European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 10, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 b the stars and stripes Ann Landers dear Ann Landers in a writing to you in desperation hoping you can help me with a problem in a having with my Mother. A Little Over a year ago i moved in with my Boyfriend despite my mothers protests. She has never liked  ill admit he a far from perfect and we be had our problems. He san alcoholic has a bad temper is mentally abusive is a compulsive liar and cannot hold a Job. I am in debt Over my head because of him but my biggest problem is that my Mother is obsessed with my situation. I understand her concern but i can take Only so much. I plan to leave Kevin but 1 can t do it right now because emotionally i m not Strong enough. 1 know that i can to change him and that i deserve better but i must make the break my own Way in my own time. My Mother has been through a lot of pain in her life and i realize she a trying to save me from becoming the bitter cynical person she is now. But in a not Mommy a Little girl anymore. I want to make my own decisions whether they re right or wrong. My Mother values your advice Ann As i do. Please Tell me How 1 can get her off my Back. Over mothered in Michigan dear Over your Mother did no to write to me. You did. So you re the one who is going to get the advice. Get into counselling at once and find out Why you in Sist on hanging onto an alcoholic abusive unemployed dear Abby dear Abby my husband and i frequently entertain at Home. We have a dog and a cat that we love like members of our family. When we have guests we always confine our pets in another area before our guests arrive. Many of our friends have told us that they appreciate this because they have a fear of dogs or cats or both our veterinarian told us that when some people say they a a dislike animals they actually fear them. For example if a person who is not used to having pets around entered someone s House and was greeted at the door by a hostile dog Barking angrily or a cat that curled around his leg he could have an anxiety attack i happen to have a terrible fear of snakes. 1 know that not All snakes Are poisonous but just the sight of a Snake terrifies me. Yet some people have snakes As pets a but i cannot imagine a Host or hostess allowing a pet Snake to slither freely among the guests. Well the fear of dogs and cuts is just As terrifying to some people As the fear of snakes to me. Our animal Loving friends did t believe us when we brought this up in conversation. They thought it was an exaggeration but after questioning others whom they thought merely a a disliked animals they finally admitted that they were actually afraid of them. What do you and your readers think animal lovers tuesday september 10, 1991 liar. When your Counselor gets to the word a rebellion a listen with a third ear. Tell yourself a a in be got to grow up and Stop using this Lousy relationship to punish my  then do it dear Ann Landers id like to comment on a worked to death in Florida a who wrote the letter to americans Couch potatoes. Lately there have been a great Many articles on the Lack of help from men on the Home front. I feel its As much the fault of the wife As the husband. These women do not communicate clearly enough to their hard headed spouses that they need help and that its the responsibility of the big lugs to provide it. That mealy mouthed woman who wrote to you did no task her husband to fold the laundry she asked him How his Day was. She is raising sons who will expect to be waited on like their father and daughters who will wait on men like their Mother. Work out an equitable distribution of chores so that each person does those tasks that he or she considers the least distasteful. Put Forth some extra Effort if one spouse is tied up at work. Point it out if you have to so that he or she notices and says a thank  you should always thank one another for a Job Well done. Remember you re a team. There is no servant and no master. Relaxing in Waukegan ill. Dear Waukegan you be written a letter that deserves to go up on a few thousand refrigerators. On behalf of americans overworked and under appreciated wives i thank you. C creators Syndicate dear animal lovers i consulted my animal expert or. Erwin David. He said a the analogy concerning the Snake is a Good one. People tend to fear that which they distrust a and dislike that which they  dear Abby my friends and i have a problem with which we need help. We Wear hearing aids which makes it difficult to hear people talking on some of the television programs since the background music and special sound effects Are so overpowering they drown out the voices. For example in Jake and the Fatman the Roar of the Ocean is so loud its impossible to understand what the people Are saying. It does no to help to turn the volume up and we can t do As president Bush suggests a read my  1 love music but loud background music is unnecessary on dramatic shows. Commercials Are a problem too. They Are so loud they blast the hearing aids out of our ears. Have you Ever tried turning a hearing Aid Down with Barbecue sauce on your fingers Are Many of your readers experiencing the same problems and who can we Contact in the television Industry to Correct this Cora Laird fort Dodge Iowa dear Cora Laird the television sponsors have been dodging these complaints for years. Address your grievances to the sponsors of the programs you watch. 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