European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 13, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tips on handling a bully by Marianne arid Stephen w. Gar Berand Robyn Freedman Spizman. Cox news  this problem has me driving my child to and from school every Day we Are new to this Community. My 9-year-old son is ,. Afraid to ride the bus to school because another boy on the bus beats up on him. This bully is the same age As my son and really smaller than he is but he still seeks out my son to pick on. A a a a. A a. I called this boys Mother who proceeded to Tell me. That she did no to consider this much of a problem a she has other children who Are in More trouble i really think my son needs to handle this himself. There will always be bullies. The bus Driver has written this kid up once a two More times and he s off the bus. \. Driving mom dear driving mom maybe your son will be Lucky. While you Are driving him to and from school perhaps -. The bully will be written up two More times so he s Oft the bus. Quot a a a Quot a v7 a a. --.a-.-.-,-a in the Long run though your son must be Able to stand up for himself. Since he is Only 9. However it is of to get a Little help. Talk with the school officials. If this child is so a a Quot. Aggressive that you must drive your son to school surely he is a problem in other a s. Talk to the principal about a your concerns. A a a. A a enlist the help of a Lew friends your son is now and. A needs time to Dove lop a Large network of friends. Ask his. Teacher to suggest a few youngsters who ride the same bus and who would make Good friends for your child. It a introduce the children. Maybe  and his new 7. Friends can present a unified front. -. A a a a a 7 role play. The Best defense is a Strong offence -. You. Slated thai the offender is actually smaller Ihan your son. It is Likely however that tie is Strong for . The a.7 a quickest Way to deflate this boy is with a  -�?�., a ask your child to  is the bully. You play your. Son. As you act out the scene provide How options for. Your son use a Strong stance a new comeback and a,/1 Nasty look to forestall the situation a a a.  roles so your son can. Try on your suggestions for instance suggest that your son try a new. Lack look the bully right in the Eye and say Quot i know what you Are a trying to do and it won t  or sometimes a strongly slated question a such As. Quot Why do you say that a a May break the Cycle. A a a a. Quot if the bully uses More words than brawn you must help your child become desensitized to the taunts. Make a list of taunts that bother your child. Have him rank them in terms of How offensive he finds them. Then use the a. Taunts yourself until they Don t bother your son anymore. Give him a new focus., introduce him to a new sport or activity. If Many of his Peers Are into boy scouts or. Soccer suggest that he join the group-karaters.-another-. Suggestion. As a sport it often leads to self Confidence. A of course self defense rather than inflicting harm is the goal of the exercise. ,. A. A a a a a. A help him adopt a new stance. Many children become the butt of a bully s interest because they seem to have a a Quot pick on me Quot written on their backs consider your son s posture. Does it look confident or does his stooped.  .annouhce.defeat? work on building his self Confidence generally and then More specifically by having him  tall a a a a a a a a a a better sleep for baby readers question my 7-month-old daughter has always had trouble falling and staying asleep but lately it has worsened. A a a a a a a a. Suspect she is going through separation anxiety because she cries when heave the room sometimes and i am the Only one she wants. I done to want to Hurt her by letting her cry at night she wakes up three to four a times Between 8 . And 8  i want a her to sleep better for her Sake and mine. A . A dear mrs. . Every child has an individual sleep pattern your goal is to help your child team How to play in bed and fall asleep when she , or to fall Back a asleep As the Case May be a. 7 a children normally Are about 8 months old before they., will get upset if a familiar face is not around. So it is not unreasonable to speculate that your child is experiencing some pangs of separation from  but you might want to discuss other possible explanations wit your paediatrician or family doctor. How much does she eat during the Day How much does she weigh when you have attempted to feed her at nigh does she eat or nurse some specialists suggest there is a particular weight needed before a child can eat enough during the daytime to sustain herself All night. Quot. Also examine what happens when you go into your daughter s room when she awakens you. Are you very warm and cuddling or fairly matter of fact if there is no difference Between your Demeanour at night and in the a morning that s one More reason your child May seek. O your presence. A a a a -.a7 7 once you have had your child checked and Are sure a