European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 10, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse Page 26 the stars and stripes Friday december 10,1003 in. A. I a it it makes him see red dear Ann Landers i would like to explain Why a woman might cause a Man to by come physically violent. I am in no Way de fending such actions Ann. On the contrary i am a Nice Guy who treats women with respect. Recently however i had an experience that made me understand quite clearly Why a Man might hit a woman. Recently a girl hacked out of a Date we had planned a week in Advance. I had been looking Forward to this Date eagerly and called during the week to confirm the time and place. I set aside the evening saved the Money i needed cleaned out my car and even got some advice from my female friends to make sure the evening was i wore Good clothes and tried to look my Best. I showed up at the place we agreed to meet Quot Sally was 20 minutes late and then told me our Date was off because she already had a Boyfriend and imagine Why she had agreed to go out with me. If a Guy pulled that stunt he would never live it Down. Such humiliation could result in violence. Perhaps if More women were decent and fair violent crimes against women be so prevalent. White Flag in Rochester . Ann Landers i dear a at my with Send. My nerves arc All in pieces. A four years ago after being widowed i married a minister who is the father of three adult children. A live out of state. The youngest daughter is 48 years old and she told me right off she did no to want to be referred to As my stepdaughter. She goes out of her Way to be rude and does things out of pure spite. For her dads Sake i Nave ignored them As much As possible As he is 83 years old and in poor health. It All came to a head while 1 was in the Hospital in july for gallbladder surgery. This daughter came to visit her dad and instead of fixing him nourishing meals she took it upon herself to scrape All the Wall a dear Abby per off my living room Walls and paint them an u Green a convincing her dad it would be a Quot surprised Tor me. It certainly was my own daughter happened by the Hospital and told me about it. I was so upset 1 Baa a severe setback. My Quot stepdaughter Quot fled into the night. She did no to wait until i was out of the Hospital. My husband can to see what s wrong with a person enter quibble dear Roch what Sally did to you was Lousy but your letter bothered me. You describe yourself As a Quot Nice Guy who treats women with respect Quot but you also said you can. Understand How some Guys might be pushed Over the Edge. There is never any justifiable reason for a Man to get violent with a woman. Never because you Quot understand Quot How a Man could be pushed to the outer limits it suggests to me that you Are perfectly capable of doing just that. My advice is be careful you sound like a potential batterer to me. Dear Ann Landers in be been married for 28 years to a Man who is Good to me and does no to drink or smoke. I know in a Lucky because i love him and always have. But there is one problem that has made me unhappy All these years. I feel sexually and emotionally deprived. Quot Bill never uves me any affection a no kisses or hugs and very ittle sex. He sometimes will rub my Back but that a about All. He does no to want me to touch him and says he has no need for any affection. 1 Mary be Ontario dear Mary v a a Man who grows up in a family of ice cubes is uncomfortable around affection. He just can to give it. It is not in his nature. If you plan to stay married to Bui you should accept this because the spots on that Leopard will never change. Letters to Ann Lender should be addressed to her at . Box 11662, Chicago Iii. 60611-0562 Ltd creators Syndicate a vicious Streak ing another persons Home and doing this without the owners permission. Not Only that he mailed her a Large sum of Money As a reimbursement. What an unbecoming Way for a minister of the gospel to act. Am 1 wrong to think a wife s needs and wishes come before those of a 48-year-old woman who acts like a 7-year-old?i desperately need someone to talk this Over with. As of right now i done to want to disgrace my husband before the Church but i can to take any More from this daughter. I have thought of pressing charges. Feel free to publish this letter if you wish a but done to use my name god bless. A 78-year-old Reader somewhere in Tennessee dear Reader it was inconsiderate of your stepdaughter to do the painting without consulting you at least on the color. She was wrong. However give her the Benefit of the doubt and assume that she was honestly trying to help you. It seems to me that your Choice is Clear. Since the Quot damage Quot has already been done either hire a professional Painter to remedy the situation or cover the Wall with pictures and joke about the situation to your friends id do the former latter Tor this column should a addressed to dear Abby a . Box 447. Mount Morris Iii. 61054. C Universal press Syndicate today a crossword across Uncle. 1 spider 41 Kachina Many a logo worshipper 4 its further 42 women West than Only affair 46 author a Basilica a area 12 m a camera 13 Bard s River 14 Stream 15 form of Bowling 17 showman Billy 16 Shadow 10 Clint Eastwood was one 20 improve 22 pull an All Nighter. 24 unadorned 26 Zero 26 Luau gunk 30 harbours 31 Caesar s 4132 Tchaikovsky classic 34 exceeded 65 35 unctuous 36 free for All 37 splintered 40 the Man from Ambler 47 piece of work 46 farm. 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