European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 19, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Wednesday december 19, 1990 the stars and stripes Page 11 dear Ann Landers i am a woman in my Early 40s, divorced and seeing ,11 a divorced Man who is 47, he recently returned from a trip Back East to his youngest daughter s wedding and is terribly upset. Brian feels that his daughter s wedding was spoiled by his a wife s behaviour. A Nina 1 carried on disgracefully with ,11 the Man she s going with. They danced in a sexually explicit hip grinding butt clutching Way that embarrassed everyone. Not wanting to make a scene Brian said nothing to Nina but he feels that he should speak to her now before their other daughter gets married probably next year. He wants to Issue an ultimatum forbidding Nina to bring a male guest even if she is married to him a and if she refuses he will not pay for the wedding. I told Brian that i sympathize with him but he should not try to control anyone cd see a behaviour. The most he should say to Nina is that he was unhappy about the dancing and Hope that she a gets the message a Brian disagrees. He feels it is his responsibility to his older daughter to do whatever is necessary to protect her from the embarrassment suffered by her sister. He d like to know what you think before he says anything to his sex. Please hurry. Trouble in san Jose Calif. Dear san Jose you sound like a woman whose head is on straight. With a Friend like you Brian does t need any input from me. I Hope he listens. Dear Ann Landers last year when i was 20 years old i was in a car Accident and suffered some serious facial disfigurement. In a matter of seconds i went from being a pretty girl to looking hideous. Needless to say i Learned in a hurry How society deals with physical imperfection. People suddenly treat you differently. They done to open doors for you. They done to want to wait on you in stores. They make you feel like a Freak. Thank god and some wonderful surgery i now look pretty Good and feel somewhat Normal again i received a sizable financial settlement from the Man who ran into my car and this is Why i am writing i would like to give some Money to someone who cannot afford elastic surgery but i have no idea How to go about it i now you have Good medical connections and would appreciate some guidance. A. A a xxx in a. Dearix a. A. What a generous move. In a acquainted with the Fine work done at the National foundation for facial reconstruction which supports the work of the Institute of reconstructive plastic surgery its address is 317 e. 34th st., new York . 10016, and in a sure a letter to the executive director Arlyn Gardner would be most Welcome. The surgeons there Are Superb and their patients can always use the kind of assistance you Are offering. Thank you thank you thank you. Dear Ann Landers. In a a 52-year-old divorced Man who has no desire to get married. In be gone with three attractive women in the last four years and had to break up with All of them because they pressured me. I always have been up front about my intentions. They agree to my terms then fall madly in love with me and press for marriage. The woman in be been seeing lately has three Homes and a yacht. She buys me lavish gifts and phones me daily. She will not leave me alone. I am sick of being chased and i need some advice. Please help. Mexico City dear mex you poor thing. Please Send a picture. This i gotta see. C creators Syndicate a writer says americans being ripped off this letter is in reference to a situation that needs some serious attention. I am an employee of the Hanau tax Relief office vat. Every Day i see thousands of dollars pouring out of the government s hands and scr  members hands due to incredible fees charged by. German vendors for goods and services this Community has a program that allows qualified service members to be reimbursed for imm Obirien fees rental fees incurred when a rental agent is needed to find them an apartment or Home. First the services Cher must have an invoice reflecting the Cost of the service. Then he must go through housing to receive proper authorization for payment of this fee. He then comes to the vat office to receive a tax  the vat office converts the Dutsch Mark amount to a Dollar amount according to the current a Mark rate. The  is then paid by the finance office. The vat office is employed at this Point to Complete the proper tax Relief paperwork and the agent receives the payment. Now Here is my Gripe the fees charged by the rental agencies Are incredible. It All goes Back to the amount of rent the service member pays As the usual rental agent fee is two times the monthly rent. So not Only Are the landlords getting Premium rent for their housing the rental agencies Are getting Rich. All this is paid for by our government does our government realize what a rip off this is the average in Mobilian fee that comes through the