European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 2, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Thursday december 2, 1993 p. M. Ann Landers dear Ann Landers this is a response to the widow who said her current gentleman Friend was wonderful in every Way but he was a big disappointment in the bedroom. She said the a a a a Man was not As Well built As her deceased husband and consequently sex was Lousy i would like to make a suggestion that could help not Only Ner but other couples who have unsatisfactory sex lives. It is entirely possible that the woman is the one who has the problem. I suggest that she talk to her gynaecologist about some a a renovation or surgical tightening which is a simple procedure. Child bearing can produce stretching in the genital area which makes Intercourse less pleasurable. A few stitches could do wonders to improve their sex life. Larry in new Orleans dear Larry your letter is one that could help a great Many couples recapture some of the pleasure of their younger years. Thanks for the Opportunity to relay the information. Dear Ann Landers i just had a huge argument with my Boyfriend of seven years. It s an argument we be had Many times. A a Jim has a 28-year-old daughter he still supports. A a lice lives in a nouse he rents which is also his office. She does no to pay for anything not even the phone. _ Jim has lived in my Home for six years and does not share any of the expenses. He says he wishes he could but he does t have the Money. He has promised Many times to help me with the mortgage and give me something toward my songs College education but he claims of j to contrib. My son he never has enough after Quot living expenses Ute even the smallest amount. Jim borrowed $1,500 from toe eqrly5 in our relationship and promised to pay it Back As soon As he was Able. So far 1 Haven t seen a dime. Meanwhile i work two jobs to make ends meet. A right or wrong the fact that he supports his grown daughter Sticks in my Craw. Whenever i mention this he goes crazy. Jim says it does no to Cost him anything to let Alice live in his office but i resent the fact that he is taking responsibility for this grown woman and not living up to his obligations to me. In Man attractive Young looking 52-year-old and beginning to wonder whether or not investing so Many years of my life in this Man is Wise. I do love him Ann. Do you think in a a fool is he taking me for a ride while j pay the fare7 i done to know what to do. Patsy in new York dear Patsy apparently Jim adds a dimension to your life that is valuable. It is also obvious that Alice is a Thorn in your Side. You will never Settle these differences without outside help. I suggest seeing a Counselor who will arbitrate this troubled relationship. Jim needs to hear from a disinterested party that he is not doing his daughter any favors by allowing her to free Load on him nor is Fie being fair to you when he continues to put her first. Meanwhile ask yourself that same old Moth eaten question would your life be better with a instr without him enl Ryou know the Wyttwer. Letters to Ann lenders should be addressed to her it . Bos 11562, Chicago ill 606t 1-0562. C creators Syndicate _ u thanks but no thanks to invitations from dear Abby How does one politely but firmly refuse invitations friends neighbors and former co workers to spend thanksgiving and a a Christmas Day at their Homes filled with All their relatives. I am a retired single woman with no relatives 4n the area and i done to mind spending those holidays alone. I am not anti social but 1 do not enjoy pretending to have a Good time in a House full of strangers. I much prefer driving to a font restaurant where i can order whatever i want. If the weather is bad and driving is risky i prefer to stay Home and. Try my Haid at preparing some fancy gourmet dish. A a thank you but in be made other plans does not satisfy Well meaning friends neighbors and former coworkers. They insist on knowing what a the plans Are. When they learn i plan to be atone they protest a ooh you can t do that a you re coming to our House Quot then a big hassle usually follows. Dear Abby Abby i done to want to offend them but must lie and make up a Story to silence them thanks but no thanks dear thanks you need not lie neither Are you obligated to answer every question you Are asked. Respond Good hum redly and simply with a i a ppr Date your invitation but please Don t worry about me a i have other plans. Can we just leave it at that Quot dear Abby _ can you please Tell me Why otherwise polite and Well mannered people fail to answer personal letters none of my friends would Ever dream of slamming a hone Down in someone s ear or a door in someone Sace. Yet they Lack the common Courtesy it takes to answer a letter. A Hurt in Euclid Ohio dear Hurt done to take it personally. Not everyone is As Cathu is Astle about writing letters As you and i Are. Utters Tor this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris Iii. 81054,. C Universal press Syndicate a a \ a t a the stars and stripes. 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