European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - July 02, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tuesday july 2, 1991 the stars and stripes a Page 19 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers when i read that amazingly honest letter from a heartsick Mother in South Bend her son was a today a crossword a write because my son is one also. A Bob so problem started when he was molested by a female baby Sitter. He ended up doing time in a Federal prison. Most prisons have counselling programs but often the a individual must be aggressive on his own behalf and seek help. Also As part of probation after release counselling is required either individual or group. For a crime this serious rehabilitation is extremely important As about 95 percent become repeat offenders. I urge that woman to Tell her son not to give up. He should seek out All the help that is available. Most of All he needs emotional support from his family and friends. I do not believe this illness is  this is a problem he will have to fight for the rest of his life. He must never let his guard Down or allow himself to be left alone with a child. I wish that Mother All the Luck in the would because i have been in her shoes and its rough. Supportive in Sacramento dear supportive what a generous person you Are to write in support of that woman. The advice you gave her was Superb. This was certainly your Good deed for today. Dear Ann Landers. I Hope you Arentt so fed up with letters about tipping that you toss this one in your a circular  in a still dear Abby dear Abby do you believe that a child who is 6xh years old should be told the truth regardless of what it is Here is the situation dad is in jail for one year. Please understand my husband did no to steal anything nor did he commit a violent crime. However he was found guilty of driving drunk a it was his third offence. If you think our son should be told the truth How do you feel about my taking him to visit his father in jail or do you think it would be better to Tell him that daddy is away a on business and he May be gone for Quitac a Long time i can to describe the humiliation our family has endured. It was reported in the newspaper but this is a Large City and not everyone is aware of it. Withhold my name please dear withhold i think you should Tell your son the truth and Tell him now before someone else does. I also believe that you should take the boy to visit his father a for his Sake As Well As for his fathers. Steamed about the woman who treated her Boyfriend to dinner and the waitress flirted with him and ignored her. The Guy later criticized his Girlfriend because she left a Small tip. The bet you be never worked Foi you be never Woi keel Loi min Muir Tige As Many of your readers have. 1 am sick to death of having to subsidize Ever it working place i patronize a whether it s the Hairdresser the waitress the bag boy at the supermarket the parking attendant the newspaper Carrier Etc. No one subsidizes my wages in any manner shape or form. I done to see Why i should help these businesses avoid paying their employees a salary they can live on. Tipping has become a socially accepted form of blackmail. If you want service you must pay extra for it. How did this Racket get started anyway when you  to a restaurant you have a right to expect that the owner of the place will see to it that the food is served decently. That is his or her responsibility. The biggest Racket is the Guy who scats you at your table. He really gets Rich. And what does he do he shows you to a table that you could easily find yourself if he weren to there. I know in a bucking the system but it feels wonderful to get this pet Peeve off my Chest. Thanks for letting me do it Ann. Casper Wyo. Dear Casper you re Welcome. And now is there a head waiter or restaurant owner out there who wants to respond to this beef Gem of the Day my personal candidate for the Best Book title of the week if you can t live without me Why Aren t you dead yet c creators Syndicate these Are troubled times for your family. But it is not the end of the world. And this too shall pass. Dear Abby i just read the letter from the director of the elder health program at the University of Maryland. She advised people to take responsibility for their own health care. I work in a doctors office and you would be amazed at the number of people who Call in for refills on their medicines and done to even know the names of them. They ask for a blood pressure pills a a or a the Little yellow  granted we have their medications recorded on their charts but that wont help them if they re in an Accident and unable to speak. People who take medication elderly and Young alike should write Down the names and dosages on a piece of paper and keep it in their wallets. And every time the doctor changes the dosage or adds a new medication the patient should make note of it on the paper he or she carries. Also write Down any allergies on the same paper. Help us health givers keep you healthy. Judy g., Ormand Beach Fla. 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