European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - June 15, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Saturday june 15, 1991 the stars and stripes Page 19ann Landers dear Ann Landers my parents have been married 49 years. They arc financially secure retired professionals who have held positions of leadership in the Community Church and their professions. My father in recent years has become increasingly forgetful and is now beginning to be verbally abusive to my Mother. To avoid confrontation Mother is being uncharacteristically Meek and submissive. He has always been somewhat domineering but she has stood up t6 him when necessary and he valued her ideas and opinions. I have read about hardening of the arteries in the older population and the symptoms of this disease. I think this May be what is happening to my father fee also has shown signs of depression these last few years. Here is the problem father distrusts doctors. He thinks they Are All quacks interested Only in Money. When Mother suggests a checkup his response is a i am not  what can Mother do to get him to seek help if she tries to reason with him he becomes angry and threatens divorce. He is pig headed and insists that the problem is with  can to Bear to see my Mother mistreated like this. Unfortunately i done to live near them and have never been Able to relate to. M y father. He has never Given me credit for anything and would not listen to me. Please use any or All of this letter As you wish. Thank you for any help you can offer. Denim Dolly in Texas hello Dolly obviously you can do nothing with your father so my advice is to concentrate on your Mother. She desperately needs emotional support. Since you Are not there to crossword dear Abby dear Abby Lam having a problem with my sex wife. During our marriage i caught her cheating four times. She stars she still loves me and Only me. We still see each other she comes Over and spends the night with me every once in a while and we have sex together even though she has been engaged to a map in Florida for More than a year. He has Money and buys her very Nice gifts. He just bought her a �?T91 Camaro the problem is i still love her and would like to get Back together if she would Only let go of the a Money  should i let her go or keep trying to get her Back i a Tough decision dear Tough decision let her go. She a using you for sex and using the Man in Florida for whatever she can get out of him. If you were to get her Back what would you have a promiscuous Gold Digger who can to be trusted. Dear Abby my husband and i Are happily married. We both agree that our family is Complete and we do not want quibble note would have been greatly appreciated. Give it suggest that she ask her physician or Clergyman to recommend a Good Counselor. _ your Mother must find the strength to stand up against her husband s badgering and make a life for herself. I am not suggesting separation. In this Case it would be too destructive to both parties. Please write again and let me know How your Mother is getting along. I really feel for her. Dear Ann Landers a it is obvious by your unsympathetic response to a recent letter that you still have your own Teeth. I refer to the letter about the overnight House guest who accidentally lost her dentures in the toilet. They blocked the Drain and a plumber had to be called. The question was whether to return them or keep quiet about the discovery. Your support of the no return decision a to protect the Friend from embarrassment was full of cavities Ann. Properly fitting attractive dentures can be extremely costly. Frequent replacements Are not looked Nom kindly by dental insurers. It is possible that the Den a tireless Friend is still toothless. You certainly were no help. The return of those dentures with or without a kind really. Apr it r.s., Riverside Calif. Dear Riverside a great Many readers wrote to say i had Given the wrong advice. Like you they Felt i should have advised the hostess to return the Teeth. I am still not totally convinced it seems to me that the woman who lost her Teeth Down the toilet surely was aware of it. Apparently her embarrassment was so great that she preferred to say nothing and sacrifice the dentures. Lets Hope the poor dear had an extra pair at Home. A. A a a a a a a a a a. A a a a a a a a a a a a a a. A a c creators Syndicate a any More children. We use birth control but nothing is foolproof and just the thought of another pregnancy makes me shiver in my boots the reason my husband Hasni to got a Vasectomy is because we Haven to been Able to find out if such measures Are right in the eyes of the lord. We Are members of the congregation of a very Small Christian Church and 1 just can t bring myself to ask our minister. Can you please help us shy in Colorado dear shy perhaps you would feel More comfortable consulting a minister of your Faith in a neighbouring town. Or you could write to the District office of your Church and inquire. Dear Abby Reading in your column that you put your glasses on when you answer the phone prompts this letter. Even if its dark when we need to hear we put our glasses on. Regardless of How strange it May seem we hear better with glasses. This theory has been tested and its True. A. A a r. Kay in . A c muted press Syndicate across 1 seafood selection 6 Nebraska City. 11 try hard 12 do a newscast 14 author capote 15 entertainer Nell 16 Dis encumber 17 Sun offering 19 fish eggs 20 Oil Cartel 22 extinct Bird 23 double agent maybe 24 hostess Mesta 26 coated in crumbs 28 Capp and Capone 30 Adams or a Johnson 31 Skull 35 wanderer 39 cast. 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