European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 25, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse Monday april 25, 1994 the stars and stripes Page 21 mama s boys Aren t so bad after All Ann Landers dear Ann Landers your column on mama s boys got the wheels in my head turning. Why does society attach such importance to whether a Man chooses to continue to live at Home with his Mother what about women it Semsok for a woman to live at Home As Long As she feels like it. No body bats an Eye. In fact she is looked upon As the Good daughter. Meanwhile we be rate the Good son and Call him a mama s my own father lived at Home until he married at the age of 30. He served in world War ii and sent Money Home to his family. When he married he continued to visit his parents every weekend. I cherish the memories of dinners at my grandparents House. Dad recently retired at the age of 74.1 love and respect both my parents and if i could turn the clock Back i would live at Home a lot longer. I left at. Age 24. My husband has never been close to his Mother. When she Calls on the phone he is too Busy to speak with her. He is rude and insensitive. I do my Best to cover up for him but i any sure she must feel Hurt. Please Tell me How to Deal with this. Anonymous Usa Dearisa it is not easy to be the Buffer Between a husband and a Parent he dislikes. The recipe is As follows a few ounces of tact plus a Pound of arranging get Ogeth ers that will not involve one on one visiting. Adult children who Are still nursing childhood hurts to the extent that they cannot treat their parents civilly should get counselling. The anger that seethes below the surface can be very self destructive. Dear Ann Landers i love your column. You be Given me great advice and some Good laughs Over the years and cow i Nee some guidance. I am struggling in a very unhappy marriage. My Hus band has a Rotten temper and is emotionally abusive pretend to be Happy for my children s sate but inside i am always sad. My children know what thir father dislike because he has Hurt them and they have seen him Hurt others. He goes crazy Over the slightest thing. Divorce is out for a Long list of reasons counselling will not help because this Man is so Slick he can give an Academy award performance and con Vince the Counselor that i am neurotic and crazy and be deserves a medal for putting up with Roe i feel trapped and helpless is there any Way i can have a decent life Quicksand in Texas dear Texas not without some Good professional a Troia Yea Are not going to change your Kos Aad so Yum must change the Way Yon react to his Rotten be Friar. Since you Are determined to keep Yoer marriage together too need to get Confidence strength and a sold sense of direction. It is essential thai Yon get Excel Asti con surfing. Good Luck. Dear Ann Landers a few years ago my husband heard on an carry morning radio show that to Ward off cramps in a foot or toe one should take the thumb and first Finger and gently squeeze the area just below the nose. This May have to be repeated for a very bad cramp or a Charley horse but it realty does work. Please pass this along to your readers. No name just Elmhurst ill dear Elmi i printed that item several years ago and Ray readers Are still thanking me. I appreciate tote oppor Beaity to repeat this useful information. Letters to Ann Landers shout a a addressed to he at pjs. Bos it ssh. Chi Cago. 60611-0562. Beef Lefor gave More than he knew dear Abby i need your help to thank a stranger who performed an act of kindness i will remember for the rest of my life. On Friday March 11,1 flew from Fresno calif., to Pullman wash., to be inter viewed for admission into Washington state University s veterinary school. I had made reservations for a rental car and Motel room in Advance so that i could go directly to my Motel room to prepare for my inter View which was to be two hours later. After Landing i went to the rental car Agency s desk in tending to pay for the car Ren Tal with my credit card. I had mailed my monthly credit card payment five Days earlier. Quibble dear Abby to my disbelief my credit card transaction was re fused and i had no other form of payment with me. I was also planning to pay for my Motel room who my credit card so there i was stranded at the Airport. I went immediately to a pay phone and called my Roommate Back in Fresno crying hysterically. While i was on the phone a gentleman came of next to me. I assumed he needed to use the a boat. He tapped me on the shoulder handed me a $100 bib an disappeared. I want him to know that i was accepted at Washington state s veterinary school so not Only did this Anonymous Benefactor make it possible for me to arrive on time for Ray interview he made it possible for me to get into veterinary so fool Abby i have no other Way of thanking him except through Yoer column. Amy Mulrooney letters to the column Shouff pc addressed to dear Ampf a . Bex 7, mount Morris i 6t c54. Edit he will coms what did 00 a five Rev to spa he if you Bim Idit he come to throngs itout5c05tmerif. 1. Build what am who toll to Days a
