European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - July 31, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers wednesday july 31, 1991 the stars and stripes a Page 19today s crossword dear Ann Landers until now i thought such things happened Only on to soap operas. Now i am caught in a terrible situation and i done to know How to get out. Nine years ago when i was 23, a a bobs and i fell in love. For reasons that i still do not understand Bob became involved with my sister. Although i was terribly Hurt family meant a great Deal to me so i did not confront  i just stayed away from Bob and let nature take its course. I kept praying that Bob would come Back to me but he did no to. A year later Bob and Myrna were married. They moved to a different City. I visited them when their first child was born and discovered that Bob was still in love with me. He said he was sorry that he had married Myrna. Meanwhile i also married. My husband is a wonderful person but i have never been in love with him mainly because i Haven to been Able to put Bob out of my mind a single Day of the past nine years. I recently visited Myrna again. This time Bob and i started an affair. We both want to leave our mates and marry each other but neither of us has the nerve to do it. I still love my sister and done to want to Hurt her. I done to love my husband but i am afraid if i leave him i will destroy his life. Bob is in exactly the same predicament with Myrna. A a Ann what can i do please give me some sense of dear Abby dear Abby i am 21 /2 years old and was married when i was 20. I thought at the time i was doing the right thing. But now after a year and a half of marriage i realize it was a mistake. I was too Young. My husband and i disagreed on too Many things so now we Are getting a divorce. He does no to want it but he says if i pay for it he will sign All the required papers. We have nothing to Divide. No House no car no Money and no kids. Nothing to fight Over. Now for my problem i went to a Legal clinic and they told me there Wasny to any a no fault divorce in Cook county 111., which is where we live. This Means i will have to go to court and claim mental cruelty. Abby there was no mental cruelty so Why do i have to go to court and lie a especially since my husband agreed to cooperate Isnit there someplace that we. Id be divorced Nice could go and just sign some papers and be Divor Why must i Point a Finger of blame at a perfectly Man the marriage was my mistake. Also i would like to know Why a divorce should Cost so much. I was quoted a figure of $970. Isnit there a cheaper and easier Way nobody a fault direction. Lost in California dear California my advice is to slow Down and remember the past because it can Tell you a lot about the future. You know from personal experience that Bob is not 100 percent trustworthy. Review his record. Not Only did he toss you overboard for your sister he is now cheating on her. Stop fantasizing about How great Bob is he Isnit. The one who got away always looks better. Direct your efforts and your sexual Energy toward your marriage. That a where the rewards Are. And from now on done to visit Myrna and Bob without your husband. Dear Ann Landers please print this letter to a a former pet  a lot of people need to see it. I killed your dog today. You dumped him off in the country. Maybe you liked the looks of our farm and thought we were Nice people who would take care of him. Wrong. We done to want strays that might bite our children eat our chickens or Chase our cattle. We already have two dogs and that Sall we need. If you did no to want your dog any longer you should have Given him to a Friend or taken him to the Pound and saved me a Bullet. A Farmer you misjudged dear misjudged you should have saved the Bullet and taken the dog to the Pound. For shame. C creators Syndicate inc. Dear nobody a fault a cheaper divorce would be available through your Legal Aid society a Only if you Are unemployed. According to Dorothy b. Johnson attorney at Law and chairwoman of the Chicago bar association matrimonial Law committee a since july 1, 1984, there has been another ground Tor dissolution of marriage in Illinois which you and your spouse May find More suitable a irreconcilable  a was for the Cost of your divorce the rate you were quoted is not out of line for the greater Chicago  dear Abby i was bothered by the letter from a woman who had witnessed a father abusing his Young son in a department store and who did no to know Whalton do or say. You seemed to be sympathetic with the abuser and suggested that she could have said a i know How you must feel a shopping with children Isnit easy a which would seem to give approval to the fathers actions. The other Day i witnessed a similar situation involving a Young Mother in a checkout line in a supermarket. 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