hartal office is 2,600 to 4,000 Marks. It amazes me that Uncle Sam pays this with a smile How is this justified As far As i am concerned the old excuse of the sofa agreement is not cutting it anymore. Immobile in fees Are just a Small portion of what peo pie come through the. Lax Relief office for. I was always informed that the 14 percent tax was already included in the Price of goods. Why then do vendors Send us invoices that have an additional tax added on if a person purchases a Vlock for 4 h Marks the tax Relief amount is 350.sk Marks not 4 x Marks. Docs the government realize a do the patrons realize a that Many vendors after asking if you plan to use the vat office open Quot Jack lips the  the merchandise some Relief do you know that the average Price of a 15,000-Kilometer Check up required for warranty purposes on a new car if done on the Economy usually costs 400 to 500 Marks t hat is if there Are no scrums problems. Recently this office had a customer who bad one Eric estimated for him went ahead with the repairs ased on this written estimate presented u Vax Check for the final Bill amount and when the Vendor realized the customer had gone through the tax Relief program he immediately charged him an additional 1,01x1 Marks. The customer is currently going through the proper Legal channels. There Are some very honest vendors and i know All the patrons appreciate these businesses but something has got to be done. We have no Choice in Many instances but to go through local vendors the tax Relief program needs some serious attention to insure the patrons Are not being ripped off. I want to know what is happening to prevent further abuse and mismanagement of this program by the German vendors. There Are instances when the patrons take advantage of the honest vendors and Tor this i am truly sorry but an a Eye for an Eye is not the answer a Holly l. Sch Mcloz. Hannu Germany. A basis for promotion policies discussed in a a member of the 82nd airborne div and in a currently involved in operation desert shield my question is Why does the president of the United states promote officers and yet cos Are promoted by the Secretary of the army i see no reason Why you should have two different people promoting two professional soldiers. The Bottom line is we re two soldiers and should be treated fairly across the entire Board. A sol Steven Rouse operation desert shield editors note Denis a Keating of the Market pen pals please publish my name in your pen pal column. I am 18 years old my hobbies Are sports being with friends and listening to music. A Jennifer . A a. A a Sor Pewee 8 a. 3800braunschweig a a. A a a. A a a. A Germany. A  a a i m a 19-year-old algerian boy. My interests Are Reading music travelling sports writing letters and exchanging postcards. I would like pen pals Between. Tire Ages of t 7 and 19.�?hocirte.mourad a. A a. A a a. A . 5eme group by. Place do tar Moi. Algiers. Quot. A. A Algeria -.-�. ,. A a a a a a Quot a a v a 1 am in a. Mid 30s and would like to correspond with people All Over the world. My interests Are writing travelling cooking and collecting postcards and patches. I enjoy sharing views about different cultures customs and traditions. A a Juliett Glorioso a. A. A richardwagnerstr.4. Quot a. A a Quot a. 8790 Lan Stuhl Germany x at am 22 years old. I enjoy travelling photography meeting people watching football and Paske Iball games and parties.-1 would like la correspond with people Between the Ages of 20 and 27. A Angel Mallard a Quot a is Cox 1254 Apo new York 05009 Quot. Ing and advertising offi ii office of the Deputy chief of stall for personnel department ctr the army replies because officers have commissions Only the president of the United states Cun Advance promote appoint them. A. A. T 7 7a on the other hand non commissioned officers Are promoted by army regulation not statute and the Secretary of the army has authority to Advance promo to appoint enlisted soldiers to the no ranks. There is no intention o imply that officer promotions arc held in any higher esteem than those of non commissioned officers.7important if operation desert shield has taught the men and women of the military anything it has to be that no matter what your military Job is every Job in the military is important in times of peace and 10 times so in a crisis a a 7 ? a v 7. -7 everyone in the military should be proud of his or her Job. 7 a 7.7 a 7. A. A a / a a a when operation desert shield is just a memory to us All i Hope that every Milmary member remembers How Well we All worked together a in All branches of the service in All kinds of jobs a to get America through this time of need. 7 be proud of yourself be proud of your Job. A tech. Sgt. Guy hop Wood it operation desert shield the St team tripes european edition ,. Circulation 190.000a a Coil. Gene e. Townsend.  Clit Perinchief. A. It. Col Gayle w. Fix Usa. J ,.  . 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