European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - October 19, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday october 19, 1990 the stars and stripes a a a Page 11 letters a sorrow expressed about Ramstein crash Arr Landers dear Ann Landers my Mother passed away recently. A Friend came to my Home a few Days after the funeral to make a condolence Call. She brought along a letter she had found in her fathers desk drawer after he passed away several years ago. It was from my Mother. In the letter my Mother asked this Man to please try to forget what had happened and to make a life with his wife and children. It sounded As if my Mother and my friends father might have had a Brief affair while they were both married. It May have been a one night fling. There were no details. My Mother was always considered a Paragon of virtue a pillar of society. My Friend confided that she was stunned when she found the letter but now that both principals were dead she was prepared to give it to me to tear up or do with As i pleased. The following Day i showed the letter to my sister and asked if we should show it to my father. She said we should destroy the letter at once and forget that we had Ever seen it. I disagreed. After All our father is the one who is still alive and i Felt loyalty to him should take precedence Over our mothers Good name. In my opinion he had a right to know the truth about his wife. I handed the letter to my father told him How i came to have it asked him to read it privately and then return it to me. Several Days passed and he said nothing to me about the letter. Finally i asked him Point Blank what he thought about it. I was shocked by his Cavalier attitude. He Pooh poohed the whole thing and said the letter did not indicate that my Mother and this Man had had an affair. He concluded that she was merely trying to discourage his attention without hurting his feelings. When i asked him to give the letter Back to me he said a i destroyed  this is typical of the Way my father refuses to face reality and it Burns me up. I spoke to my sister about getting him some professional help so he could learn to face the truth and Deal with it but she was not in favor of it. I then talked to a lawyer about taking my father to court and forcing him to undergo therapy for his own Good. The lawyer said he would take the Case but that i would have to give him a retainer of $1,500 and there was no Assurance that the action would be successful. I really love my father and want him to be an emotionally healthy person but i done to have a lot of Money to throw away. If you run this letter in the paper done to print my name As it might Embarrass my father. Meanwhile id like your views. Sign me -t.r., Long Island . Dear Long Island professional help is definitely indicated. Your father does no to need it. You do. The deep seated hostility you Harbor for both your parents Borders on the pathological. You need to get rid of it the lawyer who offered to take your Case for a $1,500 retainer is another sweetie. I am disgusted with both of you. Dear Ann Landers i wrote the following after standing in line behind someone who smoked continuously i smoked for 17 years two packs a Day while talking on the phone after dinner in restaurants in the Homes of friends and in dozens of offices. I had the a a rights to smoke and i enjoyed it. Finally i realized i was killing myself and quit. Now years later i want to apologize to everyone i May have made sick. I am truly sorry. Donna f., Calif c creators Syndicate this is in response to the letter a morbid picture taking is  i did no to have my camera or camcorder with me As he suggested most did but i did no to need it As i became one of the a morbid gawking curiosity seeking persons who stopped at the c-5 crash site at Ramstein. A camera could never have captured the feelings that came Over me As i walked into that Farmers Field and saw the burned Trees scorched ground and so Many parts of what had been a huge plane. There were Many Many people walking around the Field a Young airmen soldiers couples teen agers families holding the hands of Little children and a lot of older people like me. The strange thing was the quiet a the stillness a for All our a morbid gawking the scene i witnessed that Day was More like being in Church. The children weren to running or acting up the teen agers weren to playing music or talking loud even the German soldiers walking guard were whispering to each other. It How Many times have i passed up donating to army emergency Relief probably every year i have been in the service. Yearly i think i wont need it. My family is Young and healthy right wrong my Mother has cancer. I just returned from emergency leave. Acs Are was there when i needed it. The entire emergency system worked overtime to get my family and i Home As quickly As possible. I would like to express my gratitude for the help that i received from my commander and first sergeant staff sgt. Alomar and the personnel services Center 509th signal in a1 Fiore acs Are Anna Ricci installation travel office 8th support group and the soldiers and civilians of the finance support team 8th support i am a female service member who was a victim of harassment i received from my first sergeant and commander. I was verbally abused by them. My first sergeant would put me Down in front of subordinates. My commander threatened to Hurt me. I tried to solve the problem within the battalion but the problem continued. The harassment Only got worse. I filed an to complaint on my first sergeant and commander and the results were not in my favor. The sergeant who conducted the investigation told was very peaceful but heartbreaking at the same time. I kept thinking How fragile life can be a How quickly it can end. My heart went out to the parents spouses and children of those who had lost their lives. I for one said a prayer that they will find peace and also to please heal the broken backs Cut faces and broken Bones of those at Lan Stuhl. In a sure others did the same. I would like the relatives of the plane Crew who lost their lives to know that even though your loved ones were Over Here in a foreign country at the time they weren to alone. We cared and prayed for them As we Hope you would do for our family in the states. As for this writer please done to be so Quick to judge other people. You can to always know what a in our hearts. A a Mother wife daughter grandmother sister and aunt. Owci Bricken Germany group. These people worked overtime to help me directly or indirectly prepare for emergency leave. If it Wasny to for their efforts my trip May have been most Pond or i might have experienced unnecessary hardships. For those of you who choose not to support Are because you think you done to need it think again. There is a reason Why it is called emergency Relief. For the remainder of my career i will contribute to Are. A sgt. Charles e. Bricejr. Camp Darby Italy me a about the commanders threat a that since i did not have any witnesses to verify his threat it never happened. I told him i did not lie about it it happened. He also stated if i took my complaint higher it would Only dirty my name. The whole battalion Chain of command failed to support me. Now i am labelled a troublemaker. The system failed me. I just Hope no other female  have experienced the hopelessness of the system As i have. A name and location withheld Reader comments Walter Jacobsen of Channel 2-Chicago, recently requested letters from service members commenting on the present saudi crisis. I would like to take the Opportunity As a civilian Dodds teacher of Junior High school children to share my observations with the stars and stripes readers. The sons and daughters of military parents Are definitely carrying their share of anxiety and hardship. Not having dad or mom available to respond to special needs a both physical and emotional and yes financial too a does take its toll on the military child. Lack of concentration on academic tasks irritability fru Stra on saudi Impact Tion with mundane matters and often physical problems Are just a few symptoms of the stress that family separation creates. With the help of school and Community services awareness of these special children and a resolve to assist and nurture them is an ongoing joint Effort. Military or civilian adult or child we Are a fall in this together. A being proud and supportive americans we shall a pull through together. A Kay voc Nick Ramstein a Germany a appreciating army emergency Relief go contends that she was harassed the Stigi fwd european edition circulation 190,000 col Gene e. Townsend Usan commander editor in chief it. Col Gayle w. Fix Usa Deputy commander editor in chief Marie Kominicki Bob Wicker Deane b. Mcdermott production manager managing editor circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services overseas. Contents of the stars and stripes Are not Nec-52�?o? the official views of or endorsed by the . Government the department of defense or the . European command. 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