European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 7, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Today a crossword dear Ann Landers v after four sons my husband and i got the daughter we longed for. A a Melinda was the can do no wrong Apple of her daddy a Eye. V shortly before her 17th birthday Melinda and her 21-year-old Boyfriend a like a came to Tell us she was pregnant and they wanted to get married. My husband literally threw Ike out of the House and forbade Melinda to see him again. A a. \ the next Day we made an appointment with a doctor to have a the problem taken care of. The Day before the appointment Melinda climbed out her bedroom window. And ran off with Ike. We received a card two weeks later telling us that they had gone to another state and gotten married. There was no return address. My husband was furious. He would not allow anyone to mention her name in our Home. He told All family members and friends that he no longer had a daughter Only four sons. We received a birth announcement when Melinda a daughter was born a no return address. The postmark Ann Landers was from another state. Three years later another birth announcement came a telling us they had a son. Again no address. Out of the Blue we received a note from Melinda last week. She wants us to come for a visit. A a it a time the kids met their grandparents a she wrote. My husband refuses to go and says if i go he wont be Here when i get Back. We Are now sleeping in separate bedrooms and he Hasni to spoken to me for four Days. Our sons refuse to take sides. 1 bought my airline tickets this morning. All i want from you Ann is a hand to hold when i Board the plane. I need someone to Tell me i am doing the right thing. Please give me some courage. A grandmother in fort Wayne dear fort Wayne Here a my hand to hold when you Board the plane. I believe you Are doing the right thing. I Pray that your husband will extend his hand when you return and that he will open his heart and Home to the new Little family. Too Many people waste too Many years Locking each other out of their lives. Time is such a precious commo duty. Lost years can never be recalled. This lesson too often is Learned the hard Way. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chicago Iii. 60611-0562 c creators Syndicate. Lieutenant gets insight info himself dear Abby i am a male lieutenant now stationed in Bavaria. My Mother recently visited me Here. When 1 was growing up she used to say a you Are just like your father a during her visit she told me that after 29 years of a very Rocky marriage she and my father Are finally divorcing a and she trashed dad something terrible. Her verbal attacks on my father angered me and i had trouble controlling myself. I never understood Why i reacted so strongly until i read a letter in your column written by a divorce lawyer. The letter explained that children Are half of each Parent and that when one Parent Speaks ill of the other the child feels that half of him is bad. Although. I  sex Plain it at the time my mothers attacks on my father Felt like attacks on me. A thank you Abby for explaining Why i Felt so guilty and defensive. R a vindicated in Bavaria dear Abby a regarding a recent letter about a Gal who did no to know if it was proper to attend her 10-year reunion because she did t graduate. Here a my 2 cents Worth a i am on the committee for our 10-year reunion which is scheduled for next year. We will Welcome everyone who was part of our class. High school is not Only about getting the degree a its about a lot of years quibble dear Abby of hard work and building friendships. Some people moved away or did no to graduate for other reasons. But that does no to mean they should be excluded simply because they did no to walk Down the aisle at commencement. V a a a a fell a a nameless that if the reunion committee thinks its a a improper for her to attend her class reunion she can come to ours v port Angeles High school class of 1985, Kirkland Wash dear readers v Wall Street journal reporter Joyce Cohen wrote a piece about identical twins that 1 found fascinating. For openers Lisa and Debbie Canz of Manhattan n.y., decided to capitalize on Peoples fascination with twins so they Are opening a bar and restaurant that will be staffed by two dozen sets of identical twins a wearing identical clothes and working identical hours. The name of the restaurant a twins a what else. Where did they find All these twins it was easy a they advertised in the newspaper. I predict double trouble. If the service is not up to snuff the customers will not know which twin to Chew out. Or one twin will have served table 3 a and the other twin will pick up the tip. If they re still in business when i get to Manhattan i am going to Book a table for two and bring my twin sister a a a a a a a a a / 1  a letters Lor this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris 111.61054. A a. A c univ Oral press Syndicate. Across 1 bankroll 4 Peninsula St 7 chromosome passenger 8 Demon ton Derby occurrence ,10 chill enhancement it More fiery 13 environmentalist motto 16 Quot diamonds forever Quot 17 Reddish mounts18 Cambridge sch. 19 Over so percent 20 diners card 21 becomes grizzled 23 a Wendy Mon Quot Alleg Orist 28 primary 26 bit Down 1 meander 2 mrs. Lindbergh 3 undo 4lookofdis pleasure 5 Wood strips 6 Quot the thin Many dog 7 Para her Nalla 6 defraud 9 by dist a Protection 10�?~be prepared Quot org 12 jockeys solution time 22 mint. Topping. 27 former 28 Keaton or Sawyer 30 ovine remark 33 opt to Row the boat instead 36 hidden Marksman 37 philos rival 38 aphorism 39 Cones optic mates 40 ufos per sonnet 41 Begley or. And or. 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