European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - October 25, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday october 25, 1991 the stars and stripes Page 19 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i am a 66-year-old widow. I have one daughter who lives in Ohio and i done to see much of her. About a year ago i met a Man at the senior citizens club. Ill Call him a  at the time he had been going with another woman for two years. Once a week he would take her out for dinner and dancing. When Owen asked me out for dinner i was thrilled. Later i reciprocated by having him at my Home. I Don t like to eat alone and he is Good company. Well now a year later Owen is eating at my place six nights a week. He takes me out on saturday. He broke up with that other woman. She never cooked a meal for him in the two years they went together. He always took her out. In a getting tired of cooking for this Man. He has never offered to help with the grocery Bill which has tripled since he came into my life. I done to want to lose him but in a afraid if i Stop feeding him hell look for another woman. He likes the ladies and there Are 14 widows living on this Block. What do i do Ann in Mon a fixed income and am barely getting by. Owen puts his Money in the Bank. He is 79 years old. We done to have sex. In a just his Cook. I need some advice. No name in Philadelphia today a crossword dear Abby dear Abby after Reading your article about people who Are afraid of pets i had to write. 1 have dogs cats and also snakes a All Boa constrictors. While i was growing up my Brothers would come in from working the Fields and get a big kick out of throwing snakes on me. I made up my mind i Wasny to going to be afraid so i studied up on snakes and Learned everything i could about them a that show i started keeping snakes As pets. Now in a invited to bring my snakes to schools and talk to children so they can decide for themselves whether snakes Are Good or bad. Snakes make Loving pets. I took my 6/ foot Boa Constrictor everywhere with me until she got so big i could no longer sneak her into my Blouse. Boa constrictors Are non poisonous. They re intelligent too. When i ask for a kiss she kisses me on the Corner of my Mouth. Snakes Are much easier to care for than a dog or cat. They eat Only once every eight or 10 Days and they re not Slimy like most people think a they re smooth and Silky. Before closing i want to commend you for telling the Reader who was terrified to discover a Snake coiled up in the Corner of her attic a Why kill it people done to realize that snakes eat mice and rats and they re Good for the  Karen Small dear Philadelphia he sounds like a Freeloader to me. 1 suggest that you have a Frank talk with Owen. Tell him you enjoy his company but you can t afford to Cook for him six nights a week. Suggest that he pay half of the grocery Bill. If he refuses Vou Haven t lost much. Dear Ann Landers i have read your advice for More than 20 years. Some of it 1 have found relevant some not so relevant some funny some absurd but All of it has been educational. Now i would like to offer some advice that May help your readers. 1 Hope you find it Worth printing. I am in the Middle of a divorce initiated by my wife after almost 20 years of marriage. It is a bitter unwanted divorce with Young children involved. My therapist says what 1 am going through is just like a death in the family. My life As 1 knew it for the past two decades is being torn apart. Here a my advice. If a Friend or relative is going through a divorce Call him up and suggest lunch dinner a movie a anything. Chances Are he is too scared and depressed to Call anyone and make that suggestion. He needs to know that someone cares. You can to imagine what a boost it will give to a person who is Down in the dumps. He will appreciate it More than you know. Hurting in the u s a. Dear hurting you be written an excellent letter but Why a the Quot the same holds True for women who Are in the same unhappy boat. Thanks for a letter that is sure to make a difference. C creators Syndicate dear Karen snakes have gotten a bad rap Ever since one made its debut in the Garden of Eden. A few More reasons Why snakes make Good pets they re quiet you never have to walk them a and you la never have to worry about anybody stealing them. Dear Abby a not perfect a who says non smokers should assess their own bad habits before looking Down at smokers seems to think that being an irritant to others is an inevitable part of life. Baloney the smell of cigarette smoke is repulsive which is Why for 17 years i carefully abstained around non smokers. Now that i am an sex smoker i still have plenty of bad habits but 1 am grown up enough to shield other people from them. No smoker who exercises Good manners should be treated like a Leper. 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