European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 4, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Mom should change son s name today s crossword dear Ann Landers seven years ago i became involved with a Man who was an alcoholic and a drug and diet. I thought i loved a a Jeby even though he cheated on me and refused to hold Down a Job. Three years ago we had a son. When i discovered Jeb was using drugs in front of our child i said a that s enough Quot and left him. Fortunately my parents took us in with Loving arms. I returned to College and demanded that Jeb pay child support. His visitations Are supervised by me because of his substance abuse but he can see Ann Landers he has no interest in the child. After a great Deal of soul searching 1 decided to change my son s last name to mine. Jeb could t care less but his parents Are furious. They have told me that if their grandson s name is changed they never want to see me or my son again. Am i wrong to do this Ann do you think my son would want the name of a Man he barely knows a Man who never was a father to him my family loves my son dearly and so do 1.1 think he would be proud to have our name. Please give me your thoughts on this. Single Parent in South Carolina dear South Carolina Jebus parents have no business trying to manipulate you. If Yon want to change your child s last name go ahead and do it. Letters to Ann Landers should to addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chicago in. 60611-0562. C creators Syndicate his son any time he wants. He has t been around for four months which is pretty conclusive evidence that a Noble lie might be acceptable dear Abby in a recent column you told a distraught woman that there is no Way a girl s virginity can be restored. Maybe not but the enclosed news item May be considered a Good alternative. I use this news item in my political philosophy class when we discuss a a Plato a Noble lie Quot a and whether its really a Good idea to always Tell the truth. Professor David Lindsay Central Missouri state University Warrensburg to. Dear readers the a news item Quot is from the Kansas City Star sept. 19, 1974, and the dateline is Tokyo. Here it is in part an anxious Mother sits in or. Fumio Umezawa a office tearfully relating her tale of woe her daughter about to be married is not the Virgin her Fiance thinks she is. The doctor a plastic surgeon tells mama not to worry for $175 he can take care of the problem with a surgical procedure that takes Only five minutes. In japanese it is known As a a Maku Sai a Seiz Hymen rebirth. The doctor said he performed his first Maku Sansei in 1945 when a hysterical woman appeared in his Hospital after having been raped she said by an american Sailor. A she was desperate a the doctor said. A her whole world collapsed since she would no longer be Able to marry the Fine japanese Man to whom she was  the Good doctor added a this operation served a Noble see removing guilt feelings and the necessity to. Lich is dishonourable. And besides a girl should not have to feel that she has ruined her entire life if she has one or two weak  who s counting the doctor stated that he refuses to perform this operation on a a a Geisha who requests it Only for Commer quibble dear Abby Mou that the election is Over Aften t Wou Artw that Tou ddn t vote7 it Lous vote u 0uu7 not Howe Nade Duffe Flemett Iii we outdone apr \ i a �?�4 i unfortunately there me to a How Fafone. Us Peel 1he sane 0f that Moo to rep Hap them hmm to vote it yer Makeim Tould have made a piffle fuel 10 the out Che. To too Hean that there m other people who would have Walton in new name too i Cial purposes. Dear Abby this concerns questioning the propriety of a telc Ihone invitation to a wedding that came just two weeks before the wedding i am sure Many will join me in disagreeing with you. This is the very understandable system of the a a a list and the a a by list not because of social order but because of Cost and family limitations. For example when my son was married his Bride a a allotted him 27 guests. When some regrets came in i immediately issued invitations by Telephone and most were accepted graciously. Anyone who has dealt with invitations knows How excruciating it is to Cut the list. I done to know anyone who would stand on ceremony and refuse an invitation because it came later than some others. This past year we received an invitation by phone from a dear Friend who earlier had apologized for not including us in her limited number for her songs wedding. It was 10 Days before the wedding and we were delighted to accept. My husband in fact joked that a 10-Day notice meant they probably had a a  list and we were on that but who cares those invited Early or late get to go and have a Good time and the Host or hostess can fill All the seats. Adeline in Homewood ill. Dear Adeline i nearly said a Sweet Quot Adeline but i m sure you be had your fill of that i Admire your generous attitude it has probably saved you Many an ulcer. However i still think it s very insensitive to make guests feel that they Are on any list other than the a a Quot list. And when an invitation to a formal affair is issued by Telephone less than two weeks before the a big Day Quot the recipient cannot miss the implication. Letters Tor this column should to addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris Iii. 61054. C Universal Pross Syndicate can t be eve x us amp he six the runt won. 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