European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 4, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Wednesday March 4, 1992 the stars and stripes a Page 19 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers the letter from the woman to her husband who worked All the time really got to me because my husband is also a Workaholic. He regularly works on saturdays and often sundays As Well. He averages 10 to 12 hours a Day. Our three children Are grown and doing Well. We have purchased annuities for them and our four grandchildren. We give generous gifts of Money for birthdays and Christmas and enjoy the fact that we can. We have two cars a Lovely Home no debts and approximately $1 million in assets. Sound Good Well we also have no hobbies. We Haven to had a vacation in years except for a couple of weekends when we visited our children and their families. I was a professional woman and worked both inside and outside the Home. We Are both in our 70s. When does the fun Start the big q dear q the fun started for your husband a Long time ago. Workaholics would rather work than play which is Why they do it. Mates of workaholics must make their own fun. If you re in your 70s and Haven to discovered that you re a slow learner Honey. Dear Abby dear Abby More than once i have noticed letters in your column from parents trying to pay for their daughters wedding without bankrupting themselves so i devised the following plan for my daughters wedding to protect myself and our sanity. I gave her a set amount for the total to be spent. If the wedding costs less i would give her the difference in Cash. If it costs More she and her Fiance would pay the difference. She had her wedding at Balboa Park in san Diego. Her Mother made her wedding dress. A close Friend was a photographer and he gave her the pictures As a wedding gift. We bought Many of the Flowers at the Market. By spending her Money carefully she had a Nice Check waiting for her when they returned from the honeymoon. This plan enabled All of us to enjoy a Beautiful wedding and to keep our tempers and sanity intact. I Hope this plan will help your readers to enjoy their daughters weddings with a minimum of stress. Or. E. Parke Sellard Fallbrook Calif. Dear or. Sellard i Hope so too because i hear from too Many parents who feel obligated to finance the equivalent of a Broadway extravaganza. Parents should spend no More for a dear Ann Landers aids is not about sex or drugs. It is about knowledge and education. Parents should explain to their children what not to do in order to avoid contracting this deadly virus but they also must teach them about Safe sex. If parents fail to do this they Are gambling with their children a lives. Even education is no guarantee. Magic Johnson is an educated and knowledgeable adult but he made a mistake which even if it does no to kill him has tragically altered his life. Nonetheless it is an absolute certainty that children stand a better Chance of avoiding aids if they Are informed. If you Gamble that your children a ignorance will not kill them and you lose you will pay a heavy Price. You la spend the rest of your life suffering from guilt. If you Are not capable of teaching your children then see that they Are taught by someone who is knowledgeable and competent. Do it for your children. Do it for yourself. R.w., Carpentaria Calif. Dear California if parents Are not Well enough informed to talk to their children about aids they can Send for a free Booklet by writing the aids prevention guide centers for disease control National aids Clearinghouse . Box 6003, Rockville my. 20849-6003. C creators Syndicate wedding than they can comfortably afford. And incidentally More couples arc paying for their own weddings these or is which makes sense to me. Dear Abby your advice to a Arizona sister to investigate the possibility of purchasing two seats on an air plane so that her 285-Pound sister could come to visit her was preposterous to undertake such a great expense when Roomy comfortable rail passenger service is available at an economical rate is unnecessarily extravagant. It is a testimony to our culture that a Arizona sister so first and Only thought would be to make use of air transportation for such a trip when a More Energy efficient environmentally benign and downright pleasant form of transportation is available. Take the train Daniel a Lovegren director National Assn. Of Railroad passenger Region Xii dear or. Lovegren thank you for the Wake up Call. I had forgotten How relaxing and luxurious a trip on a train can be if time is not a Factor. 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