there is no reason Why she. Should  Able to sleep a. For longer periods at night you May begin to teach her to. Do so. A a a a a a a a  a a a a 1 a pick a Long weekend when you can take a daytime Nap a to catch up on any sleep you will lose during this project. After you have fed changed and put your daughter to. A bed for the night be very matter of fact when you enter7 her room. When she wakes up wait a few minutes to see if she might inadvertently fall Back asleep a \ after she  bit walk into her room Check her to make sure she. Is dry and of Pat her on the Back and Tell her Good night then leave the room let her cry for no 7more.than 20 minutes before returning to her room at 20  May return to Check her  Good night . A. Each might. Note How Long she cries before falling Back asleep also record How Many episodes occur each  she May cry less each episode and. Fewer times per might or she May cry More at first before it lessens. When you Are Able of see Progress you will know that ,. Your daughter  to relax and fall asleep herself. A you should see a major change in her behaviour Over a four Day period. A7.7 Quot a a. A. A Marianne and Stephen w Garber and Robyn Freedman Spizman. A write a column on parenting for Ibe Atlanta journal Constitution Iri Georgia. Readers action line More questions on Maila 1 a 1 f a a a t am a sergeant stationed at fort Bragg currently taking part in operation desert storm. 7 -. With As High a value we soldiers place on receiving mail from our loved ones i would like to know Why several Post offices would not accept a shoe Box size package from my Fiancee which Only contained Kouf Aid Candy and magazines ,. A. A 7 Quot a a the . Postal service should be enthusiastic in helping people to  their loved ones. Here in saudi Arabia a Telephone is a Blessing in disguise. The incident took place in Baltimore. I finally did receive the Box after several attempts were made to mail. It. A Quot a a a 1 a Quot. A. All i ask is for people to show a Little care for the needs of the soldiers who Are Here to keep your country free. A sgt. Lance Bynum operation desert storm maj. Michael Whitaker 4401st postal Squadron scent com replies a it is difficult to determine from Reading this letter Why any Post office would refuse this package it could have been incorrectly addressed a wrong apo.numberor-7. Improperly wrapped masking tape is. Paper or fiber tape. The military postal service Agency and uses work in concert with one another to ensure All personnel. Serving in operation desert storm receive their mail a a without delay. A a a a a. L left the Continental United states conus on an overseas deployment to saudi Arabia. Since i left my family i have written Home every other Day. She writes my a note every Day and i receive them on an average of 10 12 Days after. Mail from the United states is doing pretty Good. I remember two letters in particular Quot received a letter from you today Quot and. Quot could you please  least once a week and  dedication i do i Haven to received a letter in Over a week Quot the above is not my. Wife s fault. But we Are the ones suffering a As an  know it s difficult for soldiers to accomplish missions when morale is Low and when mail is a problem morale is Low a. A a lot of questions come from the Quot Grapevine Quot 1. Why does it Lake so Long for mail to get to the United slates. 2 is the mail  to the United states by ship a 3. Are there not enough soldiers working with the mail to ensure prompt delivery 4, is our mail Low priority. Because it s free maybe  find out an answer for the Many soldiers who cannot. Sgt. James Faurie operation desert storm maj. Michael Whitaker 4401st air postal Squadron . Cen com replies. Just As moving from one address to another address in  states so it is True Here in operation. Desert a storm. The Standard for retrograde mail is eight to nine a. Days however with changing commercial aircraft a. Schedules the mail is frequently taking longer. M. ,. Ail retrograde mail is airlifted a none is returned by a a a ship. A a a. A there Are More than 1.000 postal specialists in theater a delivering mail More than enough to meet the postal requirements for operation desert storm. A a even though mail is free to the gis the Cost is a absorbed by the department of  first class a rates  the mail is handled like first class mail. It shares the same priority As All first class mail a a. A to write us a a. Readers action line is the readers a Quot court of last a. Resort. Striving to answer some of the questions a about Hoo overseas in a military environment or a questions about policies and guidelines when other avenues Lor answers Are no readily available. If  a question and Don t know where to turn for the answer write to readers action line co the stars. And Stripe s. Apo 09211-4211. All letters must be signed and preference will be Given to those seeking a information of general interest to our readers. Page 16 a the stars and stripes wednesday March 13, 1991