European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 01, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse Thursday december 1, 1994 a dear Ann Landers i just finished Reading the letter from finder sweepers who wondered if she was crazy because she cried at every Little thing. The woman sounds like my soul mate. I cry when i read a sad Story. I cry when i read a Happy Story i cried for Days after my Gerbil died. I even cried when my neighbor s cat had Kittens. I cry at movies weddings Fune rals christenings and auctions. I can drench two handkerchiefs when i look at wedding pictures of people i barely know. I. Guess you might say i re Spond to other people s emotions More than i should. But i consider my ability to cry a gift rather than a curse. It lets people know i care. Please Tell finders to be proud of her tears. \ it shows she is a sensitive compassionate person. The world could use More like her. Miss Niagara in the Midwest dear Niagara i agree. Please keep Reading for More on this subject dear Ann Landers i d like to respond to the woman who cries All the time. I am also a crier. I weep at movies and when i watch soap operas. I cry when friends or relatives Are overcome with Joy. The american Flag can bring a Lump to my Throat. I May be some sort of emotional Freak but when my husband died after 56 years of marriage i did t shed a Cher Ann Landers tear at the did All my crying in private 1 i made up my mind not to cry publicly because i knew if i broke Down i would be unable to regain my1 composure and would fall apart. _ at the memorial service 1 sat Between my two sons each of the boys held one of my hands. If i had cried i would have had to let go to Yipe my eyes so i was determined to control myself. Maybe the woman who could t cry at her Best Friend s funeral was fighting her tears As i once did. South Jersey . \. I received several letters from readers who said they too could not cry in the presence of others. One of the Saddest letters was from a Man who had that very problem and explained Why. When he was growing up he was beaten unmercifully by his alcoholic father. Determined not to give his father the satisfaction of seeing his pain he Learned How to endure the beatings without so much As a whimper. I now that i am a grown Man he wrote "1 am totally incapable of showing any sign of pain or sorrow. I am certain that Many people think i m a cold fish but they have no idea what goes on v he signed his letter you can t judge a Book by its letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562 Chi Cago Iii. 60611-0532a /. C ". Parental love is Blind of Adoja flans v ". -.--. To. _. Dear Abby i want to share a really neat retort to an out of Lin question i witnessed years ago my Friend Janet and i married shipmates in the Navy. She and her Hubby adopted two babies then the had two of their own. They were determined to keep the adoptions from their children to avoid sibling rivalry. The adoptions were entered into the husband s record which is supposed to be kept confidential. The Navy gave us a huge Welcome Home party and we were seated with a Large group when a woman came Rushing to our table and blurted out say Janet i just heard that two of your kids Are adopted which ones Are they Janet looked her straight in the Eye and calmly replied i Haven t the faintest dear Abby still laughing dear still laughing what a sensitive Loving retort this apparently occurred during world War ii when adopted children were Seldom told that they were adopted. Today fortunately most parents Are More open and very Early on they Tell their adopted children that they were chosen giving them the Assurance that they arc special. Dear Abby i wrote As soon As i read your column about what nurses should Call elderly people in a nursing Home As a sign of respect they Are trained to Cal the men Amis Ter and the women miss or mrs. So and so i am in training now to become a nursing assistant and i was told to Call the residents whatever the want to be called. In training in Minnesota dear in training i agree with your instructors. Recently i received a letter from a 94-year-old resident in a nursing Home who resented being called she said i asked the staff to please Call me Medna it makes me feel Young again letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at Box 447mquntmorris, Iii. 61054. 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