European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 18, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday december 18, 1992a 2nd Chance for fathers who run dear Ann Landers i am a teen age Parent who thinks most of your advice is thoughtful and Wise. Your response however to the Mother of the 8-year-old girl whose father ran out on her is wrong with a capital w. You told her to Givie him another Chance and allow him to get to know his child. When the father of my daughter Rode off into the Sunset i was upset but relieved. I knew what a terrible influence he would have been on that Beautiful Little girl. Although he donated half the genes and was entitled to parental rights he surrendered those rights when he left. He has never contributed a cent to help pay medical Bills or buy clothing and food. He does no to even know his child a name. Despite the pressures and sacrifices a single Parent must make in a sure my daughter is better off never knowing How Little her father cared for her. He had the Choice to stay and face the music or turn and run. I never had that Choice. If a Man runs once there a a Good possibility he will run again. Where does that leave the child or the Mother i will Tell you. In a state of constant emotional upheaval. You say the father was Only 17 when he left and afraid of the responsibilities of parenthood. That is pure bunk. Consider for a moment How harshly a Mother is judged when she Abandons her child. Ann Landers that father tossed his daughter away eight years ago. He does no to deserve the second Chance. Quot been there in Minnesota dear Minnesota sorry but i believe my advice was Good and i Hope that Mother takes it because it would be in the Best interest of her child. I Hope too that in time you will be Able to set aside your bitterness and be a Healing influence on your daughter. If you allow your anger to infect this Little girl she will grow up to hate and mistrust All men. Is this what you want for her the next letter might give you pause for thought dear Ann Landers i would like to respond to Quot one Day at a time in California a the woman who did no to want to allow her daughters father to come Back into her life after he ran out on them. I too am the Mother of an 8-year-old girl who never knew her father. He left before she was a year old. He married the woman he was cheating with and they now have two sons. Despite my efforts and those of his parents he has no interest in establishing any kind of relationship with his daughter. She Longs for him but he has never set eyes on her or sent her so much As a postcard. It kills me the Way he lavishes time and affection on his sons and deprives his first child his Only daughter of the most meager scrap of attention. A heartsick mom in . Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chicago 111.60611-0562. C creators Syndicate foot specialists Are real doctors too dear Abby. Last week at a dinner party i was asked what my husband does for a living. I replied Quot he a a  the questioner looked at me rather smugly and said a ooh so he a not a real doctor a Abby i wish to inform your readers that my husband and All podiatrists Are Quot real doctors. My husband earned a pre  degree from a major University then he completed four years of medical school which placed emphasis on the leg ankle and foot. He then completed two years of a Hospital residency in his specially. Today he is highly skilled foot and ankle surgeon. He admits patients to hospitals and prescribes medications. The Only difference Between my husband and an . Are the letters at the end of his name a podiatrists Are dams which Means Quot doctor of podiatric  there Are Many diabetics in our Community who might have lost their limbs to amputation were it not for the highly specialized skills of my husband. Please let your readers know this As i am speaking for Many. Foot doctors wife quibble dear Abby dear wife since some people May not know what a podiatrist is the next time you Are asked what your husband docs for a living say Quot he a a  he has earned that prestigious title. Dear Abby whenever my Mother in Law buys my 4-Ycar-old daughter a pretty dress she says to Pequot when a Elaine grows out of this i want you to Send it to her Little Cousin in  on one particular occasion she asked a if i buy Elaine that doll we saw in the window yesterday will you see to it that she gives it to so and so another relative when she a finished with it a i guess it never occurred to my Mother in Law that i might want to give these things to someone else after Elaine has outgrown them. Burned up in Bremerton Wash. Dear burned up once a gift is Given it belongs to the recipient to do with As he or she chooses. To instruct the recipient to give it to so and so is a gift with strings attached which is not much of a gift. Letters Lor this column should to address of to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris Iii. 61054. 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