European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 8, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tuesday january 8, 1s91 the stars and stripes Page 11 dear Ann Landers. I am writing this letter on behalf of my sister who is the Stepmother of a 22-year-old High school dropout. I la Call him a Denny a the boy s father was divorced from his first wife when Denny was an infant. He has been married to my sister for seven years. My sister has spent thousands of dollars on the boy including $10,000 for a military boarding school from which he was dismissed for cheating lying and stealing. She has hired tutors to help him with his schoolwork taken him to three psychologists who told her he was full of hostility and had him examined by doctors who ruled out physical problems. Denny has lived with my sister and her husband with his grandmother and with his own Mother. He is now living with an aunt. He does not work does not pay rent and is Happy to be supported by anyone who is willing. My sister and brother in Law Nave found him jobs which he cannot seem to keep. They have supported his interest in sports without Over indulging him and now they Are out of ideas. Denny does have some Good qualities. He does not drink or take drugs. However he has been cruel to my Sisters dogs and horses. He has been seen kicking and hitting them. How can this boy be motivated we fear he will turn to a life of crime unless something is done. Up against it in Virginia dear Virginia Why should a 22-year-old work when he can live rent free and be supported by relatives obviously Denny has been spoiled Rotten. He is an angry disturbed Young Man whose life is going to be a Litany of trouble unless he is willing to go for therapy and come to terms with himself. It will take a lot of hard work but the rewards will be Worth it. The next thing he should do is get his High school diploma. Show him this column and Tell him if head like to write i d be Happy to hear from him. Dear Ann Landers recently i went to my to theron Laws Home and brought along an envelope of wedding proofs. I asked her to write Down the numbers of the photos she would like copied or enlarged and offered to find out the prices so one could order those she wanted. She was very put out and said she never had to do that with her other children because they had always Given her the wedding pictures As gifts. I told her we had planned to give both sets of parents a Nice enlargement it i thought she might like to have some others in which Case she could pay for them herself. Does etiquette dictate that it is the brides responsibility to pay for wedding photos for her husbands family. V a. A a a a a a a a a bewildered Bride Frankfort n y. Dear bewildered too bad you Are getting off to such a bum Start with your Mother in Law and All because you wanted to be especially Nice. Actually the Bride should not be expected to pay for All the wedding photos but now it might be a Good idea to step out of the picture and ask your husband to please take this hot potato off your hands. A a Gem of the Day from m. Huston Salem Ore a sign on the Back of a piano company truck please drive carefully. We Are All out of harps. C creators Syndicate letters to Ann Landers May be addressed in care of the stars and stripes Apo new York 09211, and they will be forwarded to her. A reply to shield letter made writer weep the other Day a letter arrived from the desert of saudi Arabia from a person i did no to know and Ttye writer did no to know me. Yet at my age in the 60s, i wept. In be read it several times again and its hard to keep from being weepy. Of course i responded the very Day the letter arrived and await an answer. The writer is a female master sergeant from North Carolina who has been in the air Force for 15 years. She a a single Parent with a 17-Ycar-old son who s still Here in the states. She would like to be Back Home but she pointed out emphatically that she a a a pretty cheerful  she knows her Job a its ground safety a if it does no to Fly and it does no to blow up its ground safety. She is career air Force and proud of it. Her father is retired army so she knows the military As probably Many people do not. Her letter came More than a month after i responded to a twice televised notice on abcs a Good morning american that there Are troops in saudi who really would appreciate some correspondence from Back  i wrote that Day. I took the Liberty of adding to the Basic address a male or female because i have two children in ,.one a male staff sergeant and a female a Captai neither of whom could wind up on the arabian Peninsula. It did my heart Good that the letter reached a woman a too Many people think those who Are serving us in the military Are just men. Master sgt. So a response her full name is reserved to protect her privacy