European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - July 25, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Wednesday july 25, 1990 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i just read a tragic Story m the paper about a Young Mother who Kle it her three children and herself. She had been talking about it for some time but no one took her seriously. That incident reminded me of something that happened 40 years ago when i was Only 20, and i need to unburden myself. My Best friends Mother was ii and very depressed. She kept talking about taking her life. Her family was too close to the situation to be objective and no one knew what to do. I realized that the poor woman needed help so i telephoned her doctor also my doctor at the time and explained that i was very close to the family and told him win at i feared. The doctor became annoyed with me and shouted a i never discuss a patients Case with another patient a he then Hung up on me. Two Days later my dear friends Mother ended her life. I never spoke to that doctor again but i often wondered How he Felt about ignoring my Call. I know i be came the pain and a lot of gut All these years and it resurfaced when i read that tragic Case of the Mother and her three children who needed help so desperately. Ann will you please Tell your readers what we can do and whom to Call when family members and even the doctor refuse to recognize symptoms that Are obvious to others the stars and stripes dear memories a tragic memories it is indeed unethical for a physician to discuss a with a person who Calls and describes herself As. A family. I do feel however that the doctor should have listened to you. J there is no Point in telling you what you should have done 40 years ago but if anyone in my Reading audience finds him or herself in the same position the Best course of action is to implore beg and plead with a member of the family to take a suicide threat seriously and see to it the sick person gets psychological help. It goes without saying the patient should not be left alone. Also care should be taken that there Are no pills or guns around. F understand your pain but virtually nothing can be done when the family and the physician refuse to listen. I Hope you will get some counselling so you can at Lone last put the matter to rest dear Ann Landers i had an affair with a married Man. I am also married two children resulted from that affair. I know the children Are my lovers because my husband had a Vasectomy 16 years ago. My husband and i Are having marital problems but not because of the affair. He has no idea. He thinks his operation reversed itself. Here is the problem if we were to get a divorce i know my husband would not give me child support. He can be very cruel. He has beat me up several times. I want to Tell my husband the truth about these two children. If something should happen to me 1 done to want him to raise them. I want their biological father to raise them. My Lover and his wife separated for a while but they Are Back together again. Where do 1 stand legally if i split up with my husband can i make their real father support them blood tests these Days Are 99.7 percent accurate. Please give me some advice. A torn up in los Angeles Dearborn up i think i know where you Are coming from and it wont work. According to the Law in most states the Man to whom you Are married when the children Are born is their Legal father and he is responsible for their support. Creators Syndicate the a and ripes european edition col. Gene e. Townsend Usan commander editor in Chuei it. Col. Sueanne l Philips Usan Deputy commander editor in Chiel Marie Kominicki Mert Proctor Deane b Mcdermott production manager managing editor circulation manager tins newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services overseas. Contents of the Siars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views of or endorsed by the . 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In the last year alone the United states has gone through More disasters than the iranians earthquake can compare to a earthquakes tornadoes windstorms Volcano eruptions severe cold weather floods and the drought spells. Its really great to know that we come from a free and democratic society where the people can forgive so easily and be so charitable. The United states houses some of the wealthiest organizations and people. It s just too bad that we can to take care of our own flesh and blood. For some reason As soon As some disaster across the world happens these so called Relief groups from the United states jump out of nowhere to give support. What i cannot understand is where Are they when the disasters happen in the United states Isnit it that Many of these people depend on the . Government to pull them out of a disaster maybe if t More concern when disasters hit the United states there were then they  be wondering Why there is such a Large deficit. Can the people of the United states really forget the Iran hostage affair if so How can they forget All the so called terrorist attacks by iranians remember Nice Little floating mines through the persian Gulf then every time you turn around they re screaming its the americans fault. A a death to americans and Pray god to Cut off the hands of the United states. Let their people chant this All they want and Jive in the rubble and aftereffects of their earthquake disaster since they feel our help is not Good enough for them. Please done to get me wrong i feel sorry for their lost loved ones. But really How can they have the nerve to blame the United states and its people i feel that these groups with All this ability to collect contributions should really take a hard look at their own Back Yard. Millions of americans Are in need of clothing food and shelter. But because our government is always depended upon in disastrous situations you can see Little help from these generous groups. So Wake up America remember your own flesh and blood. It makes a lot More sense to take care of your own country before you try to Aid some Unthankful country like Iran. A name withheld Karlstedt West Germany 1 was under the impression that natural disasters brought Good will and better relationships even to hard line governments that would lend receive a helping hand. I guess i was wrong. Allow me to clarify a the stars and stripes printed a picture on the front Page which depicted two unnamed individuals straightening an american Flag on one of the Many crates of supplies that were to be shipped to Iran. These Good hearted people were from a Relief group in Windsor locks conf. Being the pessimistically sarcastic individual that i in a 0 a times i envisioned the iranians burning the flags to Ward Oft the a Symbol of evil then gratefully eagerly is More appropriate utilizing the supplies that were placed behind l�?~01d  a no a i told myself a this will definitely improve relations Between our two countries after All How could a government that has its hands full with caring for its own people even think about past events Well i was wrong again. Now i know the feeling of getting a a pie in my  in a referring to the Story where an anti american newspaper claimed that the United states is partially to blame for the death of tens of thousands of people in this earthquake. Hmm this should be interesting the article went on a your people even under the rubble chant a death to America and Pray to god to Cut off the hands of the United states. Even those hands stretched out to  a to sum it up the iranian government claims that the United states was responsible for their faltering Economy to a Point where Iran did not have the financial capabilities to build a anti seismic Quot construction systems. So there you have it folks a lend a helping hand and they wish for it to be Cut off. But before you go off the handle because the iranian government wanted the hands of those two gentlemen who helped place the Supply crates together Cut Oft let s remember one thing. This news Agency is used for spreading propaganda throughout the iranian Public. Think about the families who have lost their loved ones a husbands wives sons daughters mothers and fathers. Perhaps they Are being led to believe that we were responsible for their losses. But what we must realize is that we have brought the iranian people some Comfort in their time of need. Many May have already realized this which probably caused Iran to place a anti american propaganda measure #57 into effect. Nevertheless should the need arise again 1 will earnestly contribute to the less fortunate a not because their government wants my hands Cut Oft a because its the people who feel the pain a sgt John Pompelio polheber Sieg Elsbach West Germany pen pals i am divorced and Haw children i would i a to Mam of your lifestyle Ikea and Dalikas. A Paulina Marshall no.1, Lang St Accrington Lancaster England i am a 31-year-old roman Catholic i am originally from the  but i work in Bahrain a Evania a. Car Caret typos pharmacy. 1012 Budaiy Road Duraz Bahrain. I am 21 years did. My hobbies Era Reading books watching movies listening to music Bowling and cooking. A Mirpah Miguel 445-b Malvar St. Davao City. Philippines 6000 1 am a 30-year-old Arias. I enjoy dancing and almost everything i am also inheres red in the italian language. 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