European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 23, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday March 23, 1990 the stars and stripes a Page 11ann  letters dear Ann Landers i eave the enclosed letter to my wife on our 32nd anniversary hut we never had a Chance to discuss it. She died from a heart attack two Days later. When i was going through her a n0s 1 found the letter m her Bathrobe pocket. Please print it if you think it might help some of your readers. Here it is in my opinion we have a writer pleased with Down Home advice problem with our marriage think we should talk about it before it spins us com p four years ago when you turned 50, you decided that you no longer needed sex. You came to this conclusion on your own. I done to think i am being unfair when 1 say you should have Given me a Chance to express my feelings on the matter. To All outward appearances we still have a perfect marriage but when we get upstairs to the bedroom everything changes. You become a stranger. If i so much As put my Arm around you in bed 1 can expect an Elbow or a knee shoving me away. At 57, 1 realize that sex is not the most important thing in the world but its still a very enjoyable and meaningful part of marriage. Now that the kids Are gone these should be the Best years of our lives but they Are far from it. Compare our marriage to your famous chocolate cake. If you done to put the frosting on it is still chocolate cake but it Isnit As Good As it could be. This is the Way i feel about our marriage without sex. It is Good but something very special is missing. Please think about this and lets discuss it. Love. Ann i feel guilty about having written this letter. If you think 1 should have counselling i will get it. A no name or City please dear Friend your letter was a Good one and you should have no qualms about having written it. The Issue you raised was valid. You were neither unreasonable nor demanding. There was not a Trace of anger or meanness in your words. You have nothing to feel guilty about. If you Are still depressed when this letter appears in the paper do get counselling. Meanwhile please know that you have performed a valuable service. What appears in today s column is sure to spark some meaningful dialogue among Many couples. In a glad you wrote. Dear Ann Landers my right hand is in a cast. When i went to get a prescription for pain the pharmacist put the pills in a bottle with a childproof Cap. I did no to realize it until i tried to open it at 11 . After struggling with the Cap for an hour i phoned the pharmacist at Home. He came out and opened the bottle. My Mother is 85. She has a heart ailment for which her doctor prescribed medication. The pills were delivered by the pharmacy at 8 30 . They were in a bottle with one of those miserable Caps. After fiddling with it for two hours she became so exasperated her heart began to act up. Finally she called 911. A fireman came out to her House and removed the Cap. I done to expect brilliance from druggists but a Little common sense would be Nice. A still angry in Ohio dear angry i m sure those miserable Caps have saved some lives. They can be a terrible nuisance. The pharmacists should ask customers whether or not they want a childproof cover. Thanks for making the Point. I recently wrote a letter to the editor asking people to contribute their nominations for the Best Down Home eateries in the United states. This was the most interesting research project in be Ever accomplished to say the least i received a total of 49 letters and cards including a few notes handed to me in person Here in Naples. Most came from Central Germany with the remainder from throughout greater Europe and the United kingdom. Most letters were Brief and quite colourfully described the writers favorite eatery. Some responders gave me pages of detail while others Only wrote the name and address of the establishment. Out of 49 total responses there were 85 total eateries recommended. Of the total 30 Stales were represented. The most listings in one state nine came from Louisiana. One establishment was recommended by More than one responder. Stales which have no a Down Home eateries recommended Alaska Arkansas Connecticut. Delaware Hawaii Idaho Indiana Maine Maryland Massachusetts Michigan Nebraska Nevada new Jersey North Dakota Oregon Rhode Island Vermont Washington West Virginia Wyoming and the District of Columbia. Most interesting comments a a. Hang the Hilton right across from it. This is the Best food in  a a done to let the exterior fool you a a a done to go on a sunday unless you can stand to wait around 15-30 minutes for a  a if you re Ever in Ironwood mich., hop across the Border to Hurley wis., and Dine at. A a i had to walk around for an hour to make room for my second  a a. The place is known for its big hamburgers. In a sure you could t even finish the Small one Quot a was a native British person i thought it was definitely a bit of  a the serving bowls Are filled automatically no begging for service in this  a a it a located near the University. Go Jay Hawks a a. You must try their deep Fried Beer battered cheese curds Yum Quot a a. Great lasagna pizza killer garlic  a a. Is off on a tiny Back Road 50 Yards beyond where you would have turned around convinced this  be  Quot. If i Wasny to already happily married with two children and assuming you re male yes i am. Cd. I would have proposed marriage and we would have travelled and eaten our Way to Blissful matrimonial  i have All the information on a computer disk now and would like to continue should you run an edited version of this letter. I really would like to hear from the other states just a couple More comments in closing. I did no to know what to expect in the Way of volume of mail. I was a Little disappointed at the Small amount but my greatest thrill was checking my mail every Day and updating my files at Home. The comments above just barely scratch the surface. Many respondents were quite proud of their hometowns and invited me to visit longer than for just a meal. A the people Are wonderful and i know you d like it there Quot appeared More than once. And lastly my apology to those last 10 or so who did not yet receive a thank you card. A Carey p. Hendrix Box 142 a South Fpo . 09524 writer discusses food additives cancer done to be taken in by or. Scheuplein a done to worry be Happy school of thinking about additives and pesticides. A article bread Yogurt mushrooms spices no no feb. 20. According to an article in the october 1989 nutrition action health letter there is no minimum amount below which most cancer causing agents Are believed to be  even a very Small amount May increase your risk of cancer slightly. The larger the amount the larger the risk. So the question for carcinogens Isnit arc they Safe but do they pose an acceptable risk the Best Consumers can do is become informed about what is added to food. Read food labels. Know pen pals i i am 18 years old and my hobbies Are writing pen friends and studying. A Elvera Aguilar l. Rovera Street Ballayan Road Dumaguet City Philippines i would like pen pals Between the Ages of 25 and 35. I have an outgoing personality and a sense of fun. I am originally from Lancashire bul moved Down Here eight years ago. A is. Val a. Young 95 Ralphs ride Harma Swater Bracknell Berkshire r912 3lw England i am a 22 year old self supporting student taking up hotel and restaurant management. I Welcome All pen pals. Janet Alfafara b. Rodriguez is. Cebu City Philippines 6000 what additives arc considered Safe and which ones to avoid. Done to feel helpless a we control the marketplace. Manufacturers will Market what we choose to Purchase. For some Good information on food additives and foods that protect against cancer Send for a product order form from the Center for science in the Public interest csepi1501 16th st., new. Washington d c. 20036-1499. A Mary Owen . Clinical dietitian. 5th general Hospital bad Cannstatt. West Germany a Brown water reunion the a Brown water Navy Quot of the Vietnam War was comprised of Many combat units of the . Navy and was supported by the other services and the vietnamese armed forces. The Vietnam Brown water Navy will hold four reunions in 1990 june 16 in san Diego july 7 in Stonington Conn. Aug 4 in Charleston. . National meeting and nov. 11 in Albany. Ore. This group also has erected memorial monuments and gives out Annua scholarships. For More information write a chief Petty officer Dave Crockett . Box 5523 Virginia Beach. A. 23455 or Call 804 397-8967ihe so ipes european edition col. Gene e. Townsend Usan commander editor in chief it. Col. Suzanne l. 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