European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 4, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 24 the stars and stripes saturday december 4,1993 ignore mom s dear Ann Landers Quot dysfunctional Mother in Vancouver Quot who decided on a years Quot vacation Quot from her children is sure to strike some sympathetic chords _ Quot dysfunctional Quot was angry because her youngest son refused to join the others in putting Money aside for an emergency medical fund in the event she became disabled or seriously ill. 1 have seven children and was widowed when the youngest was 2 and the oldest was if. I kept things going financially and held myself together emotionally. It Ann Landers was not easy. Today the chit a a a i. Dren Are All healthy and happily married and have Good jobs. Do they appreciate the sacrifices i made ror them of course not. The Only time i hear from any of them is when they want something. 1 never remarried and dated Only a half dozen times in the past 30 years but that was my Choice. I m alone now and could use some moral support or an invitation to dinner once in a while. Perhaps i made my life look too easy or maybe i be been too self sufficient. In any event Quot Vancouver Quot is right about the a me  our children wont have a clue about what we Are going through until they get a lot older and have to Cope with the Quot now Genera Tion Quot themselves. Voice of experience in Setauket . Dear set there a a great Deal of truth in what you be written but sweeping generalizations Are always dangerous. Not All grown children Are self absorbed and inattentive unless they want something. Some Are very thoughtful and Loving. My mall bears this out As Well shocked to be on dear add i recently turned 30, a fact that i Don t care to Adver Tise for reasons of my own. Last week i was dismayed when a. Former student who is a Salesman for a local funeral company called to Tell me my name was on his list of people Quot Over 43&Quot to Contact. He wanted to sell me the serv ices of the funeral company today i received an invitation to join a group of Quot Golden age Quot people. Once again i was shocked where Are All these people getting information about me and what can one do to Stop it shocked in Ventura Calif. Dear shocked Welcome to the world of the Middle aged. Mall and phone solicitations aimed at dear Abby As my own personal observation. Dear Ann Landers / you recently printed a letter asking businesses to give sex convicts a break. Well Annex cons Are not the Only people that employers routinely discriminate against. Welfare mothers can to get a Job either. I get been told by interviewers Quot we Don t hire welfare . A i am a single Mother with four years of College and 10 years of computer secretarial and bookkeeping experience. I am on welfare. One of the first questions i am asked in an interview is Quot How Are you supporting yourself now Quot when i admit that i am a single Mother of welfare the interview is quickly terminated. Often i am subjected to insulting remarks about Lazy Good for nothing welfare leeches who Are bleeding this country to death and what a tax Burden they Are to honest hardworking people. President Clinton s welfare Reform program will require that welfare mothers go to work. Great id love to have a Job but so far no one will hire me. So what do i do now a Casper Wyo. Dear Wyoming now you make an Effort to and  a College graduate with 10 years experience can to land a Job. When you apply do you look your very Best Are you pleasant and courteous to the interviewer do you come across As self assured and competent do you give the impression that you can get along with co Wor cers and be an asset to the company do you have Good references. Go Back to your most recent turndown and ask the person who interviewed you for some very Trank answers and some advice on How to land a Job. Good Luck a letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chat Cago Iii. 60611-0562. C creators synd Cata a. Age lists specific age groups become More numerous As you grow older. Age demographics and target markets Are All part of the direct marketing strategy in the computer age. How did you get on Quot Golden age lists any number of ways stores companies or organizations often sell their mailing lists with your name and personal inform nation on them unless you Tell them specifically not to do so. Government agencies also maintain information that is a matter of Public record. Or you could be listed in a professional journal or school publication that indicates your age group. To have your name deleted from these lists write to mall preference service direct marketing association . Box 9008, Farmingdale . 11735. There is no charge for this service. Latte Fri Tor this column should be add Rotsos to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris Iii. 61054. 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