European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 1, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers dear Ann Landers last weekend while going through some family photos 1 found this old column. The message is As relevant today As it was 15 years ago. These Days when divorce is commonplace and teen age pregnancy at an All time High people need tangible guidelines. Please reprint his column. La Verne Metcalfe Detroit Dearl Vernei the essay you be asked me to rerun is one of the  frequently requested. In a pleased to present it again. Thanks for asking. A a is it love or infatuation infatuation is instant desire a one set of glands Call ing to another. Love is Friendship Iha has caught fire. It takes Root and grows one Day at a time. Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity you Are excited and eager but not genuinely Happy. There Are nagging doubts unanswered questions Little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just As soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream. Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. If is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you a to bolster your beloved. You Are saturday december 1, 1990 the stars and stripes warmed by his presence even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him near. But near or far you know he is yours and you can wait. Infatuation says Quot we must get married right away. I can to risk losing  love says a be patient. He is yours. Plan your future with  infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you Are in one another a company you Are hoping it will end in intimacy. Love m the maturation of Friendship. You must be friends before you can amp lovers. Infatuation lacks Confidence. When he a away you wonder if he a cheating. Sometimes Pou Check. Love Means Trust. You Are Calm secure and a threatened. He feels your Trust and it makes him even More trustworthy. Infatuation might Lead you to do things you la regret later but love never will. A love lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before. V dear Ann Landers a while Back you praised canadians for being so honest. There Are plenty of honest people in the United states too. Here a my Story. Several Reaita ago my family and i were travelling through Minnesota. We stopped at a restaurant in a Small town for breakfast. The waitress did t give us a Check so my brother asked her what we owed. She looked puzzled and asked a what did you have to eat a the two of them figured out the Cost. As my brother turned away be asked Quot Don t you give customers a Bill a Quot no Quot she replied a Spur prices Are posted to the chalkboard up there and we figure our Cust a can add up their own  from thalmay on my brother has said a i wish i d been born and raised in Minnesota. Those people Are the Salt of the  Margaret Berryman by dear Margaret that goes for the surrounding states too a the country a heartland. In a proud to be a midwesterner. Gem of the Day anyone who believes that the competitive spirit in America is dead has never been in a supermarket when the cashier opens another checkout line a c creator Syndicate. A Page 11 letters a year round Dodds classes suggested a recent letter asked Why Dodds cannot begin the school year later and adjust schedules to improve the academic Calendar and save Money. May i suggest an Cather alternative Ltd year round classes with reasonable vacations during the holidays and summer. There Are movements in that direction in various parts of the country and we certainly need to improve the education of american youngsters who now rank 17th academically behind even some third world countries. Psychologists Tell us that the Long summer break is detrimental to an effective learning Cycle especially in i Siath and science where we Are truly deficient. Most youngsters especially perhaps those living in overseas military communities have difficulty finding anything worthwhile to do Over what becomes a Long and Boring summer break. The Long summer is also a problem for single parents working couples and Community leaders who must expend Effort and resources trying to find activities for bored youngsters who might be spending the time More productively. With proper planning and scheduling it could be done with Little or no increase in teacher salaries. Administrators and support personnel Are already on a 12-month schedule. The Mam advantage however would be to provide better education for our Young people. They will need every advantage they can get in a world in which the United states is falling further and further behind. The military has. Taken the initiative in Many improvements in family life especially for single parents and working or serving couples. It could take the Lead Here show How to improve the education of our Young people with the added Bonus of improving Quality of life for everyone concerned. A name withheld Heidelberg Germany Long before. Saddam Hussein invaded Kuwait we knew he was a  he had chemical weapons and showed that he was willing to use them on innocent women and children. But before Saddam invaded Kuwait he was Quot our Friend the  president Bush said in a recent news conference that Saddam miscalculated when he had his army invade Kuwait. I would agree. But Why did he miscalculate could the fact that the current administration was fighting congressional sanctions against Iraq up until the time of the invasion have had anything to do with Saddam s miscalculations we certainly were not hearing the Strong rhetoric before the invasion from the administration that we Are hearing now. We also know that the weak and mixed signals coming from our embassy in Iraq could have caused Saddam to miscalculate. Yes Saddam did miscalculate but there is no doubt that our current administration aided and abetted that miscalculation and now soldiers May die because of this. We have protected the Supply of Oil to the West. That was certainly reason enough to Send thousands of troops to the desert. Now ius important to ask ourselves if the liberation of Kuwait is reason enough to lose possibly thousands of american lives. May we answer that question now so we do not have to relive the past. May we also finally learn the lesson of the Price paid for dealing with Ana treating As Quot friends the likes of the Samosas Marc oses Noriegas and the Saddam of this world. A John r. Crone or. Munich Germany a Reader praises 97th general Hospital i am writing this letter As a Way of saying than you. On oct. 121 had a very serious operation at the 97th general Quot Quot. Attention Fri i eau a Vij Ali Iuka Uwi Aulii Ai Tuv tin Hospital. I cannot Praise too much the skills i Ana Quot tender Loving care i received. Personnel in surgery Ward a300,1 was at All times Given outstanding care. I have so often heard people Here in Usa eur running Down the medical care Given by the military i have nothing but the highest Praise for those who treated me in my time of  pals i enjoy museum Art history music travelling Movleen listening to music end travelling language studies cooking and martial arts. I m in. A Donn Marta jul Boeuf the Navy 34mvenodav. 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