European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 15, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 b the stars and stripes tuesday december 15, 1992 today a crossword family puts a Strain on Good cheer dear Ann Landers i have resolved not to spend the holidays this year with my family. It is too nerve wracking and stressful and i do not want to subject my kids to the same phony sense of a a duty that i was raised with. I Hope you will Quot print this letter because ill bet there Are millions of people out there who feel As i do. Aunt a Sally a who recently married a Oswald a talks endlessly about her wonderful new husband and How Rotten her first marriage was a All this in front of the children. Her a a wonderful new husband spends All Day in the Kitchen doing the dishes and is a total Moron. The Man has the q of a House Plant. A aunt a a Grace usually gets plastered and ends up crying in the bathroom. Everybody knows this routine by heart and pretends that nothing is wrong. Uncle a Ralph a who never married gives interminable lectures to those of us who arc raising children declaring that we Are Lousy parents and will a pay for it when the kids Are older. My youngest sister spends All Day breast feeding and Ann Landers talking non Stop about her labor pains As if she is the Only person in inc world who Ever gave birth. My older brother tells tasteless jokes and espouses bizarre conspiracy theories involving the Pope Blacks jews and the labor unions. He has a College degree and never lets us forget it. Meanwhile his ditzy wife is on the Back porch smoking cigarettes which he thinks she gave up two years ago. I be decided i want no More of this hypocrisy. In a sick and tired of pretending. As i write this letter i wonder How Many of your readers feel the same Way about their families. Sign me Cheverly my. Dear Chev i Here Are undoubtedly several readers who share your views but happily a great Many Brothers Sisters sons daughters cousins uncles and aunts really do love one another and look Forward to Holiday celebrations. Some of my happiest childhood memories arc of family celebrations passover dinners and picnics in Sioux City and Omaha. To this Day i have cousins i love dearly. Too bad you and your children Are missing so Many of the Joys in life. Lotters to Ann land prs should to addressed to her at . Box 11562 Chicago. Iii. 60611-0562. A c creators Syndicate twins want to be treated As individuals dear Abby help i am a teen Ager with an identical twin sister. 1 he problem is our relatives. While growing up we were around our relatives a lot visits to our grandparents Homes once a week and get together two or three times a month. Jane and i do look alike but we have our Diller nees. Our friends can Tell us apart it s the relatives who can t. We Are treated like a package Deal. They Call us by each others names and done to even try to get it right. They say Quot whichever one you Are will you do this or that a this really makes us mad. I wish they would understand that we Are two unique people with different personalities and should never be treated like one person with one name and one set of feelings. Our other sister is getting married soon and i need your advice on How to handle these relatives. Since you re a twin you should know. Teen age twin dear twin unlike you and your twin sister my twin and i enjoyed the attention we Drew because we were identical twins. Our Mother dressed us alike until the Day we were married at a double wedding and we loved it. We never wanted to be a individuals a because due to our dear Abby twin Hood we stood out from the crowd. Fortunately in retrospect we thrived in spite of being a a package  however 1 would not recommend it. If i had twins i would encourage individuality. As a a identical As my womb mate and i were those who knew us Well could easily Tell us apart. And the men whom we eventually married agreed that from the moment they Laid eyes on us they had no trouble telling us apart to them we were one of a kind individuals. A As for you and Jane since its not possible to change other people i suggest you change your attitude. Done to get a a made when your relatives confuse you it goes with the territory. Ask any twin who has been blessed with twin Hood. Dear Abby i have a male Friend i think the world of but i can to for the life of me understand Why he goes around with nose hairs and car hairs that Are so noticeable that it detracts from his Good looks. He dresses Well and is otherwise very Well groomed. He has a thatch of thick Black hair on his head but the hair growing out of his nose and ears is so noticeable it spoils his appearance. I Haven to got the nerve to Tell him. 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