European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - June 1, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 24 the stabs and stripes wednesday june 1, 1994 sex wife still pulling husband s strings today a crossword dear Ann Landers when i met a a Jim 29 years ago he had just broken Jup with  a month later Carol told him she was Quot pregnant. Jim was furious but agreed to marry her. The marriage lasted 10 years. When Carol had their second child after agreeing not to have any More kids Jim divorced her. A by that time i was also divorced with three children. Jim and i married a year later. It Wasny to easy raising each other s children Carob did everything possible to make us miserable but we managed to survive. Jim and i decided not to have children together. Our five kids Are All grown now and things should be great but they Aren t. Lately Jim seems depressed and says he feels guilty about leaving his children when they were Young he told me he was More of a father to my kids than to his own and now his children Are cold and Distant. I explained that the reason they Don t come around much anymore is they Tare grown up and have lives of their own. Carol is now using Jim a guilt to her advantage. She says the kids were cheated during their childhood by having to spend holidays and birthdays with Only one Parent. She insists they must now have All their family gatherings together and Jim has agreed. I told Jim this was not acceptable and that Carol and the kids should not come before our relationship. Jim said a she is the Mother of my children and you can never be More important than  i  believe my eats. This is the Man who told me he wished head never . In a not asking Ann Landers him to forget about the children Ann. But i expect to come first. Who a right to Mother of the wrong children dear Mother you say the kids arc grown in that Case i would Hope to at Jim would put you first. How sad that there should Abc such Competition. I urge you two to get joint counselling before Carol succeeds in breaking up your marriage. Dear Ann Landers being a single woman i cringe whenever i hear someone say a since you re not married and have no one to answer to would you mind a these words Are usually the prelude to the following a a could you drive me 90 Miles to the courthouse we could have lunch afterwards.  that be fun a or a a in a having surgery and need to be close to the Hospital for a week or so. Could you put me up at your place a and finally at 1 a.m., a i know its late to be phoning but in a depressed and need someone to talk  we singles Are. Willing to help out occasionally but too Many of us Are imposed on shamelessly and we Are sick of it. Our married friends and relatives think that just because we done to have a husband and children we have loads of spare time and extra Money will you please set them straight Ann maybe when they see it in you column  believe it. Catherine in California dear. Inc people both single and married who Are constantly being imposed on need to ask themselves Why. Is the need to be liked or loved so Strong that you re willing to Cave in to every request no matter How Quot nervy think about it loners to Ann Landers should to addressed of her at . Box 11562. Chicago. 11.60611-0562,. A Quot a c creators synd Leale a a Don t make doctors the bad Guys dear Abby a i have been a paediatric nurse for 13 years. I love children and most aspects of my Job. The hardest part is when i draw blood Start ivs give injections or perform other painful procedures on my patients. I work very hard to explain things fully at the child a level of understanding. In a honest about the pain and always assure them that its not because they did anything wrong. Yesterday i witnessed an incident in the waiting room that is Alt too Typ ical. A giggling 2-year-old ran Down the Hall away from her father. He chased after her picked her up none too gently and said in an irritated voice a if you done to behave in i have the doctor give you a shot a a frightened look came Over the Little girls face and she began to cry. Abby please advise your readers with Young children never to use threats of shots As a form of discipline. Paediatric nurse in san Francisco quibble dear Abby dear nurse thank you Tor reminding parents never to make a doctor or nurse an a a enemy to be feared. That brings to mind a letter i ran several years ago which was written by a policeman. Read on dear Abby i am a uniformed police officer with the Indianapolis police department and you would be amazed at the number of people who threaten their children with what a policeman will do to them if they done to behave. On one occasion 1 was having lunch at a snack bar when a Young Mother pointed her Finger at me and loudly told her child a if you done to eat your vegetables in a going to have that policeman arrest you and take you to jail a Abby i am sick and tired of that line. Officer Bill Weber Indianapolis dear officer Bill most people know that the majority of police officers arc a Good Guys who daily risk life and limb.  Elliis column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Monis Fli. 61054. -. 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