European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 25, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tuesday february 25, 1992 the stars and stripes a Page 21 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers last year you printed my letter about panic attacks t am thrilled to Tell you that i have improved enormously. First i faced the problem. Then i became educated about the illness and decided to talk about it with the people who were closest to me. To my amazement i discovered that several family members and friends also suffered from panic attacks. I joined a support group and attribute much of my Success to talking with people who have conquered the problem. One of my principal comforts is re Reading the Golden rules for coping with panic. It is not an exaggeration to say they saved my life. Here they Are. Panic attack recovered Little Rock Ark. Golden rules for coping with panic 1. Remember that although your feelings and symptoms Are frightening they Are neither dangerous nor harmful. 2. Understand that what you Are experiencing is merely an exaggeration of your Normal reactions to stress. 3. Do not fight your feelings or try to wish them away. The More willing you Are to face them the less intense they will become. 4. Done to add to your panic by thinking about what a might  if you find yourself asking a what if a Tell yourself a so what a 5. Stay in the present. Be aware of what is happening to you rather than concern yourself with How much worse it might get. 6. Label your fear level from Zero to 10 and watch it go up and Down. Notice that it does no to stay at a very High level for More than a few  s crossword dear Abby dear Abby what has happened to the English language the excessive use and misuse of the word a a like is an abomination. To utter the incoherent a i was like you know going Home a incriminate the use As does a it was like saturday a a a like is a substitute for a about a a approximately a a similar to a a it May have been or Many other terms or expressions. And a i go and a the goes Are stupid contortions for a i said stated noted observed and other Correct usages. A a hopefully is used far too often and invariably a grammatically. And athletes especially seem incapable of stumbling and fumbling through even half a sentence without a  this incorrect redundancy could be replaced with a i Hope a a i would Hope or a we will attempt  the sports announcers Are the worst. We can surely do without the a a hey and a a Guys in every other sentence. They Are so infuriating i turn them off and walk the dog. Quibble amp and to rockets red Glare the bombs 6ukstm6 air. I it i r .j7 and me Home of the Brave r i .1 a play my a 7. When you find yourself thinking about fear change your what if thinking. Focus on and perform some simple manageable task. 8. Notice that when you Stop thinking frightening thoughts your anxiety fades. 9. When fear comes accept it done to fight it. Wait and give it time to pass. Done to try to escape from it. 10. Be proud of the Progress you have made. Think about How Good you will feel when the anxiety has based and you Are in total control and at peace. A ear Arkansas in a sure you be helped Many people today. Thank you. Dear Ann Landers while my wife and i were dating we got along Fine. After six months i moved in. We lived together for two years and got along Well. Then i let her talk me into getting married. The trouble started when she quit her Job. Her clothes got tighter and tighter. Then she began to make excuses when i wanted to get romantic. Before marriage she was an eager participant. Now she just lies there like a Gunn sack while i do All the work. That a right a now its work. By the time i get her motor started in be lost interest in the trip. Two years have passed. My wife has gone from a size 10 to a z4. Her favorite three words Are a a let seat  in be tried everything to get a big Edna interested in taking off some weight. Nothing works. Any advice Diz gusted dear Dizz you and your wife need joint counselling. A lot of couples continue to have Loving sexual relationships even when one partner is overweight find out what the real problem is and Hope Tilly a big Edna will work with you on trying to fix it. C creators Syndicate Kenneth f. Emerick Shippenville a. Dear Kenneth you have found a soul mate in Marcic Mitchell. Read on dear Abby will you please make another attempt to improve the atrocious and horrid misuse of our language much of it is inarticulate appallingly Sloppy and infuriating to the listener. It is maddening to hear a you know you know you know from so Many of the celebrities and athletes who Are interviewed on to talk shows. 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