European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 30, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Saturday january 30, 1993 the stars and stripes Page 21 put imagination to use for gifts today a crossword dear Ann Landers Well another one arrived today a an invitation for my 7-Yearoid son to attend a a a Friend so birthday party. So what a the problem the problem is that this Quot Friend is a child whom my son secs Only in school. There Are at least 20 other children in Quot Jimmy so class whom he secs Only in school and they too have birthday parties. This Means i have to go out and buy a gift for 20 kids i Don t know. This comes to at least $200 a year these birthday parties have been going on since the kids were in kindergarten together. Last year Jimmy went to three parties in one weekend. No child needs that much social life and the Cost of gifts is considerable. In a not writing for advice Ann. I just _ want to Tell those Well meaning parents to Stop this nonsense. Parties should be for family and or Good friends not kids you go to school with. Sign me a partied out in Buffalo Ann Landers dear Buffalo sorry in a marching to a different drummer. Its better to invite the entire class than to Hurt feelings by leaving out the less popular kids. You done to need to spend $10 on a gift. Shop around. Or bake something special that kids like. A Little imagination can go a Long is dear Ann Landers i am handicapped although one would not know it by looking at me. I Nave a Decca own my car and often when parking i get stares and rude remarks such As a where is your wheelchair a strangely enough i see Many cars parked illegally in these same handicapped spots sometimes with one occupant waiting in the car As if this allows them to Park there while i drive around looking for a space. How about a Snappy answer to let these clods know i am not obligated to explain the nature of my disability Dorothy in Washington dear Dorothy sorry in a fresh out of Snappy answers especially one that might result in a fat lip. Silence is sometimes the Best response i recommend it. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Bon 11562, Chicago. Ill 80611-0562. C Croaton Syndicate woman should share dating costs dear Abby i am a 69-year-old divorced gentleman who is dating a 65-year-old widow. Our relationship is very Good except for one thing whenever we go anywhere we have to go in my pickup truck although she has a very Nice late Model automobile in her garage. When we go out to eat or to a movie i always pick up the Tab. She told me that her late husband he a been dead a Little Over two years left her very a a comfortable a whatever that Means. I took it to mean that she is quite Well off. She has never offered to pay for a thing. She does have me Over to her place for a Good Home cooked meal about once a month. She  very Well and lives in a Beautiful Condo which she said she paid Cash for. My question is it still the responsibility of the Man to treat the lady to everything a every time this arrangement puts a crimp in my budget and in a wondering if in today a world the woman should t share in the expense of dating. I be dated a few other women and we always went a dutch a or else we took turns picking up the Tab. How do you see it Abby is it still the Many a responsibility to treat the lady no matter what a Little Short in Lehigh acres dear Seifort in today a world the indy shares in the expense of dating if she and the gentleman Date exclusively and regularly As you and this new Friend. I suggest you Tell the lady that you enjoy her Compa dear Abby by and would like to spend even More time with her but your budget does no to allow it. Dear Abby i am confused and angry about something and Hope you can help. I live in a Rural area and shop by Catalon a lot. I am confused Over the Quot shipping and handling a charges. What docs this mean done to mail order companies realize they must a a handle their merchandise 1 expect lower prices through mail order because they have less overhead. I love to shop with a Catalon in the Comfort of my own Home but i get really angry when i have picked out an item and find the Price increased sometimes 100 percent because of shipping and handling charges i am very familiar with ups and Post office shipping charges and they go by weight a not Dollar amount. But it seems that All of the mail order Cata logs go by Dollar amount which does no to make any sense to me. Could you please find the reason Why they go by Dollar amount and How they figure their shipping charges i wanted to order a pin recently and the shipping and handling charges increased the Price by 25 percent. Cindy Duncan Gypsum Colo. Dear Cindy i checked with the direct marketing association. Shipping and handling charges by their members arc done in various ways. Some companies use a Flat fee others charge by weight alone others go by weight and postal zone and still others go by Dollar amount. But if customers feel that the charges arc unreasonable they should Call the customer service number listed in the Catalon and let the Vendor know. Letten Ter this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Bon 447, mount Morris Iii. 61054. C univ Oral pros Syndicate quibble old old Tou like 60 Bike Riding. Be Wiott Itotia arc do kidding a Idoft fou is vhf super Boul Urt g0in6 id get a Case of but and Par myself in front of the to. A a do you Hind if x wonder soothing our loud Lance yes. Because i know i 1uomt l1kc it gloria., How do you across 1 sirs counterpart 0 swing fan 44 its All in your head 40 scandinavian Metropolis 12 one of our so indigenous neighbors 52 movie 13 stir up 14 whale Bone 15 Flotow opera 16 Dill seed 17 mrs. 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