European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 7, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 10 b the stars and stripes i religion saturday november 7,1992archdiocese sets background checks St. Paul Minn. Up  Catholic archdiocese in Minnesota will conduct sexual misconduct background checks on More than 4,000 of its Lay employees to help restore Trust in the Church following a string of sexual abuse cases involving clergy. A spokesman for the archdiocese of St. Paul Minneapolis said the policy will not go into effect until september 1993 to give employees time to get used to it. The screening will include checks with the judges refuse to intervene in rabbis ruling Miami up a declaring Quot we Are not talmudic sages a two Florida appeals judges have declined to interpret jewish Law in a business dispute Over a $159,250 payment ordered by a panel of rabbis. The 3rd District court of Appeal sent the Case Back to a lower court leaving a Dade county judge to decide whether the rabbis order is final. The dispute began when David Schoen an importer exporter from los Angeles sold a shipment of Latex gloves to two Miami Beach wholesalers Tzvi Ainsworth and Mencken Fellig. The wholesalers claimed the gloves were in bad condition and refused to pay. The three men All orthodox jews took their dispute to a religious tribunal that settles arguments according to jewish Law and custom. A panel of three rabbis determined that Ainsworth and Fellig owed Schoen $159,250. While the unhappy wholesalers appealed to a higher tribunal Schoen asked Dade county circuit court judge Maria Korvick to enforce the award. Korvick did so. Attorneys for Ainsworth and Fellig then appealed insisting the arbitration process was not Complete until the Case could be reviewed by a higher religious tribunal. They asked Florida a 3rd District court of Appeal to invalidate kor Vicki a ruling. Judges Natalie Baskin and James Jorgenson said the finality of the rabbis decision was in doubt. Minnesota Bureau of criminal apprehension. Employees will be required to sign a statement that they have never committed a sexual crime or abuse. A we done to really anticipate any problems a said Jerry Klein. A we obviously need to take some Steps to restore the Trust that has been lost. The background checks Are not unique for the Catholic Church a the St. Cloud diocese instituted such screenings about a year ago. But Klein said the archdiocese s program Breaks new ground because of Quot the very comprehensive Way we re addressing the whole variety of issues of sexual abuse in the  clergy have been screened for a number of years he said. The archdiocese has created a new document understanding sexual issues in ministry an accompanying video and an information education plan that is to be widely distributed. The video includes actors portraying some types of improper conduct and experts explaining How to recognize and handle them. The document contains sections addressing education and prevention services to people harmed by clergy responses to clergy accused of misconduct misconduct by other Church employees and responses to parishes where clergy abuse has occurred. There also Are Model Parish policies information about employee background checks and relevant state statutes. Sister Christian Natt left wipes her eyes at Belleville 111., memorial services honouring five nuns killed in  mourn five slain nuns Belleville Iii. Apr thousands jammed a Church thursday for a funeral mass for five nuns killed in liberians civil War. A these Are our first martyrs of Charity a said sister Mildred Gross Mother Superior of the order in Ruma to which the five belonged. A the deaths of these five Sisters Are not the end for them or for us a she said thrusting her fist into the air. A your five Sisters Are at Home with their god. But their spirit  Sisters Shirley and Mary Joel Kolmer and Barbara Ann Muttra Agnes Mueller and Kathleen Mcguire were members of the order of the adores of the blood of Christ. A two of the nuns were slain during a siege on liberians capital of Monrovia after leaving their Convent to Rescue a bounded child oct. 20. The other three were last seen by a Parish priest two Days later. Their bodies still Haven to been recovered. Two foot High Black and White photog a of the five were placed in front of the altar at St. Feury a Cathedral on thursday. Red carnations White roses and candles rested below the pictures. A today we celebrate the heavenly Harvest of gods saints a said Bishop James Keleher of the diocese of Belleville. A because the truth is what was sown in the Rich soil of Ruma has been harvested to gods  about 2,000 people filled the Church. Those who  find space in pews or folding chairs stood in the Back or crowded into the Balcony. Children from the sister Thea Bowman school Catholic school in East St. Louis Sang Here i am lord and performed a dance in memory of the Sisters. A four woman Folk group played  should be permitted to defend themselves editor s note the following questions and answers arc excerpted from the Book or Dobson answers your questions. Or James c. Dobson is president of focus on the family a non profit organization dedicated to the preservation of the Home. Question my 4-Ycar-old frequently comes running Home in tears because she has been hit by one of her Little friends. 1 have taught her that it is not right to hit others but now they Are making life miserable for or. James c. Dobson answers your questions her. What should 1 Tell her about defending herself or. Dobson when youngsters play together they each want to have Ebest toys and determine the ground rules to their aah stage. If they find they can dominate by simply flinging a Well aimed fist at the nose of their playmate someone is Likely to get Hurt. In a sure there Are people who disagree with me on this Issue but 1 believe you should teach your child to defend himself or herself when attacked. Later they can be taught to a turn the other Cheek a which even Maiure adults find difficult to implement. 1 recently consulted with a Mother who was worried about her Small daughters inability to protect herself from aggression. There was a child in the neighbourhood who would crack 3-year-old Ann in the face at the slightest provocation. This Little bully named Joan was very Small and feminine but she never Felt the sting of retaliation because Ann had been taught not to fight Back i recommended that Annas Mother Tell her to return Joan a attack if Joan hits first. Several Days later the Mother heard a loud altercation outside followed by a Brief scuffle. Then Joan began crying and went Home. Ann walked casually into the House with her hands in her pockets and casually explained a Joan socked me. So i had to help her remember not to hit me  she and Joan have played much More peacefully since that time. Generally speaking a Parent should emphasize the foolishness of fighting. But to Force a child to stand passively while being clobbered is to leave him or her at the mercy of his cold blooded Peers question i am 13 and 1 feel miserable about myself is there anything 1 can do or Dobson first you need to understand that you Are not alone. When you go to school tomorrow quietly watch the students who Are coming and going. I assure you Many of them have the same concerns that trouble you. They reveal these doubts by being very shy and quiet by being extremely angry and mean by being silly by being afraid to participate in a game or contest by blushing frequently or by acting proud or a stuck  you la soon learn to recognize the signs of inferiority and then you a know its a very common disorder. It will give you More Confidence to know that everyone is afraid of embarrassment and ridicule that we re All sitting in the same Leaky boat trying to plug the watery holes. Second i advise you to look squarely at the worries that keep gnawing at you from the Back of your mind or from deep within your heart causing a Black Cloud to hang Over your head Day and night. Then list All the things that you most dislike about yourself. Nobody is going to see this paper except the people whom you choose to show it to so you can be completely honest. Write Down everything that a bothering you. Identify your most serious problems As Best As possible. Whatever concerns you write it Down the Best you can. Then when you re finished go Back through the list and put a Mark by those items that worry you the most a the problems you spend the most time thinking and fretting about. Third think about each item on the list. Give your greatest creative thought to what might be done to change the things you done to like. If you wish you might share the paper with someone in whom you have Confidence. That person can then help you map out a plan for improvement. You la feel better for having faced your problems. The key to mental health is being Able to accept what you cannot change. After you be done what you can to Deal with your problems 1 feel you should take the paper on which the most painful items Are written and Burn it in a private ceremony. Distributed by Mesa publishing corp. Correspondence to or. Dobson should to get addressed to focus on the family . Boa 444, Colorado Springs Colo. &0903