was warm As warm a amp the heat in the desert and there was no self pity. A thank you for showing your concern in the Many men and women deployed to saudi Arabia in support of operation desert shield. Being in the desert Isnit As horrendous As one might think. I suppose our biggest concern is when we re coming Home. But us air Force folks hold on  a. A a. A a. A. A a the Young lady is experiencing financial pain in serv a taking pen in hand when writing a letter to the editor please Send it to letters to the editor stars and stripes Quot Apo 09211-4211 a or a a a a a a a a a a. Letters to the editor stars and Stripe Postrach 11 14 37 6100 Darmstadt 11, Germany please do not Send it to a Bureau or to our other addresses. These offices will simply Forward your letter to the main office causing a delay. Sometimes the people in bureaus Are out on temporary duty. Many Are covering operation desert shield if the letter is sent to a Bureau there is an additional delay until the reporter re turns and forwards the letter to the main office. Another reminder if you Send a letter to us through the Apo you do not have to use a stamp. Write maps in the Corner where the stamp would go or in the Case of desert shield troops write free. Also please sign your letters and give a Complete address. We will withhold your name if you ask but we must have it before the letter will be read. It ing her country a a mortgage on an empty House and car and insurance payments on a vehicle a that has t moved in  the master sergeant said she did t want to dump on me but Felt she could Tell her feelings because my initial letter showed my concern Over my children in the military. She was just honest but still held her Pride. Thank heaven in a not alone in having written to our people serving us in the persian Gulf area. A spokesman for rep. Barbara Kennelly d-Conn., in Hartford said that Between oct. 3, when records were begun Anco Early december More than 14.2 million pounds of mail were sent from Here to there meaning the persian Gulf. A spokeswoman for the Hartford Post office  break out the local volume but said the postal service is handling Over 400,000 pieces of mail a Day. A desert shield is developing into the largest overseas mailing Ever a said Linda Crabb of the Hartford Post office. A every plane in the United states could not move All of this mail in one  Between Early december and Christmas some 30 million pounds More were destined to go the saudi route. And about 90 percent went by military Airlift from a country that has t paid too much attention to Airlift since the Days of the Berlin Airlift decades ago. A Jost will go out of Mcguire fab in new Jersey Norfolk naval air station in Virginia and tinker fab in Oklahoma. Where is All this mail coming from it did no to happen during Vietnam. Its coming from people who care. People Are caring. The veterans of foreign wars Post in East Hart Ford got a very warm response from the efforts of the members and most probably the women in the auxiliary for three boxes they sent to a any  the Guy who responded said you people a took the  he said he and his buddies Only got the trickle Down to the troops but a Are really thankful and would respond with a a Little something to show their thanks. Sure its christmastime. But All this letter writing and packages being sent Between people we done to know and who done to know us personally started Back in late summer. Quot in Case someone else would like to join up with the crowd the addresses again Are for army and air Force any Servic member operation desert shield Apo 09848-0006. For Navy and marines its Fpo 098660006. Its that time of year. But so is february a a Ralph Villers i East Hartford Conn. Pen pals i am 10 years old and would like to have pen pals. A Maria Coila Robota a. 0129 Purok orchid3, called Nan. Dumaguet City. Philippines 6200 i am 29 years old. I enjoy travelling making rinds and nights out in now places. A. A. ,. A a staff sgt. Joan Pierre Dicks a a 317taw/ma age Rod. Deployed Apo new York 09606. I am 21 years old and my Hob los Are writing Bowling dancing cooking Reading and listening to Sweet music. A Yolanda g. De Catona. San Patricio orgy Banago Bacolod City Philippines / i am 21 years old and attend Wost Negros College my hobbies Aro cooking Reading pocket books and gardening. A Beton expectacion. Barangay Ala Gilun a it Bacolod City 6100, Philippines. European edition circulation 200,000 col Gene e. Townsend Usan commander publisher Bernard a. Zovistoski. Editor. It. Col Gayle w. Fix Usa Deputy commander Marie Kominicki Bob Wicker Deane b. Mcdermott production manager managing editor or curation manager thl3 newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication Tor member of the military services overseas. 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