European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 27, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 22 the stars and stripes wednesday april 27,1994 should patient give therapist favors today s crossword dear Ann Landers i would appreciate your comments on the following questions. As you might have suspected they have been a Bone of Contention among some friends whose opinions i value 1. Is it professionally Correct for a patient to lend a substantial amount of Money to his or her psychiatrist 2. Is it professionally Correct for a patient to lend an expensive piece of equipment a com Puter to a therapist for an extended time 3. Is it professionally Correct for a patient to serve As a baby Sitter for her therapist sign me v inquisitive in Cambridge mass. Dear mass the answer to ail three questions is an unqualified  favors can be a Subtle form of seduction. Dear Ann Landers i work in a professional office for a team of dentists. I am proud of the Job i do for them. Something is both ering me however and it has taken several months to get up the courage to write to you Many of the patients and agencies we work with bring or Send gifts of fruit baskets or boxes of Candy especially during the Holiday season. All of these gifts Are addressed to or. So and so and staff.". Not once has such a gift been shared with the staff or for that matter even offered to us for sampling. All Ann Landers these Lovely treats Are taken Home by the doctors. Since these gifts Are specifically labelled and staff am i being Petty to feel miffed Kenosha wis. Dear Kenosha i would say your Bosses Are ungracious. Or to put it candidly downright cheap. I have a suggestion that May or May not work but it is certainty Worth a try. Hang on to this column. On dec 10, have copies made and place one on the desk of each dentist it May be be pulling Teeth to get these dudes to shakeup but you have nothing to lose by trying. Dear Ann Landers my father is an abusive alcoholic who enjoys nothing More than fighting with the family. He loves to get drunk and will Start an argument Over  All alcoholics he refuses to admit he has a prob Lem family get together Are a Nightmare. He has ruined every thanksgiving Christmas and new years plus several birthdays in  is no getting through to this Man and we can no longer tolerate his verbal abuse. My sister and i would love to disown him but we know it s not possible. You frequently mention alcoholics Anonymous. If we Call them will they come and get him  dad s daughters in no alcoholics Anonymous docs not come and get people. Your father will have to go to them. Meanwhile Check out the nearest aka Hon chapter for yourselves. You will find a great Deal of emotional support there. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago Iii. 60611-0562. C creators Syndicate visitors can War out dear Abby having been a patient in various hospitals i have Learned that very few people know How to visit the sick and Comfort them. They usually come at the wrong time and sit in positions that make it awkward Tor the patient to see them. Some visitors will recall having known someone who had exactly what the patient has and after suffering for a Long time finally died. Please provide some sensible guidelines. The Rev. Robert m. Loris St. Joseph Parish . Dear Rev. Loris e no one including relatives should visit a Hospital patient without telephoning first to inquire if the patient can receive visitors. E visiting hours should be respected and there should be a limited number of visitors in the patient s room at one time. E visitors should keep their stay Brief and their dear Abby voices Low. Some visitors feel that because they have travelled a great distance they Are entitled to stay for several hours or longer. Fifteen or 20 minutes should be the limit. Some hospitals have signs saying no  children include babes in arms toddlers and children under 10. Respect the rules. The Hospital is teeming with germs that Small children have trouble fighting. E do not eat the patient s meals. The nurses must Check to see How much the patient has eaten when the trays arc returned to the Kitchen. And never bring a patient anything to eat or drink without first Clearing it with a nurse. If you feel you cannot show up empty handed bring a Large Box of Candy for the nurses and Kitchen help. Visitors should Wash their hands after using the bathroom. The Mayo clinic has a slogan the 10 greatest carriers of germs Are the  it s the Best Way to prevent infection. Visitors should keep their conversation cheerful. Letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris 111.61054.-,  c Universal press Syndicate 15 Early four s hour part 19 becomes. On 20nyse counter. 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