European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 21, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers a dear Ann Landers wednesday november 21,1990 the stars and stripes i Hope you print my letter. If my try can help just one person Ike Sipes european edition circulation 190,000 col Gene e. Townsend Usan commander editor in chief _ it. Col Gayle w. Fix Usa Deputy commander editor in chief. Few in min ski Bob Wicker Deane a Mcdermott  Autoon manager Malm Nunn pm intr p Lei latin uan Anor Dart inf Cir Quot views of. Or endorsed by the  a nent of defense or the . European command. Udnioi2552?r?1ce a advertising in this publication including inserts or Fenas ntr068 not constitute endorsement by the department of dec slar3 and stripes of the products or services advertised.  in this publication shall be made available for Pur origin off or peonage without regard to race color religion sex National am&0on&Quot Quot Yoth Quot switchboard 0615fr60iatsmfr5741 of 5823. Page 11 a some Good memories about Germany in a a chief no thu a Quot Story re a avoid the mistakes in be made it will be Worth everything in be gone through. I am 31 years old. Three and a half years ago i did something i will regret for the rest of my life. I was crashing from a cocaine and alcohol High despondent because of my failing marriage when i took a .45-caliber gun and tried to blow my brains out. I had abused drugs since High school and my self destructive behaviour ended in a suicide attempt the bul let went through the right Side of my head and created a Hole the size of a Silver Dollar on the left Side just above the ear. Miraculously god not Only spared my life but left my mental faculties intact. I am however a quadriplegic my once Strong muscular body has atrophied. I was once a skilled Mechanic. Today i can to even scratch my own nose. I am dictating this letter to a Friend thank god in a alive but what a terrible Price i had to pay i want to say to your readers if you be never used drugs done to Experiment thinking you la quit after a time or two. That s the flawed reasoning that got me hooked if you Are abusing drugs now done to be too proud to get help. Admitting that you can to do it alone is an act of courage not weakness. You done to have to learn the hard Way. I be already done it for you. A a alive and grateful dear grateful a thank you for telling us your Story. You be paid a heavy Price to learn a lesson you re offering free to anyone who reads this column. I Hope somebody listens dear Ann Landers recently one of your readers asked about the origin of the phrase a Pardon my  i am a graduate student in French at Duke University. Perhaps i can help. A Pardon my French is part of a Long tradition of International name calling practice by Many european nations. There has Long been a tendency to associate the French with anything sexual wicked a naughty a suggestive or decadent. By the same Token the French have had a number of curious expressions that Are insulting to the English. 6 a Pardon my French dates Back to the end of the late 18th to Early 19th Century when Anglo French relations were particularly strained. While the fledgling United states got along fairly Well with Imperial France England most certainly did not. That phrase has Long been recognized As an ethnic slur an unabashed Plov to downgrade the French. Dear student at Duke do cd Durham it no i have been bombarded with All sorts of interpretations. Yours made As much sense As any of them. Here a another dear Ann Landers you told a puzzled in californian that you did no to have a clue As to Why the phrase a Pardon my French came into use. You done to need a clue Ann. Get a copy of pay do feldmans a Book it a who put the butter in Butterfly Here a what he says Why do people who swear apologize by saying a Pardon my French it is simply another expression that equates anything French with sex and obscenity a i wench pos cards it French novels French kissing any French except French salad dressing which cannot be found anywhere in  dear . -., Berwyn ill. As the French would say a touche a c creators Syndicate the aircraft Arrier in i Quot the Nav it once aboard Tion desert shield Independent a a a Ltd a part of opera in Sonja Al it a a a Quot Unior his school at Rob Falcons Day. P Yed of a a bal for the Neisen Airt eld who Rill st hts a a orce stationed at Stuttgart Unitia which i think now is utilized by the army Xvi sort�6&Quot a by had a fairy of moderate amount of in personnel stationed there. In 1975 i was paths i Ancl about t0 Start my Sophomore year out at Nerson in Wien they closed Down the base to air Force personnel and we received orders stateside. Thear Eawh of Ive,often.thou8ht about returning to Natell i he a be a Sajor part of mgt life uti Foltuz a been Able to get Back there. The Clos Hythen usage Man nato base  of rot spin when 1w3s with a commando in a really interested in what its like now at Elligen Barracks and Kelly Barracks where i worked in the commissary after school for about a year and a half. In a also interested to know if anybody who a Over there now lived at Nellinger Barracks during those years or is still residing in the area. I remember a lot of families who were there and had been in Germany most of their lives. One other thing please. When i was there i Wasny to too concerned about pictures. Now that i look Back on it i wish i had some. Do you have Welcome aboard packages you Send out with pictures id really like to get one if at All possible. Thank you very much for your time and consideration. As in be grown older 30 year places i was at As a dependent have much More meaning than when i was u6�?T ,1y overseas assignments. Everything about Germany i loved and i wish i could see it All again. You can Tell people in your paper that being there now probably does no to seem that Good especially to the teen agers. But later on in life it will make a major difference and you la have a different Outlook. A chief Petty officer David j. Carey vaq139 Fpo san Francisco 96601-6423 a seventh grader gets message across Soldier in saudi Arabia. I recently received this letter from a seventh Grade girl in Johnston . I would appreciate it if you could publish it. A sgt. Rubin d. Brazeal operation desert shield dear Soldier How is a my life treating you i am a 12-year-old thpeni"8la and attend elementary school in the Little known town of Johnston . I Admire you Tor you must be a very Brave person to put your life in danger for your country. 3 i sincerely Admire every Soldier in the . Army l hey Are people who Are Brave and Strong enough to give their lives for their country. Your life is a priceless gift you have put in the hands of War to Lay Down for Freedom. I believe in the heart of every Man and woman there is a certain love for his or her country. You Are one of the Many soldiers who has shown that love by being willing to fight for it. Many of you i know will tremble when the time for War comes but i believe you will be solid and enduring enough to carry out your Call of duty. To every Man and woman in the service this is my word of encouragement be Strong cast away All fear keep Faith be dedicated and when the time comes to fight watch for the enemy with the Sharp eyes a of the Eagle. Sincerely Kendra Williams a writer says description was misleading i must object to a phrase your staff writer John Millar used in his recent article about the grateful dead. It is extremely misleading and no doubt gives Many impressionable people the wrong idea to say a a. The cruel hands of Fate a were responsible for the deaths of three members of that band. A person walks out of his or her House and gets killed by a meteorite that is Fate. But Fate has nothing to do with dying from alcohol abuse or a drug overdose. Pen pals i am 26 years old. I Hope to write to people All Oyer the world. I enjoy writing the Countryside places of interest listening to music arranging Flowers and eating out. A sue Kiev 14 the Underwood Eltham London se9 3en England a would like to have a lot of pen pals to write a Molina m. Radoc 23 a Luvis Llla Cabrera 26 912ginhawast. San Antonio Cavite City Philippines in a 16 and my hobbles Are music photography travelling swimming and ice skating. I m very much interested in pen friendships with girls Ana boys. The members of the dead who died that Way were adults who had control of their own Fate a and did no to control it very Well. That is the message you should have Given your readers. It is irresponsible to Tell them a the cruel hands of Fate were involved. A Gary l. Dikkers Sembach Germany would you like to be my pen Friend of you do. Please write to a Deren Zurkan atakdy9.10klslm a-13-a dare 66 Kat 13 Istanbul Turkey i am a 22-year-old chinese Mestl a. My hobbies include Reading sound tripping and watching movies but writing pen pals is one of my special hobbies. A Helen l Maglaya 63 san Pedro Bautista st. . 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