European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - May 26, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Thursday. May 1994 the stars and strips Page 19 Mother in Law agonies Over thefts today a crossword dear Ann Landers my son has been married for two years and lives nearly. Before he married he and his Fiancee Quot Dotty Quot spent weekends at my Mountain Retreat and in my City apartment. Each time they were in one of my rest dances i found personal items missing. I spoke to my son about it but he refused to believe that Dotty would take anything that did no to belong to her. After they married i no longer stored my off season clothes at the Mountain Retreat because i did no to Trust her. About that time i became aware that several pieces of jewelry which i kept in my City apartment disappeared after my son and Dotty visited. Some of the items that were taken were family heirlooms and had sentimental value. A i finally bought a Chest with a lock on it for the remaining pieces of jewelry but i Felt angry and violated. Since my son has children and i am very close to them As Well As to him i would never consider severing my relationship with Dotty. She has been a guest in the Homes of other family members hut i  dare inquire of them if they Ever found that items were missing after her visits. I realize my daughter in Law has an illness but it  our relationship. I am also concerned that one Day she will be caught shoplifting which would be a huge embarrassment for All of us. A. V a a a a. A please Tell me what to do. Troubled in . Dear troubled if you Are absolutely certain Dotty is guilty you must Tell her immediately that you have been aware of her Ann Landers stealing Tor quite some time anti that she should seek professional help. Of course not All thieves arc kleptomaniac. Some steal because they Sec something they want and believe they can get away with it. In any event for the Good of All concerned you must Tell this Young woman at once that you have been aware of her proclivity for quite some time. Let us Hope it will create sufficient humiliation to cause her to get counselling and Stop altogether. Dear Ann Lander sin a recent column you referred to a Quot lady of the evening Quot As a Hooker. I wonder if you know How that name came about. Here s the background which May interest your readers Ann. A fighting Joe Quot Hooker a Union general during the civil War had an insatiable appetite for nocturnal female companionship and often had women visit his Headquarters a a. Place it was said that a no gentleman cared to go and no lady could go.�?�. After the War Nalany Union veterans travelled to the Colorado Gold arid Silver mines to seek their fortunes. It was not surprising that damsels who had an Eye for Commerce followed. These enterprising females were soon called a Hook  / a Quot a _ v if you think in a making this up Check your civil War history books no signature please. Just Call me a a Buff in fort Dodge dear Buff obviously there arc certain things they done to teach in school. Thanks for the of cat history lesson. Letters to Arm Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562. Chicago 111.60611-0562. A a a. C Crealor Syndicate. Tell him which Way the smoke blows dear Abby. Knowing myself and the Loving stable family i grew up in i never thought id be twice divorced at 45, but that a another letter. My present predicament is that i have met a wonderful Man who wants to Many me. I would marry him in a minute but there a a problem he a a heavy smoker. He has asthma and bronchitis and when he lights up he coughs which makes me cringe. He keeps saying he a going to quit but he a still smoking. Abby i feel As though he Skilling himself and there a nothing i can do about it. Should i continue to see him and Hope hell quit smoking or should i go on like this and fall a More deeply in love with him Only to watch him die an agonizing death from lung cancer. He a 54. So far in a quibble dear Abby distancing myself from him until i know what to do. Please help me. 1 a perplexed Down South dear perplexed first not everybody who smokes gets lung cancer and Dies an agonizing death. You could and perhaps should Tell this wonderful Man that you be been distancing yourself from him because you fear that his smoking might shorten his life and the secondhand smoke could have a negative Ini pact on your own health. Done to give him an ultimatum give him an incentive. Tell him that the american cancer society offers Stop smoking programs and there a also smoke Enders and smokers Anonymous. It could be the beginning of something wonderful for both of you. Please write again and let me know what happens. Good Luck. 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