European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - May 16, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes a Page 11landers1 a a a Quot i it a i v a by  a a Quot a a. L f a r dear Ann Landers As i write this letter i am so frightened i can barely Type. What am i worried about aids. I am bisexual. A year ago i had unprotected sex twice with a Man who is Gay. He is the Only Man i have Ever been with but i am aware that he has had Many partners. Six weeks after our last encounter i experienced extreme fatigue flu like symptoms and a rash that lasted for several weeks. Knowing that these were symptoms of aids 1 went for a test. It turned out negative. I was told that the test was 99 percent accurate after three months but in order to have total peace of mind i went for a second test ninety Days later. That too was negative. After the second test i decided i was Safe and married a wonderful woman. We Are extremely Happy and she has no idea that i am bisexual. I recently Learned of studies that show some cases of aids were not detected for longer than six months after exposure. Now 1 am so scared to death that i May indeed have the virus and what is worse i May have passed it on to my wife. Please Check with your experts and Tell me what they say about this. No City or state please. Just. A terrified and anxious dear terrified 1 contacted or. Anthony Fauci director of the National Institute of allergy and infectious diseases one of the world s Foremost authorities on aids. This is what he said your correspondent having had homosexual sex has put himself in the High risk category. But the fact that he had a negative antibody test for his three months after the first encounter and then again three months later puts him in a category of 95 percent Safe. I am a Little concerned however about the symptoms he described six weeks after the last encounter. There is one More thing he can do. Get a polymerase Chain reaction per analysis to determine if he has a latent infection not producing antibodies. This is Ann talking even though this language May be too clinical for you to understand your doctor will  further recommended that you Tell your wife of your history and ask her to get tested. He also suggested that you practice Safe sex. Dear Ann Landers a a 1 know in a awfully late with this but please Tell a Cincinnati jitters to run from her Fiance As fast As she can. I know that Type. I married the same kind. This is what her life will be like if she marries him. Everything she does will make him angry. He will draw her into arguments so he can  she will say anything to avoid antagonizing him because he becomes so punitive. She will end up saying a i Don t know or a i done to care to every question. Her life will be hell. She will Stop seeing friends and family because he will pick fights with everyone and ruin every evening. If she shows any Joy or pleasure he will find a Way to punish her so she learns to be passive and Neutral it she expresses any negative feelings he will Tell her she is a crazy a a a paranoid and  Ann i saw myself in that woman a letter and i Pray to heaven that she sees herself in mine. Warn her please. A stars and stripes dear s and s you did and i thank you. C creators Syndicate the european edition col. Gene e. Townsend. Usan commander editor in Chiel it. Col. Suzanne l. Phillips Usan Deputy commander editor in chief Marie Kominicki Mert Proctor Dane b Mcdermott production manager managing editor circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized  Ara it the military services overseas. Contents of the stairs and he necessarily the official views of or endorsed by the . G. Department of defense or the . European command. A a or a a req the appearance of advertising in this publication i a de. 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When a couple gets married no one informs us about anything. Is it True that there a a difference if the death occurs while on Active duty or after retirement in be heard that most of the time the wife is left with nothing but i can to imagine this is the Way the military takes care of its people. In be been the wife of a military Man for 20 years now but have never heard this question raised. I would appreciate the right information. Pm. Bogers Fulda West Germany editors note t. J. Sweeny chief. Casualty operations Branch 1st personnel come he usar eur replies we appreciate the Opportunity to address a sensitive topic which most of us try to avoid but one for which All of us should plan. _ the amount of financial Security provided surviving family members upon the death of a Soldier differs for each individual based on the Soldier s base pay options selected by the Soldier and the circumstances surround ing the Soldier s death. Each Soldier is afforded the Opportunity to Purchase Serviceman s group life insurance Sigli for an insured amount up to $50,000. Additionally the spouse of a deceased Soldier May be eligible for a death gratuity payment various burial allowances burial travel medical care Post Exchange and commissary privileges payment of survivors Benefit plan annuity sep and other benefits too numerous to list Here. Some of these entitlements Are for Active duty soldiers and either expire upon retirement from Active duty or arc assumed by the veterans administration. For example Sigli can be converted to a life insurance policy after retirement. Some allowances for the survivors of deceased retirees Are paid for by the veterans administration. A Complete description of survivor benefits is very involved and must be addressed individually to take into account the unique circumstances surrounding each Case. Details concerning benefits and entitlements for surviving family members of soldiers who die on Active duty can be obtained from the local personnel officer. Information pertaining to retirement benefits Are available through pre retirement orientations which Are conducted periodically in All Usa eur communities. Inquiries concerning benefits and entitlements for surviving family members of retirees should be addressed to the Community casualty assistance officer or the Community retirement services officer. Writer seeks military a View of gambling every Day on an i see service announcements addressing the problems of alcohol food and family abuse. These Are All real problems that deserve to be recognized with solutions for help. There is one abuse however that i have never seen mentioned nor heard the military a position on. I m talking about gambling. You know the Slot machines that Are available in All the clubs on Post. In two years in Germany in be known four individuals who be been financially crippled because of their addiction. Please done to get me wrong. I too have played the slots bet on horse races and even taken a trip to Las vegas. In a not talking about people who occasionally put a few quarters of a whole Roll into the slots. In a talking about the ones who Are at the club every Day frantically trying to a make up Quot their losses. These arc the people who can to go a Day without trying to hit those Slars Wake up folks you never win. Of yeah Tell me How you hit stars last tuesday or got a Royal Mush a year ago october. Do you honestly believe that those clubs arc set up with those machines to give you a break not hardly. Gambling can and does for some people become an addiction. In a very curious to know Why the military does t address this Issue. Check out the programming from the states and you la see talk shows and news programs discussing it. I really believe that if the military is going to allow Slot machines in the club system then they should have a responsibility to ofter help to those who get hooked. Just remember they Don t Call pm Quot one armed bandits Quot for nothing. Think about it. A name withheld Vild Flecken West Germany a Reader wants information on Tougau fest a recent edition featured an article about a fest in Tougau to celebrate the meeting of soviet and american forces in april 1945. I would like to know How i could get More information on this event. My Grandfather was a member of the fighting 69th and i believe he was at this historic meeting. He has since passed away and i was left a copy of �?o69th infantry division a pictorial  this amazing Book chronicles the life of this division from May 15, 1943, to May 15, 1945. It includes descriptions and pictures of Battles up to and including the meeting at Tougau. 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