European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 13, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse Saturday november 13, 1993 the stars and stripes Page 21 dear Ann Landers last May my husband and i were driving from West Orange n. J., to Washington d.c., to visit our Daugh Ter. We were bringing her mattress which was secure Don the top of our truck. Shortly before we got off the new Jersey Turnpike we smelled smoke we pulled Over to the shoulder and discovered that the smoke was coming from the burning mat Tress. We jumped out and pulled the burning mattress off the roof. A few minutes later anew Jersey state trooper arrived and tried to extinguish the fire. Shortly after a fire engine came and the firefighters finished the Job. In View of the fact that non of us was smoking we asked the firefighters what could possibly have caused the fire. They said someone tossed a lit cigarette out of a car and i landed on your ,. \ am writing this to Alert others to the potential Dan Ger of throwing lighted cigarettes from car windows. That thoughtless act could Nave Cost us our lives. V.w., West Orange . I be had dozens of letters complaining about this problem. Yours was the one that brought Home the Point most dramatically. Many thanks. Dear Ann Landers my Loving laughing Mother passed away recently after a Short bout with cancer. Helping care for her was a privilege but i encountered a lot of Well meaning butlers than helpful assistance from the people around us. Ann unders from cars is risky May f offer some advice to your readers 1. Dont visit the patient unannounced. Please . 2. Dont Send get Well cards to a person who snot going to get Well. And Don t write to Tell us How sad you Are. Such messages upset my Mother who was hav ing enough trouble dealing with her own sadness. Send a funny or Happy note. Or better yet share a funny memory. 3. Dont Call on the phone and cry. I cannot Tell you How Many people did this to my Mother and me. Please Call when you Are Able to be upbeat and offer Asick person some cheerful diversion. 4. Dont Send the patient Candy or Rich foods the Yare unable to eat. Ask what the patient can have and offer to prepare something Light and nourishing. Homemade soups Are always a treat. 5. Dont say if there is anything i can do please let me i heard this dozens of times and it Al ways sounded phony. Cook or bake something. Drop off a humorous Book or a funny video. Come Over and visit the caretaker if the patient is gravely ill. Caretakers get lonely and depressed and can use a lift. If you feel awkward and dont know what to say or do be honest and say just that. We can then help you so you will know How to help us through a difficult time. Missing mom in la. Dear missing mom so Many people who mean Well often say and do the wrong thing around the terminally ill and their families. You have made a meaningful contribution and thank you. Latars to Ann Landers should a addressed to har at . Bo11562, pm cago.ir.e06t 1-0562. A creators Syndicate today s crossword retired group s program aids widows dear Abby you recently published a letter about women being sheltered by husbands from financial matters and what a rude Awakening they get when the husband Dies and they have to Deal with decisions. There is an educational Gram available to empower women to take charge or their financial lives sponsored by caring organizations throughout the country. The women s financial in formation program whip is available through the american association for retired persons Harp. In the past five years thousands of women across the United states have become in formed and involved in their financial destiny. Many programs As in Colorado Are provided by cooperative Extension consumer and family programs which Are operated As part of the land Grant University system. Quibble dear Abby whip is a six to eight week program length de pends on local needs where financial speakers present information on topics such As banking credit budget ing retirement investment goal setting. Social Security and insurance. Participants receive a Workbook to As Sist them As they learn about financial options. While the program was originally designed for mid dle aged and older women the average participant Aegis in the 50s. In our programs we Nave had an age Range from 19 to 85. Although targeted to women menace also encouraged to attend and couples find it especially enlightening. I encourage your readers to Contact Tarp and find out where whip programs Are offered in their states. In Colorado Contact your local cooperative Extension office Luann k. 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