European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 6, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                A amps fit european markets Are filled with fresh fruits and vegetables displayed in the open air to make diem irresistible. A. A a Quot a a a you can Lead kids to vegetables and with some tips Nike pm eat by Bea Lewis news Day it s no easy task getting kids to eat their fruits and vegetables. Some parents try bribes. Or begging. Or fear. Quot my father said if i Don t eat my fruits and vegetables i will get sick and go to the Hospital Quot said Tina Yang. Lindsay Cohen says her Mother has a Kinder and gentler approach Quot ust taste them Quot her Mother pleads. But then Lindsay said her Mother agrees to buy Only those Lindsay says Are of. That never includes spinach. Or Lima Beans or Brussels sprouts which she and her classmates agreed Are High on the Quot Yucky Quot list. Most of the fifth graders in a class in Queens nyx a thought classmate Walter Fisher had a Good idea Quot serve fruit with chocolate syrup whipped Cream and a  the youngsters divided Over classmate Kristen Pinkerton s suggestion to Quot hide the peas in the mashed potatoes Quot said they might accept advice from Davon Blake whose Mother Quot hides the turnips in her Sweet potato  new Day asked a group of 10-and 11 year Olds to vote for their five favorite fruits and vegetables. Federal health authorities have recommended that americans Over age 2 eat five Servings of fruits and vegetables a Day. Watermelon and apples rated As favorite fruits carrots got the most votes in the vegetable category with Corn and potatoes close behind. The kids echoed Many suggestions of 30 California youngsters Ages 8 and 9, who participated in a Market research project by Dole for the american Academy of paediatrics Public service message. Quot we were surmised that the kids had definite opinions about How to sell the Good vegetable message to other kids Quot said Laura Lee Disogra who Heads the nutrition department at Dole. Her research found Crunchy vegetables have More Appeal to kids than Quot Mushy Quot or overcooked vegetables. Many youngsters said they liked their vegetables served raw Cut up Small and served with some kind of dipping sauce. Some said they liked raw vegetables tossed in a salad or lightly stir Fried in a wok. Quot that s Why the kids like the Broccoli served at chinese restaurants Quot said Disogra vegetables Quot hidden Quot in familiar foods a vegetables atop pizza or mixed in with Spaghetti sauce a were popular but Disogra was surprised that so Many youngsters liked eating vegetables in soup. And if they help make it they la taste it the group told the grown ups. Quot it s a Basic nutrition tool a it gives kids ownership and Pride Over the things they make Quot she said. The kids did t want to be lectured about the Virtues of vegetables make it fun the youngsters advised the marketing executives. Quot Tell it in a song have great music. Don t preach and Don t Tell us it s Good for us Quot Disogra said the children urged her Disogra took this advice to the paediatrics Academy which sponsored a with Dole s financing a a Public service message featuring children Quot rapping Quot to have Quot five a Day Quot a fruits and vegetables that is. Quot we wanted a child Friendly promotion to show the value and Good taste of eating fruits and vegetables said Ronald Kleinman chairman of the nutrition committee for the Academy. There s nothing wrong with eating a Candy bar he said. But the Academy wanted to balance the message of the 200 to commercials promoting High fat sugary and often Quot nutritionally flawed Quot foods that run Between cartoons. Quot we wanted to raise the awareness that fruits and vegetables Are an important part of a youngster s diet Quot said Kleinman. When trying to make changes in your children s diets Don t whine but instead keep your nutritional message positive Disogra said. It seems All they hear is eat less of this less of that she said but telling people to eat More of something rather than less would deliver a double message. Quot when you teach kids to eat More fruits and vegetables we Hope they la be eating less fat Quot she said. Disogra s research turned up a couple of other interesting facts. Quot we were surprised that boys enjoyed a larger variety of vegetables than girls Quot she said. But despite that vegetables Are still a Tough sell and if kids have to choose Between fruits and vegetables they usually go with the fruits. Getting kids to eat Broccoli May still be a losing Battle but an Apple a Day looks like a winnable one. On the family keeping self respect. Helps save marriage in a certain that in a losing my husband. He. Shows signs of boredom and total disinterest in me. He treats me rudely in Public and is virtually silent at Home. Our sex life is nonexistent. I have begged him to love me to no Avail. What can i do to save my marriage these Are symptoms of a condition which i Call Quot the trapped  More often than not the Man is thinking these kinds of thoughts a a in a 35 years old or whatever age and in a not getting any  i really want to spend the rest of my Fife with this woman i m bored with her and there Are others who interest me More but there s no Way out cause i m stuck. These Are the feelings that usually proceed infidelity and they can certainty be Felt in the Strain Between a husband and wife. How should a woman respond when she reads the cues and realizes her husband feels trapped obviously the worst thing she can do is reinforce the Cage around him yet that is Likely to be her initial reaction. As she thinks about How important he is to her and what on Earth she would do without him and whether he s involved with another woman her anxiety May compel her to grab hold of him. But her begging and pleading Only drive him to disrespect her More and the relationship continues to splinter. There is a better Way which i have found productive in counselling. The most successful approach to bringing a partner Back toward the Center of a relationship is not to follow when he moves away from in instead of asking Quot Why do you do this to me Quot and Quot Why wont you talk to me Quot a wife should pull Back a few inches herself. When she passes her husband in the Hall and would normally touch him or seek his attention she should move by him without notice. Silence by him is greeted by silence in return. She should not be hostile or aggressive ready to explode when he finally asks her to say what is on her mind. Rather she responds in kind being quietly confident Independent and mysterious. The effect of this behaviour is to open the door on his trap. Instead of clamping herself to his neck like a Leech she releases her grip and introduces a certain a Challenge to his mind. He May begin to wonder if he has gone too far and May be losing something precious to him. If that will not turn him around then the relationship is totally dead. What i am recommending is extremely difficult to express in written form and i am certain to be misinterpreted by some readers on this Issue. I Haven t suggested that you Rise up in anger that you stamp your feet and demand your Domestic rights or that you sulk or pout in silence. No the answer is not round in hostile aggression but in quiet self respect in Short personal dignity in a marriage is maintained the same Way it was produced during the dating Days. _ the attitude should be Quot i love you and i am committed to you but i Only control my half of the relationship. Can to demand your love in return. You came to me of your own free will when we agreed to marry. N0 one forced us together. The same free will is necessary to keep our love alive. If you choose to walk away from me will be crushed and Hurt beyond t b0pause 1 have withheld nothing of myself. Nevertheless i will let you go and ultimately i will . I could t demand your affection in the beginning and i can Only request it  res to Finif f.,at Eleasin of 0,9 door 0,1��trap often results in revolutionary changes in a relationship