European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - July 8, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse Page 22 the stars and stripes Friday july 8,1994 unload that anger before if explodes dear Ann Landers 1 need your help. I just found out that my 29-year-old daughter was molested by my father when she was very Young. In my wildest dreams i could not imagine this happening. I confronted my father amp to is now 74. He did not try to lie his Way out of it or make excuses. He admitted the abuse and begged me to forgive him. But Ann i just can to. I am simply crushed. My daughter says she has forgiven grandpa As part of her Healing process and she does no to want me to Tell her grandmother. My Mother is not Well and in a afraid this news would just about kill her i have talked to my Brothers about it and we All agree that mom should not be told. The problem is i can to let go of this hideous Nightmare. When i m around my parents i try my Best to pretend that everything is the same As it always was but its impossible. I find myself pulling away from my fathers touch and i turn my head away when he Speaks to me. Meanwhile i am scared to death that mom will sense something is wrong. In a building up a lot of hostility toward my father and am tempted to turn him in to the police but if i did this my Mother would find out and it would tear our family apart. I cannot believe that this terrible thing happened to my baby girl and that i was so naive i did no to see what was going on. I hate How i feel but i would feel a whole lot worse if the news got out and my Mother heard about it. She is a wonderful woman and i done to want to Hurt her. Please Tell me what to do. A desperate in . Ann Landers dear . You say your daughter is 29 and you just Learned that she was sexually molested by her Grandfather when she was very Young. It is imperative that you get some counselling at once. I sense your High state of anxiety and am worried that you will make yourself sick if you done to unload your anger. Meanwhile if there arc any great grandchildren around do not leave them alone with grandpa. Paedophilia is not something that is outgrown. Please make an appointment immediately. Dear Ann Landers you probably think you have heard every problem in the world by now. Well i have a new one for you. I live in Schenectady n.y., and i buy the daily Gazette strictly for your column. Almost every Day my Boss comes by my desk and picks up my paper. He says Quot Well what did Annie have to say today anything Juicy Quot then he starts to read your column out loud which i hate because i want to enjoy it with my lunch. This morning was the last Straw. After he finished Reading your column he said a this one i have to show my he then Tore your column right out of the paper. I had to go across the Street to buy another one. In a really ticked off with that Guy and id like to Tell him off but i done to dare. Any suggestions still burning dear . Prevention is far better than trying to find a cure. Keep your paper Well ditched and out of sight. Letters to Ann Landers should he addressed to her at . To 11562. Chicago til. 60611-0562 \ a c creators Syndicate a a a. Dear Abby i am a 79-year-old widow i have been alone for 17 years with no love or help from anyone. I was doing All right and was fairly Content until i fell ill and was hospitalized. This led to my retirement at age 75. Now i feel like a discarded Puppy left out on a Road All by myself i am under a doctors care but pills can to cure my loneliness and yearning for love. I could move to the state where my daughter arid her family live but in a sure they re too Busy to spend much time with me so i would have to live alone. Besides i was born and raised Here Najj have some Good friends and neighbors. Here at least i have someone to talk with. If i moved i would be with strangers. I done to need a nursing Home yet Abby i have called around trying to be put in touch with a homeless person who would a ? red ate a Home a but no Luck am not a complainer and try to put on a Happy face for my friends. Where can i find dear Abby a Good Christian person who needs a Home and a Good Friend please done to use my name. 1 done to want sympathy a just someone to help arid love. I can to stand this Lone Linss much longer. Lonely in Bloomington ill. Ofcar lonely you appear to be a Loving and generous person but taking a stranger into your Home out of need for companionship and love is extremely risky. Since you have Good friends and neighbors and have enjoyed your Independence for 17 years please consider discussing your feelings of depression and loneliness with your doctor. Also a Call to your clergy person or local senior citizens Center might help resolve your problem. A Housemate might provide companionship but a love Quot requires time to cultivate and grow. You May not need a nursing Home yet hut a retirement facility would relieve you of housekeeping and cooking responsibilities a and at the same time provide you with As much company As you desire. Letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . To 447, mount Morris 111.61054 a a a a a c Universal press Syndicate. 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