first sceptical that any feral quadruped could be the intellectual equal let alone Superior to a product of the californian educations system upon reflection though any creature that can recognize a Clapper rail let alone cat it is one up on most of us. In Days gone by there would be no problem. The state would offer a Bounty. Furriers would offer a Price and thus motivated the Rural poor would take to their traps and set afield with their guns. In due course the carnivores would be converted into warm coat Sand car ornaments. Even the wealthy could play a Small part As they and their hounds chased Reynard across the Fields and Over fences to the amusement of themselves and lookers on. However All this was before the great Sage Barker walked the land and today any importunate redneck foolish enough to muss one Little whisker on one Little Reader feels forgotten when 1 first read about operation dear Abby America remembers last month it excited me to think that someone i knew or perhaps myself would receive one of those cards or letters. As i continued to read though i became sad and a Little depressed to see who were going to be the recipients of those cards and letters. It was a Little depressing to realize that a Good share were going to the bigger More recognizable bases mostly in Germany. I m not taking anything away from those people at those bases they have their single and lonely person Nel too but you know the rest of us arc out Here. We live in Belgium the Netherlands the United kingdom Italy Turkey Greece Etc. I read an article about All the mail and goodies received thus far. This please is to the men an women who received those cards and goodies. When you write Back to those people to say thank you Tell them about us. For the individuals and Powers that by at the 435th, if you have any extras even though they were addressed to you Send them to us. We Are just Seager to respond to those who remembered All of us Here in Europe Happy new year everyone Carol Hubbard Raf Bent Waters England . If you can Send me just one bag i will distribute it to our dorm personnel. Pen pals i am 31 years end. My hobbles Are music movies outdoor activities Cook. Ing. Travelling gardening and sewing Mill Virginia a Ona zambian Curtit. Negro Oriental Philippines 6216 i am 25 years old and i would like to have european or american pen pals-1 like humor music various sports and people. Use Kirscher pc 1 Box 906 Apo new York 092934345 i am 19 years old and i would like to have pen pals. Josephine e. Tutor 199 color Extension Dumaguet City. Philippines please place my name in the pen pal column i am 30 years old. Warlita e. Hon Lomm co Maria e. Marl mat Silliman University Dumaguet c a. Philippines foxy head would find himself beset by the legions of the great god Bambi. When native Speed and guile have failed god s creatures have their ultimate de sense in cuteness. I propose a More current solution first the number of officials must be doubled if not trebled. This will Speed the capture of the offending foxes by allowing one official to seize the Fox while the other is being outwitted. Second once captured the foxes will be subjected to a diet of Tofu and John Denver tapes until they have ascended to a proper level of new age consciousness. Finally the reformed beauties will be equipped with Earth shoes Granny glasses and Green peace tote bags and sent Forth to convert their Fellows to the Creed of inter species love and brotherhood. Their new finery will also invest them with such overwhelming Cutie Udo that they will be immune even from the most inveterate neanderthal Reagan it Hunter. Such a plan will not Only ensure future generations of Gra rollians the company of Clapper rails and least terns but will do so without the shedding of one drop of adorable cuddly foxy blood. Sgt. 1st class Kevin Burns Frankfurt West Germany an unexpected meeting a few Days ago i went to Berlin for what else but to get a chunk of the Wall. You would never believe whom i ran into Chipping away. You guessed it of Ron himself. 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