European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 18, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse Niak Ann Landers 1 am a professor of psychiatry x and director of the sexual tvs function program at Loyola University in Chicago. Last september a 29-year-old woman came in to see me. Her husband had left her. She has two children under 5 years of age. She took a clipping of your column out of her purse and said a this is what i the column was about a 22-year-old woman smart and pretty with a College degree Loving parents and Many friends. She wrote a i started to have sex with an occasional Guy when 1 was 15. When i went away to College became wildly promiscuous. I told myself it was because i was away from Home for the first time in a new City free of parental supervision. Its been five years now and in a worse than Ever. In be slept with so Many men i recognize half of them if i bumped into them on the Street. In the morning sometimes i can to remember the name of the Guy in my bed. I done to know Why i do this. Some of them Are bums and the sexual part Isnit even you advised her to Contact Selt a addicts Anonymous. The reason i am writing is to Point out that the term a sexual addiction has become a popular catch phrase these past few years. People tend to believe that wildly promiscuous behaviour is an addiction in the Way that alcoholism is an addiction. This is entirely false. Alcoholism involves the abuse of a chemical which categorizes the problem As physiological. There is no such component in out of control sexual behaviour. \ the woman who came to see me had a manic de re Shive illness. People who have this problem Are often pc Active have insomnia sometimes spend Money recklessly and indulge in fast driving. I put her on carefully monitored doses of drugs and she is now stable Back at work and living a Normal life. Doreena c. Renshaw . Dear or. Renshaw thank you for an interesting and informative letter. Your explanation makes a great Deal of sense and 1 am pleased to print it. Again my dear readers have received about $500 Worth of a professionals time for the Price of this paper. Dear Ann Landers regarding your comment in a column about so Many couples waiting to have families until their luxuries were paid for this letter is from an older Mother who waited until the two kids in my husbands first marriage were paid for. My turn came when i was 40. I was married at 28 to a Lovely Man who was obliged to pay child support for his son and daughter by his first wife. I worked to help him with the commitment. When his children were grown 12 years later i addressed this prayer to the divine creator. A a it a my turn now lord please take care of it for he did. Our son now 16, has an energetic 56-Yearold Mother and a very healthy Active 95-year-old grandmother. I done to hear him complaining that we re too old. If you use my letter you May use my name. Jeanne Roper Garman new Orleans dear Jeanne. You sound like a great group. Your son is a Lucky lad. Your husband is plenty Lucky too. Tell him i said so. Gem of the Day a sign posted on the front door of a Home in Detroit a this House protected by poverty. There is nothing inside Worth c creators Syndicate a. Letters to Ann Landers May be addressed in care of the stars and stripes Apo new York. 09211-and they will be forwarded to her. The soviet Soldier is just doing his Job h by now it is common knowledge that the russian soldiers in what was once East Germany Are having a Tough time of it. They do not get paid much and they have a hard time trying to get by amid a growing backlash movement and escalating prices. I find this disturbing. A a. ,. 0. A \. I find More disturbing the general attitude among the self proclaimed a a winners of the cold War that ifs All a Tough Luck Ivan a the Media Are no help american forces radio and television and the stars and stripes have each contributed to the Din with articles about dissension in the ranks poor pay stolen armoured vehicles and soldiers Selling their weapons and equipment. I done to object to reporting the news but the undercurrent of snickers in some of Fth articles is just too much. The crowning touch was a front Page photo in the stars and stripes depicting soviet soldiers rummaging through a garbage dump near Berlin. I do not find their situation amusing and i do not like the Way we seem to gloat about it. A when i look at the soviet armed forces i see a competent Well equipped Force with leadership no less professional than our own. They be always had problems but so have we. If not for the sweeping changes Over the past 18 months we would still be defending this half of Europe in the event of War. The fall of the Wall brought about enormous challenges for them just As it did for us. The individual soviet soldiers id not get up tins Mornant and Sec a villain in his shaving Mirror. He saw a soviet Pat not. Gust a As you and i see an american Patriot. He Mav have been a draftee but so Are Many of our soldiers in a was. We May. Have signed up for the adventure or the training but one reason we stay in is to pay the Bills and feed the Kiefs. Our economic a a draft is just As powerful As their National service draft. The soviet soldiers pictured in the stars and stripes were once on the other Side. Today. There is no or Ivor Side As far As we and the russians Are concerned hello Media you be told me that their neighbors Quot done to like them that they re broke that then Quot morale is. Low that they Hock their equipment for pocket Money. Now Tell me who a helping and what 1 can do. I see a lot of people going out of their Way to support those deployed with desert shield. I saw communities gearing up to bring Christmas to soldiers and families Here in Germany. I done to know of anyone that tried to assist our former adversaries. It looks to me As though they need help As much As anyone. I certainly would not. Begrudge them some of the clothes in be set aside for the acs. Or Quot a few of Fth cans i bought for scouting for to Ood. Sharing a Little of our wealth wont Hurt us and might favourably influences free of them for America and . A a David s. Lii Germany a Reader asks Why . Bears the Burden i would like to express my opinions on the deployment of american soldiers marines airmen and naval personnel Here. Why do we americans have to be the country with the largest amount of service members deployed Here does president Bush not understand the. Consequences of his actions. He has threatened to plunge the United Stales in to yet another conflict Quot. A the supposed , Force is comprised of Many nations of the free world. It is perhaps the greatest Force massed against one nation since ww1i. Why docs the United states always feel the need to Send More spend More and Promise More than any other nation at their time of need a Kuwait has been invaded and pillaged by the iraqis and if will Cost millions to repair the damage. But the damage done to this tiny nation will multiply 1 1 fold should a War erupt. And who will foot the Bill at the Eird Good old United states of course a just As we Hilve done after every War or conflict we be Luul Over the course of history / when we were deployed Here we were prepared to pet end the saudi nation from aggression by the iraqi army. We have Long since accomplished that Mission and More. But yet the United states is troops to the Middle East while the rest of the world sits by with their few forces and cheers us on is the Freedom of this tiny nation Worth the economic crisis we face at Home we need to take a Good look at where our priorities Lay a with the world or our own nation a name withheld operation desert shield a writer questions need for military Banks Why do we need military banking a Money Market fund will pay 2 percent higher As a general Rule than a savings account an you can write checks free. A cashier at the local Exchange can Cash a Check and finance will give you the Best Deal available to Exchange to Marks. A Hometown Banks and credit unions can get you Loans. I just done to understand Why we need military banking. Perhaps most people done to know they need Only keep a Hometown Bank or credit Union account and do three things. 1. Go to the Library and look up the november 1990 Issue of Money Magazine for the latest information and comparisons regarding Money Market funds. 2. Once you be identified which Monck Maikut Lund Host suits you ask the librarian for the a Quot volume so you can look up the address. Write Tor a Complete prospectus and an application. 3. Start As simply As signing up for the Cocci rom Transfer of funds from your Hometown Bank or credit Union. The Only time to stand in a Bank or Reedil Umoru line is to get your Clearing papers initiated. As a Noie Hanks and credit unions May advertise Money Mikii accounts however Lees Are usually higher to bring Down the Overall interest your Money can earn. A staff sgt. William g. Yates or. Vilseck Germany. The St is an. 1. European edition circulation 200,000. Col. Gene e. Townsend. Usan. A commander publisher Bernard a. Zovistoski. A. Editor. It col Gayle w. Fix Usa a Deputy commander. A Marie Kominicki Bob Wicker Deane b. 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