European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 20, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 26 the stars and stripes wednesday april 20,1994 Tel he True Ove con be Fht if Blind today s crossword Ann Landers dear Ann Landers my husband and i have a wonderful and fulfilling relationship. We have a lot in common we Don t drink or do drugs and All is Well except for our lovemaking. Since Day one my husband has had a sexual Appe Tite that is insatiable. It s Ever morning every night and All weekend Long. Sex is on his mind constantly and i am exhausted. If i say i m not in the mood or i just Don t feel up to it he becomes angry accuses me of rejecting him and insists that i ten him what is wrong. When Isay nothing is wrong he does t believe me. I have suggested that we see a Counselor but he says what for we Don t have a  claims his sexual appetite is Normal and he loves me so much he wants me All the time. Perhaps i should be thankful that my husband finds me so desirable but i simply Don t have As big a appetite for sex As he does and he is wearing me out. Sometimes he forces himself on me arid keeps Assur ing me that i will enjoy it after a while this makes me angry arid i feel violated. If i m not into it from the beginning it never gets any better. We have two Young energetic children. I hold a full time Job and have a House to keep up meals to prepare and laundry to do. None of this makes a bit of differ ence to him he wants me to Stop whatever i am doing and accommodate him. I am at my wit s end arid need your help. \  / a Debbie in California / sound dear Abby i am a widow with two children. I live in a townhouse with neighbors on both sides. A new family mom dad and two children moved in next door. The first night i was awakened about 1 . By a horrible noise that turned put to be both Parent snoring. I spoke to them about this nicely and asked if there was something they could do about it. They assured me that since they worked different shifts it would t be a problem again. Well it is a problem. Separately their snoring is bad enough but now i am faced with it 24 hours a Day. Except for a few afternoon and Early evening hours someone is Al ways snoring. I spoke to them about it again and suggested a sleep clinic at a local Hospital. They suggested i move my bedroom or use earplugs. I can t use earplugs because i have two Young children. Quibble dear Abby dear Debbie there is something at work Here besides your Hus band s love for Youv a Man who really loves a woman does not Force himself on her and Tell her she will enjoy it after a  your husband needs to find out where All this sexual aggressiveness is coming from and How to get it under control. Insist that he see a Counselor with you. If he refuses go yourself. Many wives accommodate their husbands occasionally even though they Don t feel like it but what you have been experiencing sounds very close to marital rape and you should not have to put up with it. Dear Ann Landers several years ago i received a Telephone Call from a Man who claimed he was my half brother. He explained that my father who was married at the time had had an affair with his Mother. She was very Young naive and unable to keep the child. She gave him up for adoption a few Days after he was born and his adoptive parents never told him that he was not their biological son. He found out about his adoption when looking through some family papers after his adoptive father died. His natural Mother is dead and so Are my parents i have absolutely no desire to meet this person. I have a Happy life with my wife and children and am be ginning to resent his Ever increasing phone Calls and letters. Please Tell me what you think. Nervous in Newark. Dear Newark v., a. / a. I think you have the right to be left alone. The next time this intruder phones Tell him so in no Uncertain terms. Return his letters unopened marked address be  and get an unlisted Telephone number. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago Iii. 60611-0562. C creators Syndicate muffle Ohof Wyo i have spoken with these neighbors about it and spoken to my landlord. I am desperate for a Good night s sleep. What should i do. Knoxville dear Knoxville evidently your neighbors Are not aware that loud snoring is often a symptom of serious possibly Termi Nal health problems. Tell them that you have just Learned that snoring May indicate a health condition which could result in a heart attack or other disorder and suggest that they reconsider evaluation at a sleep disorder clinic. If your neighbors still refuse then it s up to you to protect yourself from the disturbance. Consult a con tractor or an Interior designer about soundproofing the Wall Between the bedrooms. Or you might consider leaving a radio on or using a machine that makes White noise sounds of the Ocean rain or a Stream to mask the snoring. Letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris ii 61054.c Universal press Syndicate across Bunch a kick 40 curse lock poet out of you 41 Sandusky a 58 prepared 5 dry to a vintner8 neighbor of Nigeria 12"corny. As ,.-.kansas" 13 greek consonant 14 Jea Valjean s creator15 Marx Bro county43 de plume45 alaskan fleet47 Equine noises51 the time machine people52 Mary Mccarthy novel thers move54 007s 17 descended 18 honor19 mad 21 goddess lat 22 t. 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