European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 22, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday March 22, 1991. The stars and stripes a Page 19 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers for years i have admired your even handed approach to problems. Now its my turn to ask for help. For the past four years it has been rare for my sister a Debbie a and i to carry on a civil conversation. The trouble began during my freshman year of High school. My sister was. A senior. Debbie and i have yet to enjoy a Holiday together with the family. When the two of us Are in the same room or even the same House there Are fireworks. It has gotten so bad that our parents Are unable to control our fighting which has resulted in cuts scratches bruises torn blouses and dresses and worst of All wounded Pride and Hurt  Debbie returns Home a she recently moved into her own apartment a the tensions so thick you  Cut it with a Chain saw. I have a very open relationship with my parents which Debbie has never had. They have tried to sit with the two of us and talk out our differences but these sessions always result in More anger and another unresolved argument. What can i do to resolve this problem that is causing so much pain and stress in my life had enough in new Haven dear new Haven since you re a longtime Reader in a sure you be seen this suggestion before try joint counselling. If Debbie refuses to go go alone. It May Well be that today a crossword dear Abby dear Abby i was shocked to read about the woman who wants to Start a sperm donor registry hoping to locate her genetic grandchildren a fathered by her son through artificial insemination. My husband and i had three wonderful children with this method so i know something about it. Most people who become parents through artificial insemination never Tell their children How they were conceived. And Why should they after All their mothers were pregnant just like All the other women who experienced childbirth. We should also consider How a sperm donor registry would affect the fathers should the information be leaked a and even though the records Are supposed to be confidential leaks Are always possible. A Many a sterility is nobody a business but his own yes i suppose there Are couples who Are very open about having used this method of Conception but what a can of Worms it could open for their children ordinarily i am one of the most honest and open people around but the Way our children were conceived is one family secret my husband and i intend to take to our Graves. I Hope i never see the Day when sperm donors Are listed in a  sign me. Mother of three great kids it of cannot fix this flawed relationship by yourself in which Case i recommend that for the time being Vou stay away from her. A dear Ann Landers when i became pregnant with my first child my bus Blind and i were thrilled and pc welcomed any brochures or magazines that came to our Home. It seems that once you sign up with an obstetrician Vou get put on a list that is distributed to diaper services photo Era pliers baby food companies and so on unfortunately a miscarried and we lost our son. A photographer called several weeks ago to Sav it was time Lor my baby a two month photo and asked what Day would be Best to come in. 1 told the woman that i did not have a child and thanked her for Cal Liz. Slit argued with me and said she knew i Lead a child and it was Lime for his two month photo. I became pregnant again and am sad to say that i lost that baby also. I do not look Forward to receiving these magazines phone Calls Etc. Isnit there some Way that the doctor s office could pass on the information to these companies that the pregnancy was unsuccessful dealing with the loss is hard enough. A Little compassion would make things easier on those of us who Are going through a difficult time. Thank Vou. Riverside Calif. Dear Riverside it seems to me that the same a a Grapevine that provides these companies with the names of expectant mothers could notify them of the tragedies. A creators Syndicate. A dear Mother read on for a letter from a Man who shares your attitude / dear Abby the letter from the woman who Hopes to develop a registry for sperm donors sent cold chills up my spine it seems that before her Only son passed away he told her that while he had been a medical student in College he had been a frequent sperm donor to supplement his income. She said a i can to Tell you How priceless it would be for me to locate some of my genetic  Abby what a Nightmare that could be my wife and i tried for 10 years to have a child but it never happened. We finally gave up and investigated adoption but by that time we were in our late 30s, and with a four year wait for an infant we would be too old to qualify for one. When our doctor recommended artificial insemination we decided to go that route. After three insemination my wife conceived and nine months later we were the proud parents of a Beautiful baby boy. Our son is 16 now and neither family nor friends know the history of his Conception. We see no reason Ever to Tell our son How he was conceived. After Reading about that woman who wants to establish a registry for sperm donors i can imagine no situation More brought with trouble. Heaven forbid that half a dozen a a grandmothers would show up on my Doorstep claiming that our son was her grandchild. A very private affair a Universal press Syndicate across 1 acknowledged applause 6 gown s partner a 9 seeing red 12 seeing red 13 brewery output 14 one a million 15 Mills or summer 16 sounded. 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