European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 10, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes tuesday March 10, 1992 Page 20 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers my older sister bore a son out of Wedlock left instructions that he be put up for adoption and then jumped off a Bridge. I followed her instructions and gave a bar Rye to a childless family i knew would love him and raise him Well. The understanding was that our family would Cut All ties with the child and never let him know of his history. 1 his was my Sisters last wish. My worst fears were realized when i received a letter from Barry now age 18. It seems that he dug around and found out his birth mothers Hometown. He then went there began asking questions and located some Distant cousins. They took him All Over and even introduced him to one of his mothers old High school ers. He hounded me with phone Calls insisting that i must know who his father is finally i told Barry to leave me alone and that he had gone against the wishes of his mothers family by digging into the past. Ann please keep telling adopted people to be grateful for what they have and not poke around looking Tor their a real  they of course Are hoping that the family they dig up will be Rich and Beautiful eager to open their hearts and their Homes to them. This is what happens when you watch too much television. No name no state and mailed while on vacation dear no name no state your letter underscores the message in be been trying to dear Abby dear Abby i enjoy your column and usually agree with your advice but today i disagreed so completely i had to write. I refer to the letter signed a a done a  it seems Don age 14 was with some kids who were throwing rocks at passing cars and when the police knocked on his mothers door asking if her son had been with the Rock throwing kids she told the police that her son had been Home with her for several hours and could not possibly have been with those boys. Then she wrote to you saying she Felt guilty for having lied and you said a a done to be so hard on yourself you did what most mothers would have done a instinctively a to protect their children. However had you let Don take his lumps from the police it May have been a valuable learning experience. Tell him you la never lie to protect him again and insist that he avoid hanging out with kids who have to run from the  Abby a better solution would have been for done smother to have marched her son Down to the police station and stood beside him while he confessed. That Way both Mother and son would have Felt Good about their honesty. Parents should use every Opportunity to quibble am. Warm Aud us pc it Fco Fol guard duty a6aim. Try full Corv to Merit 15 n0thiki6 to Goff to out Means nothing event. Raffl ttys. I think 5&t mom just pots he oot Here to get All of he. <0 there must 6fe some a morn to that since i m the cols one u to even has to Cohe out Raefle. Its not nuke the Reeung of b0n6 a Post Etc Bug a a Pes Ricile commercial. Mss Wood get across for years a such family reunions Are often very painful. Thanks for saying it far better than i could. Dear Ann Landers i am in my Early 40s. My husband and i have been married for 23 years. We live within a mile of his Mother. Here a my problem for the last 23 years my husband has gone to his mothers House twice a Day. Every monday through Friday after breakfast he stops at her place for a cup of Tea before going to work. In the evening he stops again on his Way Home. Saturdays and sundays he visits her for at least an hour. For 23 years in be kept quiet about this although it has always bothered me. I recently told him it s time he Cut the apron strings and grow up. He became very defensive and announced that he was going to Tell his Mother How i Felt. Now both my husband and my Mother in Law Are mad at me and i done to think in be done anything wrong. What Are your thoughts Ann a frustrated san Bernardino Calif. Dear san Bernardino after 23 years its a bit late to Register a complaint about your husbands extraordinary attachment to his Mother. Actually its rather Sweet that he is such an attentive son and since you have not been neglected or ignored i see no reason to make an Issue of it. You Are justified however in being darned annoyed with your husband for telling his Mother that you complained. It was an act of Gross disloyalty for which he owes you an apology. C creators Syndicate teach by example. Sorry Abby you deserve a wet Noodle swat for that one. Jeannine Milne Honeoye Falls . Dear Jeannine a wet Noodle is far too gentle. Try a 2-by-4. And lest you think that nobody else noticed read on dear Abby. So you think its maternal instinct for a Mother to lie to protect her son then you Tell her to Tell her son that next time she wont lie for him. Abby How Many times do parents say a next time As the Mother of two sons if the police came to my door looking for my children they would have to answer for themselves. I would be at their Side to help them Deal with the consequences but it would never Cross my mind to lie to the authorities. Sacramento mom dear Abby throwing rocks at passing cars is no minor prank. When my aunt was a teen Ager she was in a car when some kid threw a Rock at it. The Rock shattered the Windshield and the Glass Cut deeply into one Eye leaving her Blind in that Eye forever. 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