European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 12, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse Tuesday March 12, 1991 the stars and stripes a Page 19 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers after a a relatively trouble free life we Are faced with a problem so bizarre that it defies description. Our three children were raised in the same household. We showed no favouritism. All Are grown and have left Home. Two Are response ble adults successful in their chosen Fields have Beautiful families of their own and Are a Joy to us the third i la Call him a Robert a has decided that he was sexually abused As an infant by five adult members of the family the principal abusers being his father and me. Robert wants his father and me to meet with him and his analyst who says one of his patients can recall being in his mothers womb. We agree provided we Are allowed to bring other family members. They say. we do not want to be subjected to the Sumilat ing a a confrontation therapy that you wrote about recently in your column. Please advise us. Strictly Anonymous dear a the meeting your son and his analyst have requested has the potential of a Gen. Custer Type massacre with no survivors. A it is not uncommon for a person undergoing psychotherapy to dredge up forgotten incidents from Early childhood especially the unpleasant and threatening ones. But a a Babyhood is another Kettle Offish. That floating in the womb Story is one in be heard before and it never seemed plausible to me. I spoke with today a crossword dear Abby dear Abby i must take Issue with your answer to a unfinished business a in which you said a it is appropriate for the Kin of the deceased always to have the final say regarding funeral i have a male Friend whose Lover of 14 years died recently lets Call the Lover Sam. While Sam was alive his parents had virtually disowned him refusing to acknowledge that he was Gay or that he had been the devoted live in companion of my Friend for most of his adult life. Same a parents had not spoken to their son in years. Yet when Sam died they swooped in took his body away in total disregard for same a wishes and my friends feelings and buried Sam in a town he had hoped never to see again Why is it a a appropriate for parents to do what they did think about it Abby there Are Many cases when friends and lovers not parents Are the ones who deserve to have the final say. Boiling in Buffalo dear boiling. Considering the circumstances it was not appropriate a indeed it was cruel presumptuous and hypocritical a for same a parents to have acted As they did. In cases where lovers or friends Are closer to the de or. Roy Menninger president of the Menninger foundation in Topeka kan., and he does no to buy the womb Story either. Menninger suggested a sensible and practical solution to your dilemma. This is what he said a Tell your son that you and your husband will agree to meet with him and a mental health professional or social worker w to is not known to either of you a a one who would be totally impartial chosen by your family physician or Clergyman. Each of you could then present your Side of the dear Ann Landers your correspondent from Oakland is All wet. I refer to the woman who had some ugly things to say about her Mother in Law. The couple had to sign papers and put up collateral before she would lend them Money to buy a House. I Learned the hard Way and i la never make that mistake again. I loaned Money to my adult children on Good Faith. Then tax time came around. My spa told me that since i did not have a signed note the internal Revenue service considered that Money a gift. 1 was required to pay a hefty gift tax. The woman who wrote did a serious injustice to All of us who want to help our children but can to afford to hand Over Money and pay a gift tax to Boot. My advice is whenever you loan Money get a signed note. B.b., Seattle dear . Right on. As my dear father used to say a a in a sure you re honest but lets Cut the cards creators Syndicate ceased than his or her Kin individuals in same a situation should give certified documentation to their attorneys and to their lovers indicating that he or she shall be in charge of funeral and burial arrangements and possibly the disposition of the estate. Dear Abby now that you arc asking your readers to write to our men and women in the Middle East i just had to write this letter. It is really a belated thank you for a letter you had in your column in 1967, asking your readers to write to the servicemen who were stationed in Thailand during the Vietnam War. My father read that letter in your column and urged me to write thinking it was the patriotic thing to do i wrote to a any Serviceman and it ended up in the hands of a Young Man named Andersen. He answered my letter and it was the beginning of a very romantic correspondence. I want you to know that As the result of that correspondence i have been happily married for 21 years to the Serviceman who answered my letter. Linda Andersen san Diego dear Linda you belong to a very Large club. I could write a Book about the couples who found each other through a operation dear and one Day i May. Please Send me your husbands Given name rank and serial number for my records. C Universal press Syndicate across a 1 bearing s Anagram for toss 9 fall a behind 12 As a As a painted ship 13 outrigger Canoe 14 nigerian 15 Beach employee 17 passing. 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