European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 04, 1995, Darmstadt, Hesse Wednesday january 4, 1995 life is Worth More than by Bucks the stars and stripes today s crossword Ann Landers dear Ann Landers this is in response to Burnt out who worked killer hours never saw his family and was hanging on by his fingernails. I was in the same boat putting in 60 hours a week taking work Home bypassing Days off and neglecting my family All for $55,000 a year. I had worked with the same for tune 500 company for Over 18 years. It was the Only Job i d Ever had and i was afraid to quit i had received Many awards and bonuses but i was exhausted overweight depressed and spending Over $12,000 a year on therapy. One Day i heard a phrase that changed my life fear will not harm you but the fear of failure that made me think seriously about quitting my Job. Finally i did. I am now making less than half of what i used to make but i feel like a different person. I put in 40 hours a week and never take work Home my weekends Are mine to do with As i please and i am becoming re acquainted with my wife and family. I am no longer in therapy because the depression has left me. " " it was a big adjustment and there Are times i miss the big Bucks but i know this was the right decision for me. Ann Tell your readers that Stop and smell the roses May be just a cliche but i now know what those roses smell like and it s heaven. Somewhere in Ohio dear Ohio what you did took a tremendous amount of courage. I la bet your wife was behind you 100 percent and she does t mind living on a lot less. She now has a Hus band who is healthier and happier and the kids have a dad. Too often big Money in t Worth what you have to do to get it dear Ann Landers i have been dating Lola for four years i have been married twice. My second wife committed suicide after a Long illness. Lola has been married once and her husband also committed suicide. Our Mutual grief forged a Bond Between us. Lola seems to have quite a lot of Money a Nice Home and car. She inherited most of this from her father i Don t have much in the Way of worldly goods be cause of my divorce and my second wife s illness. Lola talks about us getting married but she does t want to Tell me anything about her finances. She says the Money she and her first husband made together and what she inherited from her father is hers and whatever she and i would make together would be ours. I say when you marry you become equal partners. Everything should be put in one pot and divided evenly. What do you say Ann Nebraska Reader dear Nebraska i say you re a couple bricks Short of a Load. What makes you think you should share 50-50 in Lola s As sets if you and Lota decide to marry whatever she had before the marriage belongs to her. The same goes for you and your assets. Meanwhile you two should sit Down with a financial adviser if you decide to tie the knot. Your marriage will stand a better Chance if there is a Clear understanding about Money matters before you become or. And mrs. Loners to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago,w.60ei1-p562. _. C creators Syndicate _ _ neighbor s 4-year-old is a handful dear Abby my husband and i have been married for seven years. No children yet but we re working on we live in an apartment building. A Young woman i la Call her Nellie lives across the Hall. Nellie is five months preg Nant and has a 4-year-old step son Roger who is a handful Roger gets whatever he wants by screaming and kicking. He kicks the furniture his Mother and he has kicked me a couple of times. Nellie had a doctor s appoint ment yesterday and she asked me if i would keep Roger for a couple of hours. What could i say Well Nellie was gone for 4v. Hours and Roger Tore quibble dear Abby up my apartment and did everything he could think of to irritate me. When his Mother came Back she asked me How Roger behaved and i told her just Abby i never want to keep this child again even for an hour. I know Nellie being pregnant and All will ask me to keep him again. She has no family in this City. How can i get out of it had it in Baltimore dear had it Tell her the truth Roger is too much for you to handle and you do not want the responsibility of looking after him. You did her no favor by telling her he was Well be have in her absence. She needs to know not Only for her Sake but for Roger s that the boy needs to be disciplined. It would be a kindness to her and Roger. Letters Tor this column should to addressed to dear Abby at . Box 44, mount Morris iil61054. C Universal press Syndicate across1 weapon of terrorism4 Dallas sen. 7 Cheshire Counte nance8 feeds the hogs 10 change often 11 Trojan stain by achilles13 miss Mattel s problem?18 by. 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