European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 17, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday april 17, 1992 the stars and stripes a Page 19 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers in a 28 years old. My husband a Alan a and i have been married for two years although we be been together for eight. It Hasni to been easy. Alan has a lifelong Friend named a Bill a who is in prison for various crimes a murder drug dealing Etc. He a due out soon. During Bill a imprisonment he and Alan have exchanged letters on a regular basis. Bill is Gay. I confess in a a Nosy wife. I steamed open the envelopes and read All of Alan a letters from Bill. He would be very upset if he knew this. Two of Bill a recent letters made it Clear that he is More than a Little interested in my husband. Alan has never said a word about this so i can to bring it up. Bill a latest letter which was even More explicit accidentally ended up in our junk drawer instead of in the garbage. Since i use this drawer every Day do i now have the right to say something to Alan about the letter i feel very threatened by Bill. Before he went to jail he used to take Alan to Gay bars until All hours of the night. Bill knows i done to Tike him. It has nothing to do with his sexual preference. Its because of the influence he has on my husband. I discussed this once with Alan and his response was a a it a none of your business. You can to Tell me what to  in Bill a last letter he wrote a when i get out of jail today s crossword dear Abby dear Abby i never thought i would be writing a dear Abby letter but i am so angry i have to vent or i will explode. I have a very close male Friend of More than 30 years. We have no secrets and have shared wonderful experiences and trips together. A a Jim is openly Gay. For decades i begged and even tried to bribe him to give up cigarettes but to no Avail. He pleaded a hopeless addiction and refrained from smoking in front of me. But his clothes and car smelled strongly of smoke so he did no to kid me. Abby about a month ago Jim suddenly gave up smoking. I asked him if it was on doctors orders and he said a no i just done to feel like  then a few weeks ago i saw him and he looked absolutely Green. He was breathless As though he had been running and said he Felt a just  i told him he did no to look too Well either and urged him to see his doctor. To make a Long Story Short he paid a visit to the doctor who ordered him immediately into the Hospital. The diagnosis is pneuma cystic pneumonia. Abby i am furious with him. When All the publicity about aids came out 10 years ago he told me he Hadnot had Contact with anybody a in  and Over the years As Mutual friends became sick i asked him if he had been tested for aids. He just repeated that he Hadnot been near anybody in almost 10 years and if he were his positive he would rather not know it. \ quibble met. Ewart. Rcv Estres. You Eam v err1. Show me 30m-1hms� let s Sec woo sniff z3l w the partying is going to be  can you give me some guidance no name. . Dear no name it is not certain that Alan is bisexual but when a woman competes with a homosexual for the affection of a bisexual male she almost always loses. Since aids has reared its ugly head i would not advise any woman to continue in a relationship with a Man who has sex with another male. Tell Alan you found Bill a letter in the drawer and the message is Clear. Give him a Choice a the marriage or Bill. If he tells you again that what he docs is none of your business see a lawyer. . If he walks i say Good riddance. Dear Ann Landers in be always had a problem hitting it off with women. In a sure it was because i was reluctant to make the first move for fear of being rejected. A few months ago i sent for your Booklet How to make friends and Stop being lonely. Now the Light on my answering machine is always blinking when i come Home and its usually a message from a woman. Know what i love it. Thanks for changing my life. A new me in Missouri dear new you what a great letter. C creators Syndicate How could anybody be so selfish How could he have had so Little consideration for the people who love him if he cared so Little for his own health a  he have at least made sure he was All right for my Sake and for the other friends who treasure him As i do i am heartbroken. If he had Only confirmed he was his positive he and his doctor could have monitored his immune system and he would have had Advance warning that he was in serious trouble. Instead he wasted precious weeks. The doctors a a think they can pull him through this a a episode a but what if they can to this is so unfair. Why of Why would an intelligent person who knows he is at risk refuse to be tested when it is so important that people know their status heartbroken in Houston dear heartbroken your Friend is Lucky to have such a caring Friend As you. His is a classic Case of  it is very difficult for some people to face the possibility that they might be infected with an incurable disease and have to Deal with the discrimination and rejection they might encounter. And you Are absolutely right a especially today with the advances that have been made in treating his infection and its effects. People who know they Are at risk from the human immunodeficiency virus should be tested so that they can Benefit from what help is available. With proper treatment and Early intervention the Quality and Quantity of life is far from hopeless. C Universal press Syndicate ims s the last Tim i m combo to 73his resort across problem Down 1 Brown 38 a ski 1 cats ing s 41 officer dog passes Quot 43"�? 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