European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 9, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse Wednesday december 9, 1992 child of wife s affair a precious gift Ann Landers dear Ann Landers my wife and i have a solid marriage bound together by three Beautiful children. If i am so Happy Why am i writing it is because i have something to say on a subject you touch on from time to time. The other Man. Several years ago our marriage was a bit Rocky. I was not As attentive As i should have been. My wife a Ellen a had an affair with the married attorney who handled her fathers estate. I suspected. She confessed. We were both certain that several people in town knew about it. Three months after the affair ended my wife gave birth to a Beautiful baby boy. There is no question in my mind or Ellen a that this child was fathered by her Law yer Lover. The boy is now in school. He is Blond and Blue eyed like his biological father. Our other children Are both dark eyed brunettes like my wife and me. The lawyer Lover has three daughters a no sons. In a sure whenever he sees this Beautiful boy he Dies inside. I could not love this child More if i had fathered him. He is truly a gift from heaven. I am writing to say that life is full of challenges and this was an enormous one for me. I met it and have emerged a Winner. It was a phrase of yours in a speech you gave in Detroit a few years ago that really stuck and got me through this ordeal. You said a it Isnit what happens to you but How you handle it that a belated thanks Ann. Illinois dear Illinois what a Beautiful letter your wife is a very Lucky woman. I Hope this child brings you a ton of happiness. You deserve it. Dear Ann Landers May i unload on you i can to take it anymore. If you have a solution Short of murdered like to hear it. I am the Mother of three. Of course my kids have friends. All their Little friends come Over every Day and they stay until 8 . These kids Are Only 6 and 7 years old Ann. I Send them Home at dinner time but they Are right Back at our front door in 15 minutes. Sometimes we Haven to even finished eating. Where Are their parents these Little ones get Home just in time to go to bed. Does no to anyone play with their kids anymore Why do people have children if they done to want to be bothered with them if you have trouble thinking up things to do go to the Library and find some Craft books. Check with the Myca it has some excellent programs to occupy your kids. Take them to visit some of your relatives so they can get to know them. What in a saying is please quit cleaning your House from top to Bottom and ironing your dish towels. Spend some time with your children. After All you brought them into the world so Why not treat them As if you want them around the hangout in Royal Oak Mich. Dear Royal i wonder How Many parents will Sec themselves in the column today. Thanks for a letter that is sure to make some folks squirm. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562 Chicago 111.60611-0562. Adopted son Hurt by rejection dear Abby we have a 21-year-old adopted son. A a Jim had never expressed interest in meeting his natural Mother until two of his doctors suggested it might be a Good idea. The reason was the Many medical problems he has had. When he discussed it with us we were very supportive. We had always told him that he was Given up for adoption because of his mothers love for him and her feeling that he needed More than she could give a which we truly believed. When Jim pursued finding her he knew she could possibly refuse to meet him or the courts might refuse to open the file. However the courts did open the file and located the natural Mother. The woman agreed for Jim to have limited information about his background but she refused to meet him or give him any information about his biological father or about any other Sib quibble dear Abby Lings. Now i wish the courts had refused to open the file rather than having the Mother refuse to meet Jim. I know her reasons Are probably justified but even though he says it does no to matter i can feel his pain in again feeling rejection. In a wondering what your opinion is. No names or cities please. Pennsylvania Mother dear Mother _ it is most unfortunate that your son was a a rejected in the manner that he was. His feelings could have been spared had there been a More sensitive a go Between handling the possible meeting. Apparently the woman did not want anyone to know anything about that part of her life. Perhaps in time she will change her mind. Meanwhile god bless you a it is your Good Fortune to have this Lovely son. Please done to judge his biological Mother too harshly. God Only knows what kind of a life she has had. A letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447. Mount Morris Iii. 61054. 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