European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 30, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse C Page 24 the stars and stripes wednesday november 30,1994 i move might Moke in Low too close dear Ann Landers i am a 38-year-old woman who has been married for 20 years to Bob is 50 and is now terminally ill. Bob and i have stayed very close to his 80-year-old widowed Mother. Mary is fairly healthy and lives alone. For my entire marriage Mary has been one of my Best friends. Despite our age difference we do things together such As shop and go to the theater. Al though we re very close i am glad that Mary lives Iri her own cozy Home rather than with us. Now that Bob has Only a few months to live Mary wants to move into our House so she can spend More time with him. Recently she floated the idea that we could continue to live to Gether after Bob Dies. I m really ambivalent about this Ann. I want my relation ship with Mary to be close but i m not sure i want her living Here. Also it occurred to me that i might want to Start dating again Down the Road and if Mary moves in a relationship with another Man might be awkward. Part of me says i should let Mary move in but another part of me says it could sow seeds of disaster what should i do perplexed in the Midwest dear Midwest once you let Mary move in the Odds Are Good that she will be under your roof permanently. My advice is to be attentive and Loving to the dear woman but Don t invite her to live with you even temporarily. Too often familiarity Breeds contempt. Dear Ann Landers there is a certain person i la Call her Debbie who used to be a Friend but is now a Thorn in my Side. Debbie is very self entered and immature she is Ann Landers also rather dense i be told her Over and Over that i Don t have time to talk to her every Day but she persists. Debbie Calls me constantly and at the most inconvenient times. I have trouble getting her off the phone and if i hang up she Calls Back every 15 minutes. Debbie showed up Early in the morning on my son s hectic first Day of school. She kept interrupting my morning preparation to Tell me about her problems. Just As the school bus was arriving she said the bus can wait. Come look at my new every time i hear her voice i cringe. I need to get Debbie put of my life but i Don t know How to do it. I figured if anyone could help me it would be you. How ? cantle rude enough in new York dear new York i m going to bore millions of readers by repeating Landers Law of survival for the umpteenth time no one can take advantage of you without your permission. If Debbie continues to be a Telephone pest say sorry i m running. I Call you when i then hang up and Don t Call her Back. Dear Ann Landers i recently underwent five hours of no life threatening plastic surgery. The next Day i was told by a nurse that my husband who i thought was pacing the Hall outside the operating room had left the Hospital to go to a movie. I m Hurt to think that he was out enjoying himself while 1 was under the knife for several hours. What do you think about a husband who would exhibit such in sensitive behaviour v Kendall Park , Dearns a vv7 v even no life threatening surgery has risks. It would t have killed your husband to have bought a few magazines and stuck around. Now dear kiss and make up. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago. Iii. 60611-0562. A creators Syndicate Stop trying to Hite age Fly Una 7f dear Abby a recent column had several letters from women age 60 and Over who had cute responses to questions regarding their age. I think these women Are part of the problem. Our culture extends neither status nor credit to its aging population. Today there Are More of us than Ever before and we Are striving to age with Grace and dignity but there seems to be a consistent Subtle and insidious message that it is not of to get older. For exam Plev try to buy a birthday card that does t Referd to the loss of memory sight body functions or body parts that no longer work properly let s fight Back let s establish models for aging with Grace and dignity and change our quibble dear Abby own negative views on aging and the attitude of the younger generation. There Are cultures that respect their older members for their Wisdom and knowledge. I worked hard to get where i am today. I bad lessons to learn and Many to relearn and i am still learning. That s what life is All about in t it i have much to share. Tell your age. Be proud of it. Show others that you have earned the Wisdom and balance to enjoy life even More. Joan Belshin 62 years old Sacramento Calif. . One of the Cleverest birthday cards i have seen is by Seinfeld. It reads you arc Lucky to be growing older. Now if you want a cookie you can have a Coo Kie. Dear Joan perhaps you tuned in late. 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