European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 1, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Pago 22 the stars and stripes wednesday december 1,1993 dear Ann Landers you were out to lunch in your response to Quot is. Chips in  she was the 60-year-old schoolteacher who was considering marriage to the-65-year-old Man he insisted that they split All expenses Down the Middle. I was in her spot a few years ago. My Man was 62 when we married and i was 55, he insisted that i pay for half of everything and in Exchange he promised to leave me 10 percent of his assets i paid for half the House but when he died 1 discovered that each of his three kids were left 30 percent of his estate. That meant 1 ended up owning Only Quot 10 percent of my Home when insisted on Selling it i got less than Ough i had put More than 550,000 of Man before you split Bills Ann Landers my Quot parti $15,000, e my ners even though own Money into it. My share of the rest of my husbands estate came to about 510,000 while each of his children received 530,000. Guess who had to pay the funeral expenses and Thart not All. His kids were upset because i refused to buy a 515,000 casket. Tell is. Chips to keep looking Ann. Somewhere there is a Man out there who will want her enough to support her with no strings attached. 1 wish 1 had kept looking or stayed single. Been there in Idaho there s Hope for dear Abby More than 12 million people in America suffer from. Clinical depression  realize it Quot depression is a word commonly used to describe temporarily Quot Dawn. Moods or sad feelings but for Many it Means something much More. \ clinical depression is a serious medical illness that causes persistent changes in a person s mood behaviour and feelings. Too often the illness is Asso 7 dated with fear and shame which v prevents the individual from asking Basic questions about its causes and treatment. They Vita a it As the result of some soil of personal weakness. Research on clinical de ression has established that ones family history is a risk. It actor. And in recent years there is increased sensitivity to How environmental factors such As stress or personal loss can trigger the Onset of an episode. Clinical depression often is accompanied by alcohol or drug abuse and tragically 15 percent of those with severe untreated depression kill themselves each year. The National Institute of mental health estimates that7 in 80 percent of the cases individuals can be successfully treated with medication psychotherapy or a combination dear Abby p it dear Idaho 1 plead temporary insanity. Thousands of readers said my advice stank and then cited their own experiences to prove it Here s More dear Ann ladders in a writing about is. Chips in Miami who asked for advice about marrying 65-year-old widower. He had presented her with a list of demands that included her sharing half of the financial Load. You told her it would be a shame to pass up an Opportunity to have a Nice companion in the evening of her life. This Man is not Quot a Nice companion Quot for the evening of her life. He comes across As a cagey character who has. Presented her with a list of non negotiable demands about financial sharing. If he were truly the great Guy you seem to think he is he would explain his philosophy of financial sharing and sit Down with her and work out a plan that b mutually agreeable. In a convinced this Man will bang her grief not happiness. She a better off alone. Please reconsider your advice.j.k., Mill Creek Wash. Dear jul consider my advice reconsidered. Thanks to All who a a a a. A wrote. A. A. Cutters to Ann Lindt should by add med to her at . To 1190% cd eego.rn.s06i 1-0962. C creators syn feet. Of both. The National mental health association in Alexandria va., is conducting a National education Campaign on Finical depression. You would be doing your readers a tremendous service by informing them about this Campaign. While effective treatment is available Only one third of those with clinical depression seek treatment. The rest continue to suffer often ruining their lives and the lives of their loved ones. A Barbara Hirst mental health association of Westchester county new York dear Barbara. Thank you Tor writing. With the Holiday season upon us Many fall victim to depression because of the stress they place upon themselves to have a Good time. They feel Iso Latch convinced that everyone is having a wonderful time except themselves. The National mental health association has published a free Booklet titled answers to your questions about clinical depression. To obtain a copy readers in the United states and Canada can Call toll free 800 2281114. For additional information . 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