European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - October 10, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 the stars and stripes monday october 10,1994 Bride right to bar dear Ann Landers As a recovering alcoholic in be been a a dry for seven years fee that your advice to a nervous in mass.,�?� who did no to want her alcoholic father at her wedding was More than a Little off the Mark. The Bride to be does not suffer from a Lack of understanding and compassion As you said. She just Plain suffers. Her father is an alcoholic but he obviously does no to think so or he would be seeking help. If she invites him to her wedding and he becomes raucous and or ill which will almost certainly Hap Ann Landers Een the Only memory she will slave of that Day will be her stumbling puking father being a a 7 escorted by her humiliated Mother out of the room. He has already caused her and the rest of her family enough grief. The wedding is hers and illness or not her father should not be permitted to turn it into an evening of horrible memories. Six months before my daughters wedding she informed me that i was an alcoholic and that she would no longer permit me to be a part of her life. After two More months of denial i decided to sober up. I went to alcoholics Anonymous a something i should have done years before and on her wedding Day i walked her Down the aisle. It was the proudest moment of my lifer it May be too late for that Bride s father to attend her wedding i Hope a nervous in  told him he Wasny to Welcome but if he is Lucky and smart he will get some help in time to play with his grandchildren and nothing in the world beats that. Lucky in Miami dear Miami. In be received a ton of letters that were critical of my response and almost All of them were from women who had alcoholic fathers. 1 guess they know that territory better than i do so in a reversing my decision. If dad is a loud disgusting drunk done to let him ruin your Day. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago. Iii. 60611-0562. \. A a a �.���. A a. A c creators Syndicate a a sprinkler system can foil fire deaths dear Abby dear Abby it is a National disgrace that the United states has the highest fire death rate of any country in the industrialized world. In recent months we have All heard or read about devastating fire deaths. A num bar of firefighters have been killed this year and recently eight children under 14, who were left Home alone in Illinois died in a House fire. As president of the International association of fire chiefs i am asking your readers to think seriously about fire prevention. Every october during fire prevention week we encourage the Public to change the batteries in their smoke detectors a change your clock change your Battery. A but you can do More to protect your family and Home. I urge your readers to consider installing residential fire sprinklers. There has never been a multiple loss of life from fire or smoke in a building equipped with a sprinkler system. For less than what Hom cown cars pay to install carpeting they can install an instant. Firefighting system that could save children adults senior citizens a a even the family pet. Part of the Cost can be recouped through reduced Homeowner insurance premiums but More important sprinklers Are the Best life insurance policy Money can buy it is a Small Price to pay to protect the lives of loved ones. Abby your readers should also be encouraged to stay in motels and hotels equipped with sprinkler systems. For readers who May think that sprinkler systems Are conspicuous and ugly or fear they May go off accidentally and ruin their Homes the newer systems Are quibble inconspicuous and the Chance of a sprinkler going off accidentally is Only one in 16 million individuals and families must take responsibility for their own lives. Installing a sprinkler system is the Best Way of fulfilling that responsibility. A chief Tom Siegfried dear chief Siegfried a the fact that there has never been a multiple loss of life from fire in a building with a sprinkler system is one that every family should take into consideration. Dear Abby concerning the grandmother who resented Peoples asking How old she is i too am a grandmother and i also look younger than i am but when people ask me How old i am i give them my sweetest smile and. Say a a in Mold enough to know the score and Young enough to enjoy the  a Mary in Houston dear Abby regarding people who ask How old i am i have a ready answer. I add five years to my age. Then they say a really you look great for your age a i smile and say a thank  Sidney Konigsburg Hollywood Fla. . In a Only 76.dear Abby 1 have the perfect answer to a How old Are you a being 61,1 reply a i am celebrating the 40th anniversary of my 21st  it gives the questioner something to think about a and also answers a dumb question. Dee nope in Denver looters Lor this column should to addressed to dear Abb at . Box 447, mount Morris lit. 61054. C univ Oral press Syndicate today a crossword across 11mpair-men s Ahsu. Mates. 8 quatrain rhyme scheme 12 Fine 13 Bottom Tine 14 Ward of tvs a Sisters Quot 15 water. Melon residue 16 visor 10 foot part 20 its Worth looking into 21 Pelvic. Bones 23 chum 24 a a mouse 20 Spanish surrealist 31 fabulous flyer 32 its All part of the act 34 author Kesey 35 aardvarks lunch 37 Alert watchfulness 39 neither rep. 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